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08/12/2025

What’s in your panic plan?

Today was a day when it all felt s**te.. and then I launched my panic plan..

I opened my toolbox

I felt dysregulated, discombobulated and disoriented this morning..

Now I don’t..

Do you have a Panic Plan?
Like a recipe for dealing with disaster?

For Austistic ADHD folk disaster can seem really different to those who are neurotypical.

The things that harm us, the ways we cope and our ability to seek support..

They are all different to the typical.

We do not have the luxury of guidebooks or following the norm..

That’s why we need to be our own hero’s, and save that fu***ng day..

💚💚💚

07/12/2025

Pretty obvious how s**t I was at sussing people out..

Even from a young age, my difficulties with humans was pretty clear.

This guy in the pics is my wonderful dad..

I went to school with my mum at the time, she was my teacher and my dad was drafted in to help at the Xmas fair.

I was meant to be in Reception but went to her yr6 class, because the other teachers found me a bit ‘much’ to manage.

I remember being terrified of Santa that day.

The staff must have been shocked at my extreme fear I imagine..

I had no idea it was my dad, who I lived with and who cared for me every day.

I think people just thought I had a wild imagination and some kind of major attachment to my mum.

🤪😂🤪

I wasn’t diagnosed Autistic ADHD till 38yrs old, only after realising my son was Autistic and I had been ‘just like him’.

So if you feel bad you didn’t notice your child was Autistic for a while..

Give yourself a break.

My parents are amazing, they didn’t make mistakes. They just did their best with what they knew..

Just like all of us..

💚💚💚💚

06/12/2025

This is regarding SEND
This is regarding marginalised groups
This is regarding county lines

This is regarding our vulnerable children..

So I will NOT be silenced

06/12/2025

I love being alone, and I never feel lonely..

Nature keeps my mind feeling nurtured..

I also love being really autonomous in my decisions, this includes the places I frequent and times..

Here I am, at 8am, walking around a working farmland after dropping my sons to work.

A woman passed me, we had a really lovely conversation about our dogs. Her energy was bright and interesting. She seemed funny and wild and free, a bit like me..

My point is, when you choose spaces to hang out in the world.. really truly based on what makes your heart feel good.

You tend to find others who float your boat a lot more than when you follow the herd and try to fit into the norm.

💚💚💚💚💚

I know making choices and having time alone is an absolute privilege, and if that’s not your reality right now.

I just want you to know to keep going, because when it is, and at some point it will be, you can feel this joy too.

05/12/2025

Girl Guiding and the Women’s Institute have announced that they will now exclude trans women and girls after legal threats – but organisations can and should remain inclusive.

05/12/2025

Watching Harry Potter..

Working on SEND documents.
Planning next steps for business and life..
Slid into DMs and now chatting up a TikTok Autism Dad..

I’m not surprised my stalkers been looking for a girl like me..

I’d look for a girl like me too.

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Friday night reminder.

Don’t let the f**kery of others get you down.

You are all fu***ng cool..

(Face is a ‘sexy joke pose..’ not my normal sexy face. I save that for special occasions..) 😂

05/12/2025

FREE parent request for EHC assessment..

If you want me to make you a parent request for free, I’m happy to help up to 1st Jan..

All you need to do is answer the questionnaire below and email me the responses on hello@sendfamilymagic.zohodesk.eu

I will then use your answers and my template to build you a draft parent request for you to email off to the LA with your evidence..

Questions:

Child’s Full Name
Child’s Date of Birth
Your Email Address
Child’s Current School
The Name of your Local Authority
Was your child born full term? Were any medical conditions diagnosed from birth?
Has your Child received any diagnoses since then?
Are you awaiting any diagnostic assessments or assessment results?
Do you have any professionals involved with your child? If so who? CAMHS, a paediatrician, a social worker for example.

The following sections are all about your Child’s Needs, these sections are the information we will use to show your child meets Threshold 1, that your child may have Special Educational Needs.
Communication and Interaction needs
Does your child have friends? Tell us about those friends? Do they seem genuine?
How is your child in regards to body language? Both using it and reading it.
How does your child communicate with adults? Detail any difficulties.
How does your child communicate at school? Is this different to home? Does your child mask their difficulties? Detail any difficulties.
How does your child communicate with peers? Detail any difficulties.
How if your child in regards to understanding and responding to others’ emotions?
How is your child in regards to understanding and responding to instructions?

Cognition and Learning needs
Is your child below their classmates in terms of the academic work they can do - for example reading, writing, maths?
Are there any parts of school your child really likes?
Does your child do homework?
Does your child have a special area of interest?
Is your child able to manage the level of work but the class environment causes them distress?
How is your child at school? Tell us about a day-to-day experience? Do they go happily? Do they have help at school?
What are your main worries about school at the moment?

Sensory and Physical needs
Did your child sit, crawl, walk and talk at the same time as other toddlers?
Did your child potty train at the same time as others? Can they currently use the bathroom unaided? Please give details - for example: Can they use the toilet at school? Can they wipe themselves?
Did your child start to eat the same time as peers? How are they about eating now? for example: Do they eat at school? Do they only eat certain food? Do they need support to eat?
How is your child at getting around the house and out of the house? Do they go out alone? Do they understand how to be safe from traffic?
Does your child have any sensory needs? for example - Do they not like certain clothes, or sounds? Do they find lights too bright or certain places too noisy? Tell us about that a bit.
Does your child have lots of energy? What do they do in and out of the house? for example, clubs or hobbies?

Social Emotional and Mental Health needs
What is your child’s mood like? Are they low and unhappy lots? Are they angry?
Is your child violent to siblings? You? Or class mates?
Does your child have certain things which trigger them?
Does your child self-harm or talk about su***de or tell you they have horrible thoughts?
What does your child do with their friends? Do they go out alone?
Does your child have siblings? Do they get along? What are their ages?
Has your child or family experienced any significant trauma? for example - abuse, accidents, separation? Anything which would impact you and your child’s mental health.
Do you feel that school affects your child, resulting in them having meltdowns at home? Tell us about what a meltdown looks like for your child.

The following sections we will use to show that your child meets Threshold 2; that they may need special educational provision to be made through an EHC plan.

How are you feeling at the moment? for example - exhausted, low, determined? Tell us about your current state of mind and how your child’s needs impact you.
Does your child get any support in school now? for example - taken out for work, 1:1 support, lunchtime clubs, mentors, thrive, toileting support?
What is the main reason you think an EHCP will help?
Have the school been supportive of you applying for an EHCP? What have they said about it?
What do you feel school should be doing to improve school life for your child?
Any other comments you feel you would like to share?

05/12/2025

At the budget the chancellor announced a significant change to SEND funding arrangements.

05/12/2025