The Tough Therapist

21/08/2025

When you’re on your healing journey but still secretly planning comebacks in the shower… 🫠😂

It’s okay, growth is messy. Just don’t text your “final words” draft—you’re not that healed yet.

18/08/2025

Dealing with emotionally insecure people can feel like walking on eggshells—never knowing what reaction you’ll get or how much of yourself you’ll have to shrink just to keep the peace. Their constant need for reassurance, validation, or control can drain your energy and leave you feeling like you’re carrying the weight of their emotions on top of your own.

Remember, it’s not your responsibility to fix or manage someone else’s insecurities. Protecting your peace means recognizing when their patterns are taking too much from you, and setting boundaries that keep you whole. Your emotional well-being is just as important as theirs—don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

10/08/2025

The monster you saw at the end of the relationship is who they really are. It’s tempting to convince yourself that the person you loved changed, that the darkness you witnessed was just a momentary lapse or a result of stress, hardship, or misunderstanding. We hold onto hope because love makes us vulnerable and willing to believe in the best versions of others. But the painful reality is that the monster—the coldness, the cruelty, the selfishness—you encountered when things fell apart was always there, lurking beneath the surface.

Sometimes, people hide their true nature behind masks of charm, kindness, and affection, carefully crafting a version of themselves that is acceptable, lovable, even admirable. But those masks don’t last forever. Over time, the cracks begin to show, and eventually, the real person emerges, raw and unfiltered. What you saw in those final moments wasn’t a new or sudden transformation; it was the unveiling of who they really are, stripped of pretense and falsehood.

Understanding this is both heartbreaking and liberating. Heartbreaking because it shatters the illusion of who you thought they were and the dreams you had with them. But liberating because it frees you from the endless cycle of denial, self-blame, and hope that kept you tied to someone who was never truly capable of loving you the way you deserved. Recognizing the monster for what it is allows you to stop making excuses, to reclaim your power, and to start the process of healing.

Remember, the monster you saw at the end was never a surprise. It was the truth waiting patiently beneath the surface, waiting for the mask to slip. And now that you see it clearly, you have the strength to walk away, heal, and eventually find someone whose true self matches the love and kindness they show you from beginning to end.

09/08/2025

09/08/2025

The WORST feeling for a woman is when she tries to have a conversation with a man about his BEHAVIOR that hurts her every day, but instead of listening, he gets ANGRY and turns the situation around on her.
It’s a feeling that cuts deep—a mix of frustration, sadness, and emotional abandonment. She gathers the courage to speak up, not to argue, not to attack, but because she loves him and wants to make things better. She speaks from a place of pain and hope, hoping that maybe this time, he will really hear her, that he will understand the weight she’s been silently carrying.

But instead of leaning in, he raises his defenses. Instead of acknowledging her feelings, he deflects. He gets loud, or cold, or sarcastic. He shifts the blame onto her, twisting her concerns into accusations against her character, her tone, her timing. Suddenly, the conversation becomes about how she brought it up instead of what she brought up. And just like that, her pain gets buried under his anger.

And it’s not just the argument that hurts—it’s the message underneath it all: Your feelings don’t matter. Your pain is inconvenient. Your voice is too much. That moment becomes a silent wound, another scar added to the emotional pile she’s been trying so hard to suppress for the sake of peace. But peace without understanding isn’t peace—it’s silence. It’s pretending. It’s walking on eggshells while slowly losing pieces of herself just to keep things from falling apart.

What’s worse is that after enough of these moments, she starts to question herself. “Maybe I am too sensitive.” “Maybe I should just let it go.” “Maybe it’s not a big deal.” But deep down, she knows it is. She knows what respect, empathy, and love should feel like—and this isn’t it.

When a woman reaches out to address something that hurts her, it’s a gift. It’s her saying, I still care enough to fix this. It’s a chance for connection, healing, and growth. But when that moment is met with anger or blame, it pushes her further away. Not just emotionally—but spiritually. Because nothing is more damaging to a woman’s spirit than constantly being made to feel wrong for wanting to be treated right.

06/08/2025

If they sneeze and you say “bless you” from three zip codes away…
If you’re exhausted but still helping them solve problems they created…
If your favorite hobby is fixing people who didn’t ask to be fixed…

Congratulations — you may be Codependent of the Year. 🏆
Take a bow… and then take a break. 😂

31/07/2025

Stop chasing people.
Stop bending over backwards.
This ain’t yoga. 🧘‍♀️

Set the boundary. Then hold it.
If they can’t handle it… they can downward dog themselves right out of your life. ✌️

30/07/2025

I show up fully, love deeply, and move with intention. If that’s not enough for you, I’m not the one lacking. 💅🏽

25/07/2025

Every dream, every goal, every version of the life you want will require something from you. Comfort. Time. Ego. Distractions. Maybe even people. You can't get to the next level by staying the same or clinging to what's easy. Growth demands trade-offs. The question is—are you willing to give up what’s holding you back to gain what you truly want?

Stop treating your goals like an option. They’re not. They’re the assignment. Either you rise to meet them or you watch them slip through your fingers while you make excuses. Choose your sacrifice wisely.

24/07/2025

You haven’t wasted your time.
You’ve been observing.
You’ve been learning.
You’ve been growing in ways you didn’t even realize.
Every delay, detour, and disappointment has been shaping you—guiding you toward your true path.
Trust the process. 🌱✨

21/07/2025

When they talk behind your back... let them.
When they underestimate you... let them.
When they roll their eyes, gossip, and project their insecurities... LET. THEM.

Because while they’re busy being bothered... you’re busy building. 💅✨