18/06/2025
I don’t know about y’all, but when you become a parent, there’s this deep desire to show your children the world—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too. You want to give them an understanding that maybe you didn’t have growing up.
Looking back, I realize that even if someone had tried to give me that kind of wisdom, especially in my teenage years, I probably wouldn’t have been able to receive it. Teenagers think they know everything (Lord knows I did, lol).
Right now, my daughter is going through some things. She doesn’t quite have a grip on her emotions. She wants to please everyone and gets overwhelmed when things don’t go her way or when she feels rejected. I’ve tried to guide her, to help her see that everything starts from within. When she was younger, she didn’t care what people thought—she was free, fearless, and full of light.
The anxiety and confusion she feels now? It’s the weight of the world pressing down, shaping her into someone else’s idea of who she should be. But if our youth could just hold onto who they were before the world told them who to become—imagine the power in that.
If I could give my daughter one gift, it would be the unshakable understanding of who she truly is. I’ll never stop trying to help her discover that, because as her mother, that’s one of the most important jobs I have.
And to anyone else out there struggling with identity—know this: the answers aren’t out there in the world. They’re within you. No one else can define you but you.