08/09/2021
Stigma: a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person.
Su***de, sadly, remains stigmatized. It is a challenging topic. The mere mention of the word tugs at our heartstrings, our minds, and our very souls.
When an individual dies by su***de, the family and friends go through what are often considered, “unspeakable” feelings. Guilt, shame, and the inability to answer all of the unanswerable questions fill the heart.
Su***de remains difficult to understand and frightening to talk about. When something remains a societal stigma, it can create an extra layer to the already heart-wrenching pain of grief.
Language informs so much of our perceptions and beliefs. In recent years, mental health professionals have worked hard to change the language around su***de. Removing the word “committed” and replacing it with “died by” is terminology that serves to remove the stigma.
The history of su***de is such that it was considered a crime. And although it is no longer, the attachment of that shameful residue remains. People experiencing stigma may feel fearful, diminished, or discounted.
We know there is no single cause of su***de. It most often occurs when stressors become greater than current coping abilities of someone suffering from a mental health condition and can no longer clearly see their way to any other answer.
While some find the change in language a mere attempt at political correctness, my heart tells me it's about compassion, hearing others, opening our hearts to what is true and honest and real. When we remove "committed" it helps remove that stigma so we can begin embracing individuals and families with honor, dignity, and respect.
Grieving cannot begin in an environment of fear, shame, and silence. Words matter. People matter.
Removing stigma helps us begin wrapping our arms around people with compassion and understanding.
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