Send Family Magic

06/02/2026

Mums on tour..

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My poor children having a PDA mum who just will not act her age.

06/02/2026

Transport rant.. Are the Gov ensuring safe school transport?

Weird lighting.

I’m off out.. walking due to said pot hole.. wish me luck. 🍀

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06/02/2026

Let’s talk school transport…

Devon County Council, Cornwall Live Devon Live

I’m tagging my LA, as this is where it’s easiest for me to have a face to face impact on this issue..

But this is national and requires scrutiny..
Bridget Phillipson

😳What’s REALLY going on?????😳

So, as you do when SEND and EHCPs are your special interest..

🕵️‍♂️I’m currently trying to work out whether nationally, and for specific LAs, if the stated cost of transport LAs tell parents and the SENDIST is necessary..

Is then in fact what the LA transport teams ACTUALLY end up paying taxi and bus companies..

Because I am not sure those figures match..

And, worse than that…

I also think it’s highly likely that inaccurate funding and incompetent data sharing by LAs in fact is leaving SEND children at extreme risk..

I mean.. how many kids need a 1:1 but instead are expected to get on a bus with lots of other kids, or in a taxi alone, with just a driver???

As someone who has worked as a contact supervisor and respite carer, I cannot tell you how many times I’ve had to safely pull over to support dysregulated children, who should never have been in a car without an additional trained adult..

In fact, over the last 10yrs, I cannot explain how often I have been told by worried parents that a child’s driver doesn’t understand the child’s education or health needs..

And not ‘nice to know’ or unnecessary info either.. things like.. the child has epilepsy or has external dysregulation that could appear aggressive..

And in many of said cases, ultimately it has resulted in children having barriers to attending JUST based on transport not being safe....

This is completely obvious..

For example, if the LA state they will need to fund a 1:1 or even 2:1, at appeal or on an EHCP, but instead the child is sent a bus with over 7 other kids and only 1 PA..

How can the LA not predict the outcome?
The child won’t be able to travel…

This situation is not hard to investigate either, because in many cases the cost of transportation is very transparent..

If the LA have supplied the provision and funding amounts when they sent costings to Tribunal.. then that’s the amount that must be paid..

But is it?

And if it’s not…

Who is to blame, because we all know transport and the 0-25 (EHCP teams) are separate..

So… Tell me if you feel able..

🕵️‍♂️Do you know what your home-school transport provider is paid?

🕵️‍♂️Does funding and support during travel match what the LA state is required for your child?

🕵️‍♂️Have you ever asked questions or complained?

🕵️‍♂️If so what’s the response?

🕵️‍♂️Has complaining ever resulted in immediate or delayed but clearly connected safeguarding or welfare checks, or false accusations against you?

I’m just an interested SEND advocate, driven by justice, who’s sat here wondering…

“Where is all the allocated money going if not to the transport companies?”

“Have LAs been exaggerating costs to win at tribunal?”

“Are Education and Transport communicating, and making sure the EHCP provisions, particularly high risk SEND or health needs are shared with drivers and PAs?”

“If not, do those drivers and PAs really understand the risk?”

And, as Gov are using the SEND budgets and bail-outs to confirm through the white paper that extreme debts mean dramatic change is necessary..

“Are figures re debt based on what Local authorities are actually paying in transport costs or are the LAs figures using instead what they tell Judges and panels are necessary whilst they try to argue a setting is an unreasonable cost to the public purse..”

Because…

Imagine, if an LAs says travel is £25k a year, because of distance and the need for additional 1:1 adults… and they add that figure onto costings for specialist schools to try to win at appeal, claiming parental preference is an unreasonable costs to the public purse..

But, THEN, that same LA, when the parent wins, they of a sudden send a transport provider who they pay only £175 a day for 7 kids.. (instead of the £25k a year for each of them..)..

Yeah.. well.. there’s something not OK about that.. and we all need to understand why the figures don’t add up..

I’m just not sure who is overseeing this stuff right now, when SEND families seem to be blamed for so much overspending..

Whilst also appearing to be given pretty much F-all in reality..

06/02/2026

Wow. Yummy cake at my meeting today..

Supporting a family face to face as one of my limited case management clients at the moment..

It’s so positive using my experience as a victim of stalking, and what I understand about the impact of barriers to tech access, to support others suffering similar harm..

Being able to help this client with their EHCP appeal and their complaints around transport I know will make such a difference.

Today is a positive day..

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06/02/2026

I understand this content isn’t EHCP related, but it is about SEND..

Having a recognised diagnosis of Autism or ADHD is becoming so much more important in the current climate..

Not just for Neurodivergent children and young people, who fall victim to the education system..

But also for all Neurodivergent humans who are victims of crime or criminalised for their own actions..

As always, if our profiles are not viewed as neurodivergent, we are often misdiagnosed or viewed solely through mental health lens..

Yesterday I was noted to require support for CPTSD and not having been known to mental health prior to this on any scale I looked up the symptoms..

Whilst I am relieved that I can be supported in the correct way now, and am being offered interventions to help me through this difficult time..

I cannot help but share how concerning I find it professionally, to know how many other neurodivergent and neurotypical victims of crime, are being viewed under a medical framework of CPTSD and personality disorders which note symptoms to include;

-Impulsivity/ self-destructive behavior
-Lack of emotional control
-Outbursts of rage or anger
-Sudden mood swings
-Detachment from oneself or others
-Disassociation with oneself
-Rapid or frequent changes to identity
-Memory troubles
-Obsessive thoughts about revenge on the abuser(s)

(Limited list taken from Google, there are many others..)

The concern for me, and I do not believe this is ‘hypervigilence’ is that when those victims then have to fight so hard to be believed, gather their own evidence, beg police to record and investigate their crimes..

And then finally stand up in court against their perpetrators, with a Judge, Jury or legal team, who are allowed to use a medical framework to assess them, their behaviour and their truth..

Even in some cases, accessing their therapy records.. (although this has now thankfully been legally recognised as negative https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-rules-on-police-requesting-counselling-notes-come-into-force--2)

No wonder the conviction rate for R**e, Sexual Violence and Domestic abuse is so devastatingly low..

Yeah.. that’s one of today’s..

Victims to be given more privacy with new rules blocking police from requesting counselling notes during investigations unless in exceptional circumstances.

05/02/2026

Honestly.. enough is enough from this force.
What a sad story this is to see today, so relatable and such avoidable harm if protection was in place for victims of VAWG in Devon.

Maybe Devon & Cornwall Police professional standards and legal team will also finally find time to speak to me about my complaints, litigation and the gross misconduct I have reported in regards to failure to record Sexual violence for over a year, failure to investigate stalking and technology enabled abuse, and more historic failure to protect me and my kids from domestic violence and psychological harm..

The police here seem determined to leave women and children to suffer, and it’s a culture, not a mistake or lack of resources.

I couldn’t be more ashamed having supported the force by designing their victim website or working as a lived experience advisor.

After recent years, the IOPC need to step in and remove every police person who prioritises the protection of abusers over the safety of their victims.

Looking back, having been told I must prepare my attacker in 2016 with an outfit for his golf session the following day, after he was arrested for threatening to kill me whilst strangling me, leaving me black and blue, from punches and kicks..

I tried to say I needed to care for my kids who watched it all..

I tried to say I didn’t feel able to even look at his things.. I needed safety from the trauma..

But I was reprimanded and belittled.. by a female officer no less.

I cannot stand by whilst more women die and children are left without mothers.

💕 Change must come 💕

Police are being investigated after a woman was murdered by her estranged husband😓💔.

Claire Chick, 48, was killed by Paul Butler in January 2025, despite previously contacting Devon and Cornwall Police multiple times about his threatening behaviour. Following her death, it was revealed that Claire had been in contact with the police force on a number of occasions before her murder.

The force referred itself to the Independent Office of Police Conduct to investigate the prior contact and to consider "the actions and decisions taken by Devon and Cornwall Police and examining whether relevant policies and procedures were followed."

Now, it has been confirmed that the IOPC has served a number of police officers, staff and a retired officer with "misconduct and gross misconduct notices" as part of their investigation.

Butler pleaded guilty to murder at Plymouth Crown Court on March 18, 2025. He was sentenced to life imprisonment with a minimum term of 27 years on April 25.

During the investigation, it emerged that Claire had first made contact with the police on September 19, 2024, saying she was worried about her ex's erratic behaviour. The court heard that around this time, Butler flew to Kuala Lumpar but wrote to her saying he wanted half the house and half her pension.

On September 26, 2024, Claire gave a statement to police - the first of six in all - expressing her fear about his behaviour 😳. Her next statement to police was on October 14, 2024 and the third was on October 16 where she said she felt "stupid and embarrassed" at the situation, that it was affecting her work, she was avoiding going out and her friends were saying she was struggling to cope."💔

05/02/2026

One rule for NHS, LA, Social Care, Police etc..
Another rule for us..

They make a mistake.. no problem..
We make one.. it’s a witch hunt..

04/02/2026

We had a rubbish experience the other day so I want to reiterate to everyone that it’s totally ok for you to give these people the finger 🖕!

At some point in your life,
someone will look at your PDA child
and decide with absolutely no qualification,
no understanding,
no lived experience
that their struggles exist because you failed.

They’ll call it bad parenting, Lack of boundaries.
Too soft.
Too much love.
Not enough discipline.

They’ll ignore the nervous system.
The trauma response.
The constant state of threat your child lives in.

They’ll ignore the fact that you have bent yourself into knots trying to keep your child safe in a world that demands obedience over wellbeing.

And in that moment,
it is vital, so vital- that you tell them to f**k off.

Because PDA is not caused by parenting.
It is not fixed by punishment.
And it is not proof of failure.

Your child is not broken,
You are not the problem.
And you do not owe anyone your silence.

Protect your child,
Protect yourself.
Let the ignorant opinions bounce.

They were never qualified to judge you anyway.
Michaela
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04/02/2026

Running club..



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04/02/2026

04/02/2026

This is a tip you never knew you needed, probably won’t work for you, but hey ho..

Thought I’d share 😂

If you need any EHCP or SEND tips, I’m much better at those, so email me;

Hello@sendfamilymagic.zohodesk.eu