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26/03/2026

25/03/2026

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25/03/2026

Fu***ng hell I have been a bit out the loop.. off to read up on these 7 magical categories all children are meant to fit into..

This whole thing must be to stop the use of independent reports actually improving EHCPs..

Boxes for all is clearly the order of the day.. this is unbelievably s**t..

25/03/2026

Just incase people are gaslighting you this week..

I am here to confirm, you are definitely NOT the ‘problem’ if you have to tell professionals that what’s being offered will traumatise and harm your child further..

If it’s not suitable, tell them..

Often you will be gaslighted for this, but remember, it’s actually your main job to be the person who does that..

Protects your families mental and physical wellbeing..

So if you are offered a mainstream hub, or alternative provision, or your child’s school comes up with a solution that does not meet their needs..

Keep firmly in your mind, no matter how they hope you feel, that it’s your right and responsibility to tell the Headteacher, SENCO or Local Authority when something doesn’t seem safe.

Use evidence from reports to support your view, as well as examples of your child’s lived experience.

For example;

Dear

A mainstream hub or mainstream style alternative provision is not suitable at this time, given the level of emotional based school avoidance to date.

This is evidenced through the identification of my child’s SEND, noted by the OT, SALT and Educational Psychologist.

The only suitable option is a specialist setting, to ensure my child’s recognised needs are met, and they have access to appropriate education, within a specialist setting, and suitable peers group.

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If you would like support please get in touch, I am back working part-time hours and can be contacted on:

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Or WhatsApp on 07738903108

25/03/2026

It’s really tricky that the Government believe this to be the solution, when so many mainstream staff even admit it just won’t work..

There will be no uniform accommodations, the rules remain so rigid, and one size just doesn’t fit all.

24/03/2026

You know that thing when you think..

“Wish I could just go back to normal, how things used to be, before all of this craziness..”

Then you check out picks from 2021 and remember .. 🤔

“Oh yeah, life’s never been normal..”

And you feel like you are actually not doing so bad all things considered..

😂😂😂😂

Also, I’m starting up calls again, and some limited and VERY low cost admin..

If you need support, drop me a message, not only because I love EHCPs, but also because I remain under the benefit cap whilst signed off work apparently (🤯), so am tired of being a victim and unable to pay my bills..

Something doesn’t add up there…

Hey ho.. anyway, if you do want to book a call, just inbox me on here, or WhatsApp me on 07738903108, or drop me an email..

Hello@sendfamilymagic.zohodesk.eu

Calls are £45 an hour but reduced if you need a lower price, just ask..

I promise I will be as normal as possible when we chat..

❤️❤️❤️❤️

24/03/2026

Being brave isn’t easy..

Standing up for our kids is scary at times, it’s like climbing the highest of trees, not knowing if you have the ability or strength to make it to the top..

Constantly thinking that the worst may happen if we get to our destination..

Kids climb because they don’t always consider what’s next..

They climb for freedom and joy..

Us parents watch them, telling them not to go so high.. scared they might fall..

It’s built into us, and that fear we have is what holds us back..

Parents have often told me how scared they feel, whilst navigating SEND and Safety.

If you feel that too, and spend days working up the courage to send that email or make that call..

Just know, you are not alone.

Being brave is scary.

But being brave can also get easier.

The more you are forced to be brave, and take each tiny step, the easier the next becomes.

At some point you will get to the top and just enjoy the view, trusting your skills to get back down safely.

If it’s not today, don’t give up.

Rest, recover and give yourself compassion, coming up against schools and local authorities is not for the faint hearted.

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24/03/2026

24/03/2026

I don’t often speak in detail about our experiences as I’ve always wanted to protect those involved. But reading today about better graded Ofsted schools taking fewer SEN pupils stung, even though it’s been a long time since we were choosing schools.

So, because it has been a long time, I will share some specifics.

We chose a local secondary school. My child had friends going, it was easy to get to, and it was known as a “good” school. One of those “outstanding” schools.

Somewhere between choosing and school places being allocated, we had an EHCP.

While families at the primary school gate were chatting excitedly about where their child was going, I was lying to mine, saying they had a place because we still didn’t know. Because the SENCo at this school had said they would not take my child “unless the local authority grants the highest level of funding.”

This is the SENCo who reluctantly met me to explain policies and procedures, and how my child would need to adhere to them.

This is the SENCo who, when I pushed for a second meeting, said it would be about funding and when I asked what support would be offered, said Lego Club.

By this stage, after years of my child struggling and months of uncertainty, I was completely distraught. I broke down and left the room. I later found this had been written up as me being verbally abusive.

This is the SENCo who, even with funding agreed, offered no further adjustments.

My child started and ended their secondary school experience on the same day.

The next part will remain private. It was the most distressing time of our lives and something that took years to recover from.

But I later learned from other families at the same school, that we were not alone.

We now understand the issue was two things: wanting the money from EHCPs, and not wanting the children who might impact Ofsted.

Because imagine an inspector seeing black trainers instead of “shoes that raise a shine.” Or children without perfect attendance or grades.

This school made no adaptations. But it did request more funding.

So, I ask, how is this ethical?

Why are schools who repeatedly harm children and families not held accountable?

When families are on their knees, why are we not told that a place is not safe for our children?

Why are systems so focused on safeguarding and public money not protecting children from harm that will affect them for years?
Whatever comes next in the next policy/reform/white paper, I find it hard to engage.

Because nothing will change until the fundamentals are rebuilt.

We need kindness, understanding and inclusion to be the foundation not grades.

Until then, for the protection of myself and my child, I will keep looking elsewhere. Because this system hurt my child in ways that, even now, will never be okay.

Illustration from Can't Not Won't by Eliza Fricker

22/03/2026

💕Happy Sunday my online lovelies..💕

Here is a top tip for all of you having to ..

👍 Focus on finding humans who get it, and who you know will care for your kids as fiercely as you do for theirs..

When you find them, hold on to them tight as hell..

This doesn’t mean you have to hang out lots, or text all day, most of my safest people, I only see them now and again in person..

But I know they are there and that makes survival easier, knowing there are others out there who understand the need to advocate is not something we chose, or ever imagined having to do..

But life saving stuff..

In fact, it’s the most important of stuff that we do throughout our days, and nights..

I’m sharing this because last night, for the 2nd time in a year, I navigated something extremely tricky with an amazing mother..

During both events, what occurred was unexpected, as well as unprecedented, in terms of what either of us have navigated before..

But, as lone parents, during both events, we worked as a team, pooling our resources and skills to ensure our kids were safe.

Both times she actually did the main leg work..so I am extra grateful to co-advocate with her for that too..

I am also so pleased our kids are mates, and I hope that lasts a lifetime..

Mainly so I know I have her beside me, just a call away, when the next situation arises.

Because it will, when we are bringing up powerful, magical humans, who choose fun and joy, with an infinite level of energy and enthusiasm..

I love that for them, but it’s also terrifying when your kids enter this more independent stage of life..

If you read this and feel sad, because you don’t have those people right now, do not despair, I’ve been in that place too..

I’ve sat, phone in hand, scrolling my contacts, not knowing who could possibly relate..

There is a way forward, I promise..

At those times I’ve noted the ‘gap’ in support, and taken active steps towards finding those people..

I’ve asked them if they fancied a coffee, attended events I know they will be at, so I could chat to them, and also encouraged our kids to get to hang out, supporting them to overcome any bumps in the road..

Find people who get you, don’t judge your family dynamic, who are not scared to share the highs and lows, and be there for each other when the going gets tough..

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

If you feel isolated, don’t panic, so many others feel like you too..

We are all just doing our best, waiting for the next ‘stuff’ to pop up out of nowhere.

Take a leap, send that text, I bet they will jump at the chance to feel less alone too.

❤️❤️❤️

21/03/2026

I see you Bridget Phillipson Department for Education The Labour Party.

I see what you're trying to do.

By forcing children into schools that can't meet need;
By forcing parents to comply with threats of prison;
By enforcing trauma, promoting abuse and empowering overreach you achieve one thing, and one thing only.

You are responsible for what comes next.

The extinction of life is on you.

[Photo of small black dog post-groom looking intently.]