Self Healing Clinic (2025)

02/07/2025

I have shared this technique before but it is one worth returning to. It might be just what you need today.

ESR or Emotional Stress Release is a gentle but powerful tool to help you release stress and feel calmer, and without a doubt, it is one of my favourite kinesiology techniques.⁠
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You can use this technique for any overwhelming emotion you are feeling such as:⁠
• sadness⁠
• anxiety⁠
• anger⁠
• stress⁠
• fear⁠
• grief⁠
• shame⁠
• guilt ⁠
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ESR allows you to release stressful emotions from your body, increase blood flow to your brain, calm your nervous and limbic systems, and activate the parasympathetic system (healing).⁠
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Placing a hand on the forehead can have calming effects, it also enables blood to flow to the frontal cortex where the capacity for new ideas and new positive choices are created.⁠
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How to perform ESR⁠
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1. Take a few deep breaths and label the emotion you are feeling. Rate the stress level between 1 (being the least), and 10 (being the most).⁠
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2. Place one hand on your forehead and one hand where you are feeling the emotion (throat, chest, gut, etc).⁠
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3. For 2-3 minutes, close your eyes while holding those two places and focus on how you are feeling or on the events in your life (connected to the chosen emotion) that are causing stress.⁠
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4. Keep breathing deeply, while connecting to a positive feeling or affirmation that feels relevant to you. Otherwise, you can visualise the best outcome for the situation and do your best to stay with this happy feeling.⁠
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Some examples of positive affirmations are:⁠
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“I believe in myself”, ⁠
“I choose to feel...”⁠
“I choose to release...”⁠
“I feel good”,⁠
“I am successful”,⁠
“I am fearless”,⁠
“I love who I am”,⁠
“I am healthy”,⁠
“I am healing”,⁠
“I am releasing...”⁠
“I am forgiving...” etc.⁠
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Open your eyes and tap into the emotions or the events that were causing you stress...you should feel less emotional charge around them and be able to come up with a creative solution, a new goal, a sense of relief.⁠
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Why not give it a try?

29/05/2025

This journey is not about blaming or condemning our parents. It’s about recognising the patterns that shaped us, and gently opening the door to healing.

When we understand that their behaviour often comes from their own pain and unresolved issues, we can start to cultivate compassion, both for them and for ourselves.

Healing means setting boundaries that protect us, practising self-compassion, and sometimes learning to ‘reparent’ our own inner child. It’s about breaking free from cycles of emotional neglect and finding our own voice and emotional freedom. One of the hardest truths in healing is recognising that we cannot change our parents or caregivers. Accepting this allows us to focus on our own growth and emotional well-being instead.

How has your relationship with your parents or caregivers evolved since you began your healing journey? Feel free to share your experience below.

28/05/2025

Working through your inner child can bring up a lot. Old emotions may surface unexpectedly, and sometimes you might feel overwhelmed or reactive without knowing why. Often, it’s your younger self responding, carrying unmet needs or pain.

Inner child healing means reconnecting with those vulnerable parts and gently caring for wounds that still affect you today.

This journey helps you feel, grieve, and heal with more compassion for yourself.

The ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ programme includes:

Already available:
• Nine videos
• Journal prompts and workbooks
• Letters to your inner child
• Healing meditations
• Inner teenager prompts

Just added:
• Understanding attachment styles
• A Self-Soothing Toolkit with grounding and mindfulness tools
• Self-soothing practices like mirror work and setting boundaries

Coming soon:
• Learning to Nurture Yourself
• Understanding the Mother Wound
• Exploring the Father Wound
• You Are Not Your Parents

If you are already enrolled, you will get automatically access to all new material as it’s added. The current price is $27.99 and will increase to $37 on 8th June.

For details, DM me or visit the link in bio.

21/05/2025

Healing your inner child is about noticing where your needs weren’t fully met in your childhood, whether that’s love, safety, understanding, or acceptance, and consciously choosing to provide those things for yourself.

To reparent yourself means stepping into the role of a gentle, caring adult, the adult your younger self needed but perhaps never had. It means becoming your own protector, nurturer, and trusted friend to the parts of you that still feel vulnerable or unheard.

This journey doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process that requires patience and kindness. Some days you may feel strong and loving towards yourself, and other days it may feel difficult or confusing. Both are part of coming back home to who you really are.

Reparenting your inner child means allowing yourself to feel deeply, to rest when needed, to set boundaries, and to celebrate your worth without hesitation. It means breaking free from old patterns and choosing a new path, one filled with compassion and understanding.

💬 What is one way you are learning to reparent your inner child today?

17/05/2025

The way we were treated as children often becomes the blueprint for how we treat ourselves as adults.

None of this is about blame, it’s about awareness.

Which of these do you relate to?

Don’t be too loud → You silence your joy
Be strong → You hide your pain
Don’t upset anyone → You ignore your needs
You are too sensitive → You doubt your feelings
You will be loved if you behave → You people-please
Stop crying → You suppress everything
You should know better → You are hard on yourself Be grateful for what you have → You feel guilty for wanting more
Don’t make a fuss → You downplay your pain
You are fine → You stop trusting your own emotions
You always overreact → You second-guess your responses
That didn’t happen → You question your memory and experiences
Don’t talk back → You struggle to speak up for yourself
You are the responsible one → You take on too much without asking for help
Why can’t you be more like... → You disconnect from your true self
I am disappointed in you → You tie your worth to approval
Don’t tell anyone → You keep everything inside, even when it hurts

15/05/2025

You have read the books. You have journaled. You have tried meditating and being kinder to yourself...
But something still doesn’t shift.

You keep wondering, “Why am I still feeling this way?”

Often, it’s because your nervous system doesn’t feel safe yet. And until safety is felt in the body, the brain will keep looping in protection mode.

Your brain’s primary job is to keep you safe. If it senses threat, even emotional threat, it will prioritise survival. That might mean shutting down, staying hypervigilant, or avoiding anything that feels too much.

This might show up as:
• Overthinking everything
• Avoiding your feelings
• Disconnecting from your body
• Feeling numb, tired or restless for no clear reason

Healing isn’t just about thinking differently.
It’s about ‘slowly teaching your body and brain that it’s safe to feel’.

It means your brain begins to trust that ‘you can handle what’s coming up’. That it’s safe to pause, feel, and stay with yourself, even when things are uncomfortable.

So instead of asking, “Why am I still stuck?”
Try asking,
“What part of me still feels unsafe?”
“What might it need from me today?”

That’s the place to start.

Sometimes, creating that sense of safety inside can feel hard to do alone. That’s where counselling can be helpful, not because there’s something “wrong” with you, but because a trained professional can hold space for you to explore what feels unsafe, guide you through the process, and help you build trust with yourself again. Learn more in

25/04/2025

Anger & the Liver
Suppressed anger can “stagnate” the liver, causing neck and shoulder tension, digestive issues, and headaches. When blocked, the liver struggles with detoxification, making you feel sluggish or irritable.

Fear & the Kidneys
Fear is linked to the kidneys. Suppressed fear can overwork them, leading to exhaustion, lower back pain, and urinary issues. Chronic anxiety keeps the body “on edge,” contributing to fatigue.

Worry & the Spleen
Worry affects the spleen, which plays a role in digestion and energy. Constant anxiety can cause bloating, nausea, and a lack of appetite, making it harder for the body to process nutrients.

Sadness & the Lungs
Sadness and grief are connected to the lungs. Suppressed emotions can cause chest tightness, shallow breathing, and respiratory issues. Unexpressed grief blocks the lungs and makes it harder to breathe deeply.

Anxiety & the Stomach
Anxiety impacts the stomach, triggering a fight-or-flight response that slows digestion. This can lead to nausea, bloating, and even IBS. Suppressed anxiety can worsen digestive issues.

Grief & the Heart
Grief creates heaviness in the chest. If not expressed, it can lead to tightness, pain, and emotional numbness, leaving you feeling disconnected or apathetic.

If you notice any of these symptoms, it could be a sign you are holding onto emotions. Expressing your feelings through practices like journaling, therapy or acupuncture can help restore balance, both emotionally and physically.

Comment ‘connection’ and I will DM you the free Mind&Body Connection Worksheet

17/04/2025

A little while ago, I created The Emotional Toolkit – a 35-page interactive workbook designed to help you gently explore your emotions, build resilience, and feel more balanced within.

You may already have seen it or downloaded it when I first shared it, but I wanted to offer it again, just in case you missed it or feel called to revisit it. Life moves quickly, and sometimes a resource we weren’t ready for before lands differently when the time is right.

This workbook is for anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected from how they are feeling. It’s a space to pause, breathe, reflect and reconnect with yourself in a compassionate and supportive way.

Inside you will find:
• Insightful exercises to help you understand and name your emotions
• Tools to explore recurring patterns and unmet needs
• Reflective prompts for managing challenging feelings

You don’t need to print anything, the workbook is fully fillable online, so you can type directly into it, save your reflections, and return to it whenever you need.

You can access it in the link in bio

Whether you are new to it or you have used it before, I hope The Emotional Toolkit continues to be a supportive space you can return to again and again.

26/03/2025

At times, no matter how much inner work we do, we find ourselves stuck in the same emotional patterns. Healing is not linear, and it is not about never struggling again. It is about allowing emotions to move through us, rather than resisting them.

Why Healing Feels Hard:

1. *You are Trying to “Fix” Yourself
Emotions are not problems to solve; they are signals. Shift from “How do I get rid of this?” to “What is this trying to show me?”

2. You are Expecting Instant Results
Healing is not a checklist. Emotions resurface because there is more to understand. It is okay for the process to take time.

3. You are Overwhelmed by the Process
Do not try to unpack everything at once. Focus on one feeling, one moment, one breath.

How to Make Healing Flow:

- Let Go of the Pressure to “Get It Right”
Healing is not a performance. Simply give yourself permission to feel.

- Create Stillness Before Movement
If nothing is shifting, pause. Take a step back and breathe. Trust the process.

- Use a Simple Reframe
Instead of “Why am I still feeling this?” ask, “What does this emotion need from me right now?”

Healing is not about forcing change. It is about allowing, understanding, and creating space for what is ready to shift.

✨In ‘Feel to Heal’, we explore practical and straightforward steps to shift your relationship with your emotions, helping you move from feeling stuck to understanding yourself more deeply. We start on 1st April. Link in bio

25/03/2025

We are always feeling something, right? One moment it might be anxiety, the next it could be frustration, sadness, or even calmness. But why do we keep pretending that we are okay when we are not?

It’s so easy to suppress our feelings. We distract ourselves with busyness, our phones, or anything else that takes our mind off what we are truly feeling. But suppressing our emotions may feel like the easier choice in the moment, but it only makes them stronger, more intense, and harder to deal with down the line. Emotions don’t just disappear. They pile up, waiting to be acknowledged.

We are ALLOWED to feel whatever we are feeling in that moment. Whether it’s anxiety, frustration, or sadness, it’s all valid. It doesn’t need to be “fixed,” just felt. We don’t need to put on a mask and pretend to be okay. We can be honest with ourselves and others about what we are experiencing.

Emotions are messengers. They are there to tell you something. The more we suppress or ignore them, the louder they become. Emotions like anxiety, anger, or sadness are not signs of weakness; they are simply signals from our body and mind that need attention.

So why do we make feeling bad so wrong? Why is there so much pressure to always appear put together?

Let’s normalise feeling what we feel. Let’s normalise being real about the ups and downs, without shame. Let’s stop pretending that everything is okay. It’s okay to be human, to feel what you feel, when you feel it.

Next time you feel something, anything, don’t push it away. Take a moment to sit with it. Allow it to be there. Recognise it. You don’t need to rush to change it, fix it, or make it go away. You just need to let it exist. Because only when we allow ourselves to feel, can we truly heal and move forward.

Feelings are part of the process. All of them. Let’s embrace them.

If you are looking for support in feeling your feelings and embracing emotional health, I would love to have you join my 21-day Feel to Heal program starting April 1st.

17/03/2025

Understanding your triggers will help you understand your inner self and find a way to move forward.

Look at the list below and think: What makes me react strongly?

Feeling left out
Feeling like I can’t do anything
Feeling like nobody listens
Feeling like someone judges me
Feeling like I am not respected
Feeling like no one cares
Feeling alone
Feeling like people ignore me
Feeling like I am not good
Feeling forgotten
Feeling unsafe
Feeling stuck
Feeling unloved
Feeling like I can’t say what I want
Feeling like someone is using me
Feeling disconnected
Feeling controlled

Once you understand your trigger(s), you can take several steps to manage your reactions.

1. Continuously observe and acknowledge your triggers. This enables you to catch emotional responses as they arise.

2. When triggered, take a moment to pause before reacting. This allows you to choose a more thoughtful response instead of an impulsive reaction.

3. Practice deep breathing exercises to help calm your nervous system and reduce the intensity of your emotional response.

4. Use reassuring self-talk to counter negative thoughts associated with your triggers.

5. Set healthy boundaries in relationships and situations that consistently trigger negative emotions.

6. Investigate whether your assumptions about a trigger are accurate. Sometimes, our perceptions might not align with reality.

7. Understand that others’ actions are often not personal. Practicing empathy can diminish the emotional weight of interactions.

8. Acknowledge your growth and efforts in managing triggers. Celebrating small victories boosts your confidence.

Changing emotional responses takes time. Everyone’s journey is unique. What works for one person might not work for another. Experiment with different strategies and combinations to find what resonates with you and helps you effectively manage your triggers.

Have questions? Feel free to DM me.

13/03/2025

We all have sh*tty days. Even when you try your best to manage your feelings, anxiety, sadness, anger, stress, sometimes it’s just too much.

It’s tempting to stay busy, scrolling on your phone, working, watching TV, anything to avoid feeling what’s really going on inside. Because facing it? Sitting with it? That’s hard. It’s easier to push it down and tell yourself you’ll deal with it later.

But pushing it down doesn’t make it go away. It just builds up until it bursts out, snapping at someone, feeling overwhelmed, or spiralling into sadness or anxiety. That’s what happens when emotions are suppressed instead of processed.

So, as hard as it is, the best thing I do when I’m having one of those days is stop. I sit with it. I let the feelings rise without trying to fix or change them. Sometimes that means sitting quietly and breathing through it. Other times it means crying or feeling angry without justification. Whatever comes up, I let it.

Uncomfortable? Yes. Necessary? Also yes.

When you allow yourself to feel fully, the emotion runs its course. It moves through you instead of getting stuck. You stop holding it down and let it flow, and once it passes, you feel lighter, clearer, more at peace.

But life is busy, sometimes you don’t have the luxury of sitting with your feelings for hours. But I try to find 10 minutes here and there, between sessions, before bed, while having a coffee, to check in with myself. No distractions, no fixing, just feeling.

And it helps. Giving yourself that space to feel, even for a few minutes, makes a difference. It stops emotions from piling up and helps you release them before they become too much.

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