16/07/2021
16/7/21: LONG HAIR & HAIR CLIP.
YTD I received an email from his teacher that she has spoken to him about cutting his hair. Frankly, I was told by his teacher to cut his hair since weeks back. But I'm not bothered. Either is he. We've asked several times if he wants to cut his hair to be cooler/neater etc. He's just not bothered and is ok with tying up his hair or putting a hair clip at home. There was one occasion where his teacher came out during pick up time and said to me about cutting his hair. I told her he doesn't want to. She went on teasing him about tying his hair like a girl, he said he doesn't want to. At that point of time, I tried to persuade him to cut his hair bcos I'm worried that his teachers will continue to tease him in school. He doesn't seem to be enthusiastic abt cutting his hair. So we left it status cold. After YTD's email, I asked him again YTD about cutting hair and he was ok until we reached the QB House. He didn't want to be alone inside, I asked him several times if he's willing to cut. He doesn't want to. So we left and went home. During bath time I asked him to tell me honestly if he actually wants or don't want. He answered me he really didn't want to. I told him ok and it's HIS CHOICE to make. However, he may have to be responsible for any possible consequences too. I told him that his teachers or friends may disturb him for keeping long hair and asked how will he handle them. His response surprised me. He said that he will not be bothered by what they say. He will not listen and will just walk away. I'm so proud of him. Even when a family member teases him about not liking his long hair and he didn't look nice. He didn't bothered to respond to him. I was the one who could not stand it and rebut by saying which boy hasn't kept long hair in their younger days? The whole family kept their mouth shut. I hope to say that toddlers have their own feelings and rights to decide what they want with their lives too. After that day, I asked him during bedtime if he was hurt by what was being said to him. He said he was sad. I told him that he can always speak up about his feelings. Tell so-and-so that what he/she said hurt his feelings.
