04/03/2024
Clearing Limiting Beliefs and Negative Emotions
Your beliefs are the fundamental axioms that determine your decisions and influence your perceptions. Your beliefs influence your thoughts, which attract your emotions, which affect your body. As you clarify your purpose, dreams, and goals in life you will see with greater clarity which beliefs you hold that are out of alignment with that which you desire. For example, if it is your desire to run your own business, travel the world, and have a husband/wife and children. Your mind may become excited at the potential of all this happening, and indeed it can, but soon enough the ‘reality’ of your current belief systems will often take center stage and it may remind you that you don’t have enough money, skills, or the level-headedness to achieve all that you desire!
But is it true?
Is that the actual reality? As an empowered creator of your universe, you get to decide.
Taking control of destiny.
Most people in society let circumstances dictate their destiny. They don’t follow what they truly love because of a laundry list of stories they hold about the universe.
“I’m this way and I can’t change because ….. I’m a Leo, it’s my genetics, it’s ALWAYS been this way, that’s not how reality works, the government is corrupt, etc…..”
Though there is validity in many of those responses, how are they helping you to overcome your challenges and move you forward towards your dreams. Our problems are not outside of ourselves and until we are willing to take responsibility for what we are consciously and unconsciously creating, we cannot walk the path of our true potential.
If you take control of your life force energy, destiny is in your hands.
What do I mean by life force energy?
Your breath.
Your Qi.
Your Prana.
Your mind.
Your beliefs.
Your body.
Your choices.
The shift is one from moving out of reactivity and victimization, into responsibility and empowerment. The change is one of moving from being in the child archetypes versus being an adult.
The child says “I have to..”
The adult says “I choose to…”
You get to choose to follow your dreams and to determine the fundamental axioms that you live by. As I mentioned, the more time you spend developing and clarifying your dreams, the clearer it becomes which beliefs are out of alignment with your path to fulfilling your goals.
How does one clear limiting beliefs?
There are countless methods, tools, and meditations to clear limiting beliefs, but let me divide them into two categories: top-down and bottoms-up or cognitive approaches and energetic and body-based approaches.
Top-down – Cognitive approaches:
In a cognitive or mental approach to clearing limiting beliefs you use reasoning, contemplation, and introspection. Take the following example:
1. “I would like to start a new business, but I don’t have enough money”
a. The limiting belief is that the individual does not believe they have enough money
2. Why do they believe this?
a. They don’t currently have the money in their bank account
b. They don’t currently know how they would make the money to achieve their goal
c. In the past they haven’t made lots of money, so they assume past patterns predict future behaviors
d. Their parents never had what they defined as ‘copious amounts of money’
e. Their friends don’t have ‘copious amounts of money’
You see how our beliefs are influenced as a reaction to what is currently going on for us from our peers, and society….as well as from the past, particularly from our early childhood. It is important to understand that most our deeply ingrained axioms we hold are inherited from others and are disempowering.
Yet, there are plenty of examples of people who have made copious amounts of money in a short time. But it is hard for most people to see this if they hold a limiting belief because limiting beliefs are negative and they attract negative emotions. In the above example, this individual perceived that they did not grow up with a lot of money, so their concept of money has become tainted with negative emotion from their early childhood, and they are still holding onto these negative emotions and negative beliefs which are influencing their current behavior.
Self-replicating beliefs
A belief is a thought attached to a feeling that keeps repeating itself. It is a story we live by. This is true for negative and positive beliefs. So then, once a belief is laid down, like the above beliefs the individual holds about money, the thought and feeling will continue to replicate itself in a pattern which will reinforce itself through external circumstances. Every time the individual gets triggered about not having enough it will bring up the negative emotion they experienced as they were a child, and every other time they felt that same way which will more deeply ingrain that belief as ‘true’.
If an individual wants to break the cycle, they have to be willing to step outside this belief and take the empowered position to write a new belief. To write a new belief, they must become a new person, because the old belief is tied to an old personality – an old remnants from childhood-. This new person has a new way of seeing and moving through the world which gives rise to new choice and action. The new belief should not be a limiting one, but one that is in harmony with universal principles (see Arnold Patent’s Universal Principles). For example, a positive belief to have about money is that “I have everything I need, when I need it”. This belief is True, and it can be affirmed at any time regardless of how much money you have, because you always have everything you need when you need. It’s not affirming something like “I have a million dollars”, when you don’t have a million dollars. You always have everything you need, and when you place your FOCUS on what you already have and feel it is enough, you immediately shift your mind into the abundance of what you do have (positive), instead of focusing on what you don’t have (negative).
Vibrations and manifestations
As I mentioned, your beliefs are thoughts attached to feelings that are self-replicating. In this way, we can understand them as thought-forms with a certain vibrational frequency or signature. Because limiting beliefs are negative in nature, they will have a negative charge. As you go through the process of aligning with your dream, your limiting beliefs will come up and will be experienced as negatively charged frequencies which will be experienced as negative emotions. So, part of your process is to use your cognitive capacity to understand what the negative belief is and to write a new one that is in alignment with your dreams and universal principles. The other part of the process is the bottoms-up work we do with the body and emotions to release the negative charge and create positive energy and ingrain new empowered beliefs.
Bottoms-up: Energy work
Energy work as I’m using it here refers to the purging of negative energy, the tonifying of adding of positive energy, and the regulating or balancing of the energy system. The 3-step process of purge, tonify, and regulate is the basis of Qigong energy healing practices. In regard to clearing limiting beliefs, as I mentioned limiting beliefs when they become conscious will manifest as negative emotions, which will have a felt-sense in your body ei. A location and a particular sensation. From here there are countless ways of moving this negative energy out of the system.
Here are a few examples:
1. Qigong
2. Breathwork
3. Dance
4. Yoga
5. Martial Arts
6. Nature walks
7. Cold exposure
8. Singing
The idea is to move your body, work with your breath and your intention to get the area of negative energy (which is often felt as stuck, stagnant, guarded, or chaotic energy) to in a sense flush out the system. It is beyond the scope of this article to go into a detailed account of moving the energy because of how varied and specific the process can be…but, in general, the sensations and emotions must be felt, healing is feeling. The exhale is used to discharge and purge, which may be coupled with vigorous movement, shaking, sweeping, or other techniques. The inhale is used to tonify, to reconnect, to deepen toward one’s center. And slowing down, resting, relaxing, and becoming still is used to regulate and allowing the energetic system to rewire the old belief out and the new belief in.
If you’d like to understand the process of purge, tonify, and balance more thoroughly consider watching my 6 healing sounds Qigong video or working with me 1-on-1 in a conscious connected breathwork session.
Further, it is not always necessary to do the top-down work before doing the bottoms-up work. Sometimes just dancing for 1 hour is enough to clear any fears, doubts, worries, and obstacles and put you in a positive state which will attract positive thoughts. However, I like to teach individuals how to understand their energetic system in a developed way so that they can apply techniques with precision to target any belief that presents an obstacle of their path of achieving their dreams and potential. This is why my holistic alignment coaching system is a comprehensive scaffolding to identify the key dimensions of your life where you hold fundamental axioms so you can understand your beliefs and write them in alignment with your dreams.
What I recommend individuals to do is to write out their goals and dreams, then identify all the limiting beliefs and barriers. Then to work with each one of the belief systems to rewrite the new script of their life. Simply writing it down is often not enough to clear the limiting belief, but it directs the mind in the right direction so that when a circumstance comes up there will then be an opportunity for you to CHOOSE to follow your old belief or your new one, which is when the negative emotion will typically arise and knowing energetic practices like Qigong can be done potentially on the spot. This is why I teach my coaching clients Qigong and energetic practices like breathwork. Then you can carry your dreams with you with every step and breath and be equipped with the inner tools to clear the obstacles you have, then nothing can stop you from achieving your destiny…because your destiny is in your hands.
Summary:
If you’re on the path of achieving your dreams and your potential it is part of the process to identify limiting beliefs that are perceived obstacles on your way. When you understand that your beliefs are thoughts attached to feelings, you know that they are merely energy you are carrying which can be changed and transformed. So then, if you identify limiting beliefs out of alignment with your dreams, you have an opportunity to rewrite the script of your life. You can clear the limiting belief by getting to know it, and seeing how it is false, then by clearing the energy of it from your system using bottoms-up energy work practices. In this way, you will develop self-mastery and resilience. As you continue to do this, your inner will and empowerment will grow as will your potential and the clarity of your dreams. The more you take part in this process, the more you take control of your life force energy and put destiny in your hands.
