PaGidi Expressions, Lagos, Nigeria. (2026)

25/03/2026

We're pleased to share that our founder has taken up a new role as the Team Lead of Communications and Partnerships at ASADS.

ASADS, which stands for Anti-Suicide and Depression Squad, is an organization deeply committed to mental health advocacy, awareness, and access, working across communities to create safe spaces, build strategic collaborations, and drive conversations that truly matter. It is work that is not just necessary, but urgent.

And for us, this role is personal.

It is another feather added to our founder's mental health advocacy cap, alongside his journey as the Founder of PaGidi Expressions and his role as the Admin Officer at the Mental Health Fellowship. Each experience has stretched gim, refined him, and strengthened his resolve to keep showing up for this cause.

But this didn’t start from a place of clarity.

It started from what felt like failure.

Seven carry-over courses.
An extra year in school.
And the painful realization that he wouldn’t be going to Law School with his set.

That moment could have defined him.

Instead, it redirected him.

Because somewhere in that season, he found purpose in people, healing in conversations, and meaning in advocacy.

Today, the story is different.

And this is just the beginning.

21/03/2026

Expressions: Inherited Wounds (Unhealed Fragments…Part 2)

Profiling her man from the prism of
Questions asked, answers given, and
Assertions + observations made.

And for me, that gets me scared.
That gets me worried.

They don’t talk as if they want to get
To know me, excited to see me, or
Looking forward to what I look like.

They talk as if they want to skin me
Up, rip me apart, and tear me into
Shreds.

[Sigh!]

And that takes me back to what my parents
Have been doing to help me not look forward
To marriage.

You can imagine whatever I could have gone
Through emotionally to make me not look
Forward to marriage, to make me not excited
About marriage, to make me not desire it.

[Oblivious lots!]

For daddy, I want to be everything he’s not.

I mean, I don’t want to be anything he is. I
Don’t desire him, I don’t like him, I don’t
Envy him. I don’t even look forward to
Being like him.

And for mom? Too much explanations, too
Much fears, too much complains, too much
Excuses, too much unreasonableness, and
Too much jumping into conclusions at the
Expense of my sanity.

Never have I ever had a reason to speak
My mind or express myself. Except when
I am writing.

And the way they’ve ‘created my mind’,
I’m always on the edge, always in
Defense, always uncertain.

About whether I’ll be listened to, heard,
Or understood. About whether I’ll be
Accepted, urged on, or validated.

About whether I’ll be given the confidence
To be who I really want to be.

Never!

[It is always fights, chaos, and sadness.]

So, I don’t know if I’m to give myself to
The principles of marriage – to lose, to
Be quiet, to accept defeat.

[Are those even the principles???]

Maybe I’m the one that is wrong and
I don’t know anything about the kind
Of marriage I think I want (I’ve never
Claimed to be correct either way.)

And now, with the kind of constant complain,
Being put on the edge and having to explain
My actions and defend my decisions, I don’t
Know if my mother is being reincarnated in
My wife.

[That’ll be a tragedy.]

I don’t know if my head (brain) is messed up
For the kind of thoughts I have, or if I’m even
Ready for this thing that I now desire.

[I’m not saying I don’t want,
I just wish to be understood.]

19/03/2026

Expressions: Inherited Doubts (Unhealed Fragments)…

…these are part of the issues, and
You’ll be thinking you are the cause
(of your problems and misfortunes).

Man proposes.
God disposes.

So many things God has “disposed” and I’d
Been wondering why it wasn’t working, if it
Was actually metaphysical, spiritual, or just
Some basic life principles not aligning.

[All things are not working together for my good.]

These are part of the reasons why I didn’t
Want to get married; these are part of the
Things that make me think or feel I’m not
Ready to get myself married.

Marriage is a give and take: you accept,
You let go, you gain, you lose, you absorb.

And some other times, you endure.

If there’s one reason why I didn’t want
To get married (okay, I’m getting ahead
Of myself a little, but…)

…I’ve witnessed many times when daddy
Is the problem; I’ve seen many occasions
Where mommy is the unreasonable one.

Either side hasn’t ‘given’ me a good reason
To want to get married, and so I was never
Looking forward to it or desiring it.

Never.

[“A self-professed non-practicing Christian,
His writings are basically published on his
Social media accounts, and he has gradually
Become vocal on topics and issues not
Willingly discussed in the society.

“…he doesn’t believe in marriage as a
Prerequisite to having children, and
Hopes to have a proper wedding
Ceremony after he must have had
His third child.”

[Now you know where the words come from huh?]

And then I found a person to
Make me change my mind.

She didn’t change my mind.
She didn’t convince me. She
Just ‘gave me a reason’ to
Make me make a pro-decision.

And then, to help me get myself serious
And committed, I gave myself a date.

To look forward to.
To plan towards.
To work with.

And now, it’s looking like you are
Now giving me pressure on a
Decision I freely and willfully
Made.

Let’s start with your mom: I don’t even like
Her mentality and how she’s chasing the
Clock rather than helping her daughter
Make a good choice.

And then there’s the witch of the family,
The one whose thoughts and reasoning
Are only a reflection of her past life and
Trauma.

Now, these are the two leading women
Leading my woman on the choice she’s
To make.

Profiling her man from the prism of

[To be continued….]

19/03/2026

🔓 SPEAKER REVEALED

The wait is over…
One of the powerful voices behind SHE DEFENDS is here.👇

📅 20th | Online Session.👇

Mr PaGidi is a Nigerian legal practitioner and passionate mental health advocate, dedicated to empowering young people through awareness, leadership, and support systems.

With years of experience in legal practice and youth-focused initiatives, he has played a vital role in creating safe spaces for individuals navigating emotional and psychological challenges.

As the Founder of PaGidi Expressions, he is recognized for his impact in community development, capacity building, and mental health education.

Through his voice and platform, he continues to challenge stigma, inspire transformation, and promote holistic well-being.

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19/03/2026

🔓 SPEAKER REVEALED
The wait is over…
One of the powerful voices behind SHE DEFENDS is here.👇
📅 20th | Online Session.👇

Mr Pagidi is a Nigerian legal practitioner and passionate mental health advocate, dedicated to empowering young people through awareness, leadership, and support systems.
With years of experience in legal practice and youth-focused initiatives, he has played a vital role in creating safe spaces for individuals navigating emotional and psychological challenges.
As the Founder of PaGidi Expressions, he is recognized for his impact in community development, capacity building, and mental health education.
Through his voice and platform, he continues to challenge stigma, inspire transformation, and promote holistic well-being.

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18/03/2026

Expressions: The Wedding is Cancelled!

I’ve made my decision; and until I see
Certain changes, I’m not going to change
My mind about it.

The intended visitation to your parents
Is hereby cancelled.

The pre-considered wedding is hereby
Cancelled.

And anything that feels like or looks like
We are joined together is indefinitely put
On hold.

I didn’t make a mistake when I expressed
My intentions, but it’s getting to feel like
The very reason why I never wanted to
Marry is what is finally playing out.

It saddens me when people look after the
Plans of two people to get married and
Forget about the lives of the two people
Who are supposed to live together.

Everyone focuses on the wedding and
The premarital ceremonies (including
Counselling); no one looks at the
Marriage in itself and how they
Will liveappily ever after.

Unfortunately, my thoughts are raw, crude and
Unprocessed, and while no one has been able
To convince me away from my ideas and pers-
Pectives, the few who have tried have made
Me conclude that I’m better off unmarried.

I know I said I was going to come see
Your parents after I get my house, but
The feelings I’ve been getting is one of
Confrontation and opposition, rather than
The acknowledgement and acceptance
Of the person who is considering coming
Into their family.

Maybe it is whatever you’ve told them,
Maybe it is however they see you, but
The words you say shows that they
Aren’t even concerned about you and
Only want to question and verify the
Authenticity of the person coming to
Get married to you.

And do you know the problem with that
Behaviour? I could very well ace all their
Interviews and tick all their boxes and
Still become the most useless man to
Ever get close to you.

Or, the nature of their questions and the
Mindsets attached to it could be all the
Red flags I need to not even continue
With my contemplations and intentions.

If something is right, it’s supposed to bring
Peace; if something is set, I’m not supposed
To feel confrontations and oppositions.

My memory is crude, so yes, I could be very
Wrong with my assertions, and it might just
Be because I have never even sat down in
These kind of conversations in the first place.

[Sebi it’s something you’ve previously
Familiarized yourself with that you can
Become careful about or carefree???]

I gave (set) a date, and for all it’s worth I’m not
Going to make anything kill that date, but all
These craziness and after thoughts I’m getting
Could as well make that date ruined for the
Rest of my living memory.

[Who is talking to me or who am I listening to?
No one. I’m just fortunate to be having more
Opportunities for careful reflections.]

And do you know what is crazier? You could
Say “ehn, since you say you are no longer
Interested, I’ll find someone that’ll replace
You.”

And that will just make all my fears
And contemplations affirmed.

Unfortunately.

17/03/2026

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16/03/2026

Staying When It’s Uncomfortable
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• Develop a resilient mindset for personal growth
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14/03/2026

Expressions: Sick and Tired…

If this is going to be your own way of saying
You are sorry, then sorry, it’s not going to
Work this time around, because I’m sick
And tired of all these kinds of gimmicks.

And I’m not sure ‘that prayer’ is going
To work either, coz there’s no point
Coming together to pray, if certain
Issues haven’t been resolved.

That’s religion. And unfortunately
For me, I don’t do religion.

[You are looking at an end goal,
I’m looking at the entire process,
Because it will ruin the end goal.]

If you don’t care, it’s not a problem. But I’m not
Going to sit here and watch you take your time off
Simply because you are called to be accountable,
And then come back with loads of job vacancies
As though you are doing me a favour.

No, you’re not! You’re not doing me any favour,
I’m not doing me any favour, and no goddamn
Person anywhere under the surface of this sun
Is doing me any favour.

I’m not begging, I’m not needy and I dare
Say I’m not a dependent; so if something
Is not right or doesn’t feel right and I feel
It, I’m going to talk about it.

Whether it makes sense or not.

Enough of the dilly dally and pretense
Party, it’s the fu***ng reason why I don’t
Do well with keeping calm or staying
Quiet.

Whatever is making me quiet or silent
Is because you are already becoming
A problem and I’m seeking my peace
At the end of the tunnel.

I’m not going to betray my pride or
Peace of mind at the altar of trying
To be the calm one, the gentle one
Or the reasonable one.

Many times we’ve projected this agenda
And it has always backfired on the one
Trying to be the reasonable person.

Such person only becomes a reasonable
Fool.

Why should I get scared of talking about what I
Want or don’t want? Why should I be concerned
About what is going to happen or not happen if
I choose to speak about a behaviour I’m not com-
Fortable with?

Why should I be worried about the attacks
Of feminists (or should I say Angry Birds) if
My concerns are stemming from a place of
Thoughtful progressiveness, but I can be
Called out or canceled for demanding
Accountability?

When will women ever allow themselves
To be held to the same accountability
Standards they hold-tight a man’s
Shirt for?

You do something wrong, I’m the one to
Apologize for getting you to react in a way
I didn’t like; I do something wrong, AND I’m
Still the one that has to apologize for creating
A distance between us!

When will this freaking cycle ever end?!

Why do I have to be the reasonable one
Every-of-the-time? Why can’t you choose
To acknowledge you are the one that took
Things too silly and ought to apologize?

And if you don’t want to, fine, but do you then
Have to come back and just think dropping me
Vacancies will remedy the distance, gaps and
Silence that wouldn’t have been necessary if
You tried to be a bit reasonable?

But no, it always has to be the guy!

Misinterpretations, accusations,
Manipulations and gaslighting??

Naah, I have a throttle of gasoline
I can use as well.

So please take those sh*ts back to where it
Came from, I’ll be fine; but I’m not going to
Sacrifice accountability simply because we
Want to forget about the past and move on
Like it’s all done.

When we both know this is a sick pattern
We are already creating for ourselves and
Our unborn kids.

14/03/2026

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We know these are not the easiest times. The heat, unstable electricity, rising costs, and the many personal pressures people are quietly carrying can make each day feel heavier than usual.

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We see you. We appreciate you. And we’re rooting for you always.

13/03/2026

Expressions: Unseen Battles [Invisible Wars]…

“Most definitely. ‘I love you’ shouldn’t
Only be said, it should be felt.”

It’s completely crazy, silly and petulant
When you come online to try and use
My words against me, and think you’ll
Successfully get at me.

But let’s have it. I’m in the mood
For some fight!

“Good afternoon. It’s sincerely clear you have
No idea about what I’m working on or going
Through, but I’ve tried to communicate events,
Though that’s not your concern, because I don’t
Expect it to be.

“In the last one month, my laptop has
Damaged and I got another one, my
Phone got damaged as well and I just
Got another one.

“My Whatsapp got restricted because of
The Ads message, and my Whatsapp just
Got completely cleared while trying to
Transfer files.

“I’m not expecting you to understand any
Of this, but while I respect you 100%, I’m
Not taking any additional project about
This for now. It’s been a whole lot and
I’ve been trying to be matured and fine.
I really love and respect you.”

And what followed next was an eleven
Minute voice note about everything
That clearly showed whatever I am
Saying or trying to say wasn’t his
Concern.

His only concern was about ‘his’ ads,
And we should pump in more money.

You know that thing where you’re
Trying to do everything right coz
You respect someone, but the
Person doesn’t see it.

Yeah, it happens to the best of us.

It’s even worse when it’s both sides
Trying to be most respectful and
Understanding of the other, but
It’s not being seen by either.

It’s March, and I was getting severely burnt by
My problems, and the only sensible thing was
Not to add more problems, but here you are,
Clearly not listening and only talking about a
Fu***ng ad that’s not getting anywhere near
Productive!

I’m not going to talk about trying to
Convince over a hundred h***y goats
To get a product because they think
They’re chatting with a hottie.

In one of the several conversations we were
Having, I was in the middle of an internal war
With my parents where I was telling my mom
To divorce her husband. (Yes, let’s spill it all
Since everyone doesn’t want to have sense!)

How much have you even spent on this project?
How much have I spent? I’m managing a lot and
Saying we should take a pause, but you have the
Audacity to come on my post and comment that
My “I love you” should be felt.

What the actual hell!

Yes, it does happen to the best of us:
People often judge actions without
Knowing the emotional battles
Behind them.

And in these moments, it’s only a third eye
That can try to both see and understand
What exactly is going on.

But sadly, as beautiful as a story can
Be, you can’t gain much from a one-
Sided view.

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