Time to Radiate

25/02/2021

For a long time, I talked a lot in this space about wellness, body image and acceptance, and eating disorder recovery. It was a bit of a journal of my own experience and recovery process. While I’m still very much “in recovery,” because I’ve found it’s a lifelong process, it honestly doesn’t take up the same headspace as it once did. That’s the result of time and hard work, to be sure, but also the privilege of treatment, therapy, and an incredible support system.

I feel very, very fortunate. I recognize and appreciate that for what it is; in many ways it’s given me my life back and afforded me the ability to take a step away from that universe. That, as it turns out, was also crucial to recovery. It’s not something I talk about or consciously submerse myself in every day, and sometimes I lose sight of how prevalent it all is - again, a privilege. This is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, and it’s a time I always find myself a little more reflective of something that once dictated so much of my life and impacts millions of others - often in subtle, insidious ways.

There are a lot of complicated nuances around treatment and recovery that others speak to much more accurately and eloquently than I can. I recognize that this journey looks different for everyone; recovery is not linear for an individual, and it’s certainly not linear as a whole. But awareness and conversation are crucially important. While I may not be as vocal about it as I once was and may eventually be again, I do think it’s important to add as many voices as possible this week. If you are struggling, or if you know someone who is, please remember that you are not alone. No matter who you are, what you look like, what your history is - you and your recovery matter. There is a way out, and there is life on the other side that is so much better than that disease will allow you to imagine. If you need support or resources or even just a sounding board, I’m here.
You matter. ♥️

11/10/2020

Every day should be . Because you fight battles that others may never see. Because you have courage beyond measure. Because maybe you’ve been in the dark, and you’ve found your way back to the light. Because you are irreplaceable, and a miracle, and the world needs what you’ve got.

12/08/2020

I really appreciated this reminder and thought I would pass it on, because I suspect I’m not alone in these feelings during such a complex season. I’ve noticed some old familiar guilt for not being more “productive” in recent months. It’s incredible and inspiring to see the way people are stepping up to the daily challenge of essential work, or embracing this time of slowing down in order to create some really meaningful projects. But it doesn’t look the same for everyone, and that’s okay too. Sometimes we need to remember that what we are doing is ENOUGH (keeping a toddler alive, growing a human and working on a degree, in this particular season of mine). Literally just surviving right now? That is enough. Embrace what is working for you in this season, and remember that it’s all temporary.
🎨: Morgan Harper Nichols

10/05/2020

As with most things, Mari Andrew sums up the sentiment beautifully. Wishing you love and peace this Mother’s Day! 🌷

01/05/2020

May is - more than ever, your mental health matters.

01/05/2020

Mental health matters 🙌

12/04/2020

“Take a deep breath, ignore the deafening noise, and think deeply about what you want to put back into your life. This is our chance to define a new version of normal, a rare and truly sacred (yes, sacred) opportunity to get rid of the bu****it and to only bring back what works for us, what makes our lives richer, what makes our kids happier, what makes us truly proud.”

A fascinating read - something to ponder for sure.

You are not crazy, my friends

13/01/2020

Take care of yourself this week. ✌️

🎨: harmonywillowart

31/12/2019

✌️2019. It has been years since I’ve made specific resolutions or goals for the new year, and I love it that way. I wasn’t sure if I was going to acknowledge the approaching one with a specific word or energy, but “peace” felt good. Here’s to plenty of that in the coming year: peace in the uncertainty. Peace in the overwhelm. Peace in all the breathtakingly beautiful stuff too. We’ll be alright. ✌️

02/12/2019

Worth the reminder as we head into this final month of the decade. 🤯

28/11/2019

Thankful for YOU and your piece in this big puzzle. Cheers to a delicious and relaxing day. 🧡

26/11/2019

A little PSA I share every year as we approach Thanksgiving and all the holiday things. It’s around this time of the season that we start hearing those calorie shaming comments - you know, the whole “REMEMBER! The average American eats X calories at Thanksgiving dinner. That DOESN’T EVEN INCLUDE dessert.” Followed by the requisite “better make time for the gym on Friday!” To do what? Pay penance on the treadmill? Burn off X calories in one session? (It doesn’t work that way, in case you were considering it.) Please do yourself a favor - don’t. We’ve normalized it because our country has a totally skewed perception of what’s healthy. Don’t perpetuate it. There’s no need to "make up for" one day of food. There’s no need to feel SHAME for enjoying food. There’s no need to make comments about food being good or bad. (It isn’t either one - it’s food.) And remember, there’s no need to listen to anyone else do it, either. Making comments about gluttony isn’t what bonds and connects us at the holidays. It’s probably not politics or religion either, but please, please - leave food/body shaming out of your festivities. You’re better off taking in the food than the toxicity, I promise. 😘

14/11/2019

It doesn’t cost a thing, but the impact is priceless.

01/11/2019

Standing, quite literally, in that space between seasons.

Big mood right now: “instead of managing your time, try managing your energy.”

As we venture into the final weeks of this decade (what in the actual, right?) I find myself thinking a lot about time. How quickly it passes, sure, but also how I’m using it and why. Challenging myself to let go and trust the timing of it all. Recommitting to using it, and my energy, with intention. It’s a delicate balance, isn’t it, to trust the timing of your life while taking conscious steps in the direction you want to go. I’d love to know - where are you focusing your time and energy in November? Here’s to finding our footing in this busy season.

31/10/2019

Quite possibly the only mask that will see any action on this snowy Halloween. Here’s to treating yourself to a little self care!

10/10/2019

I don’t know who needs to see this today, but it’s a reminder I’ve needed many times. On and every day, remember that everyone has mental health. And sometimes it’s a struggle. Mental illness is not a character flaw, and it certainly doesn’t make you a failure. It means you fight battles that others may never see. It means you have courage beyond measure. It means that you’ve been in the dark, and you’ve found your way back to the light. You are irreplaceable, and a miracle, and the world needs what you’ve got.

09/10/2019

I wrote a lot about how I manage anxiety in . This book is about creating useful tools for moving through the world we are living in right now. If this helps you, I hope you will rip this page out and keep it in your wallet or write it on your mirror- if you know me then you know my books are not books they are friends, there are no rules for how they are supposed to exist in your universe. This book is a collection of words I actively use to help ground me when what’s happening around me makes me feel frenzied and overwhelmed. I hope they can show up for you in this way too. I love you.

01/10/2019

Every year. (Even if this one is starting out a little more like July.) I am always happy to welcome October, and this year especially I’m ready for a new season. Maybe it’s the 9 in me, but after some challenges and a lot of change this summer, it’s time for fresh perspective, new goals and a lot of cozy. What are you looking forward to this month? And just for kicks, what’s your enneagram?