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16/08/2025

Losing yourself in parenting often happens quietly at first, you’re just giving your best to your kids. But when every dream, hobby, and personal need gets pushed aside for too long, you stop recognizing the person in the mirror.

That’s where resentment sneaks in.
Not because you don’t love your children you do, fiercely but because you’ve been running on empty. You start feeling like life is happening for everyone else while you’re just the supporting character.

It’s a dangerous mix: self-neglect disguised as devotion, and love tangled with silent bitterness.
And the hard truth? Your kids feel it too. They may not know the word “resentment,” but they notice the sighs, the short fuse, the missing spark.

Healing starts with reclaiming small pieces of yourself hobbies, rest, friendships, boundaries so parenting comes from fullness, not depletion.

08/08/2025

Children aren’t born knowing how to calm down, they learn it from us.

30/07/2025

Support doesn’t mean shielding. It means standing beside them, not in front of them.

26/07/2025

11/07/2025

If you expect your child to meet your emotional needs, validate your worth, or mirror your ideal self—you’re not parenting, you’re using.

Parenting is not about control, perfection, or being owed for sacrifices.
It’s about showing up, regulating your own wounds, and loving your child as a separate human—not a reflection of you.

Before you call them ‘ungrateful,’ ask yourself:
Have I really done the emotional labor, or have I just expected obedience in return for survival?”

Break the cycle. It starts with self-awareness.

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29/06/2025

Is helicopter parenting good for toddlers?

Not really. Toddlers thrive with gentle guidance, not micromanagement.
They learn confidence through trial and error.
They build emotional regulation through co-regulation, not control

19/03/2025

Love this ❤ by Meaningful Ideas 🙏🏻

23/01/2025

Loved this post by Positive Parenting Practices

"Mothers are human too"

20/11/2024

Thank you ❤🙏 TThe Therapist Parent

Without connection we have to rely on force. We fall back on threats, bribes and harsh punishments. But force usually causes damage. If you want to have influence connection is the key

More information in my book

Guidance from The Therapist Parent

Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon

25/10/2024

Emotionally unavailable fathers often don’t realize the profound impact their withheld affection has on their children’s self-worth and future relationships.

23/10/2024

Unconditional love..

26/11/2022

Via NotSalmon.com