10/12/2021
Tova Leigh - My Thoughts about stuff:
I'm not a big fan of the whole 'love your body thing'. For me it feels like a lot of pressure. Don't get me wrong, if it's working for you then go for it 💪🏻 But if you'd like a different perspective, here's mine: I don’t 'love' my stomach any more than I 'love' my right elbow, but for a long time I dedicated A LOT of thinking towards my stomach and there lies the difference. While society pays a lot of attention to women’s stomachs, bums, legs and b***s, no one ever bothers with our elbows for example and so we don't care about them either. But imagine if tomorrow's trend was wrinkle free elbows with a dash of glitter, would we all torture ourselves about them too? And imagine a world where no one fixated on women’s bodies at all? Would we still feel preasured to ‘love’ them? And I get why people look for ways to ‘bond’ with the parts they don’t particularly like, or that don’t fit in whatever beauty standards is trendy, or that have changed, or that remind them of something traumatic they’ve been through (like my c section shelf) - I get it because I tried (unsuccessfully) doing that for years. But now I see my body differently: what it LOOKS like is not who I am, it’s not what I’ll be remembered for and it’s the least interesting thing about me (and I can guarantee that what your body looks like is the least interesting thing about you too). What it does for me is another story... My body (which includes my stomach and both of my wrinkly elbows) it's an incredible machine that carried two pregnancies, climbed the Everest Base Camp trek (almost), allows me to walk, talk, think, hug, laugh, dance, smell, see, touch and taste and I am so grateful for 🙏 Like honestly, it's such a gift to even have one. But to spend time on trying to feel LOVE towards individual parts of it seems like a lot of work, whereas shifting the focus has been easy. So I guess what I’m trying to say is this - if the ‘love your body’ thing isn’t working for you, you might want to consider that it's just a body, and while you can appriciate and even respect it, you don't have to ‘love’ it in the first place 🤷♀️ TAG A FRIEND ❤️
Image and caption by the amazing Tova Leigh
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