24/08/2022
To the hurt individuals whose hearts are not ready to hear what needs to be said, it's ok. It's ok to be closed off in the beginning.
When hurtful situations occur, it's too hard for us to process all that comes with it at the moment. It could be death, divorce, infidelity, or any other painful situation. Give yourself time. Sit with it for a bit. No need to make any decision. Don't rush.
Be careful who you open up to. You will eventually move on but people don't forget. The wrong people will judge you and their invalidations can hold you back. Discern.
When we are hurting, we tend to hurt others especially if we haven't cultivated daily spiritual practices to keep us grounded. Be still. Breathe deeply. Take time to process your thoughts and emotions.
You might get mad at your therapist, spouse, siblings, kids, or best friends if they try to offer you guidance. You are simply not ready to process and think things through. You are not ready to move forward and past it.
It's ok to be in this place for a bit. That doesn't mean you are a bad person or something is wrong with you. It doesn't make you less of a righteous believer. You are simply learning to embrace your humanness. Don't choose to stay here for long though. At one point, you need to choose to heal and move on. It's your responsibility to do so. May God heal and strengthen you.
