Laura Sweetman Independent Funeral Director

22/02/2026

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For anyone who needs it ✨🤍
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12/02/2026

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https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1FFrhKkcPM/

Be gentle with the grieving hearts.
They are walking two roads at once —
one with the living,
and one with the gone.

Grief doesn’t just happen when we lose someone.
It lingers in our everyday,
in the places where they used to be.
In the quiet spaces of memory,
in the moments that remind us they’re no longer here.

But grieving hearts carry more than pain.
They carry love.
They carry the beauty of what was.
They carry the lessons, the laughter, the shared memories,
the footprints of someone who once walked beside them.

And yet, they must learn to walk two paths —
the path of life that keeps moving forward,
and the path of loss that makes everything feel different.
Neither path is easy.
Both paths are heavy.
But both paths are necessary for healing.

To those who grieve, time can feel like an enemy.
But it is also a healer, gentle and patient.
It reminds us that even as we walk away from one road,
we are still carrying what we loved,
and it will continue to shape the way we move forward.

So, if you encounter someone who grieves,
be gentle.
Don’t rush their healing,
don’t expect them to be whole right away.
Just walk with them.
Offer them space and understanding.
Because they are doing the hard work of living,
while their heart still lingers with those they’ve lost 🕊️

Grief may never truly end,
but the love that lives on from the past
is what will always light the way forward ✨

28/01/2026

❤️‍🩹 informative read and a tragic story.

24/01/2026

⚖️"You are not required to..."
....things a rogue mortician wants you to know.

I’ve sat across from families who were kind, loving, exhausted… and quietly panicking because they thought they were failing their person, or family.

They thought embalming was required.
They thought they had to buy that casket.
They thought they had to host a service, rent a family car, order programs, feed everyone.

No one had ever told them this:
🗣️You are not required to do most of what you’re being offered.
🗣️Much of what feels “standard” is tradition, timing, or assumption, not law.

In grief, people rarely have the space to question that.

I wish every family knew this:
🗣️You are allowed to say no.
🗣️You are allowed to simplify.
🗣️You are allowed to choose what fits your values, your budget, and your capacity.

Love is not measured in line items on the funeral contract.

Save this. Share it. Someone will need it someday.

⚰️✨The Modern Mortician

16/01/2026

Very worthy cause to support and what a solid effort by the vollies in 2025!

Celebrating Our Volunteers!

Did you know that in 2025, 397 amazing volunteers at Arohanui Hospice donated a total of 1,498,202 hours of their time – the equivalent of what it would cost if paid the living wage?

Their dedication not only reduces our operating costs but also helps raise vital funds that keep hospice care strong and accessible for our community.

We are endlessly grateful for every volunteer – your time, energy, and heart make a real, measurable difference. Thank you for being part of our whānau!

13/01/2026

I've learnt, you'll never regret departing kindness onto someone 🫶

If you have a book of mine, any book, open it every day this month and see what the random-page message is.

Give each passage time to ruminate and reveal itself to you. The book always knows.

How does it work? In the same way that drawing an oracle or angel card works. In the same way we see signs and synchronicities show up just when we need them.

Guidance is around us, a thing we just know but will never truly know. You choose the page you need. You’re drawn. You just know.

Today’s message for anyone who doesn’t have a book, is above.



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05/01/2026

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Just before Christmas, staff from the department visited the memorial rose garden at Anderson Bay Cemetery to lay flowers in memory of our wonderful donors. Without their selfless gifts to the donor programme, the department would not be able to teach Anatomy to our medical, dental, physiotherapy and science students in such a comprehensive way. Our thoughts go out to family and whānau who will have missed that special loved one over the holidays.

31/12/2025

I am a mobile independent funeral director providing personalised funerals, cremations, burials, and end-of-life care across Manawatū - Palmerston North, and beyond. I offer compassionate, transparent support for families navigating death, grief, and meaningful farewells.

You are welcome to make contact at any time.

Phone: 0220 116 118
Email: Laura@independentfuneraldirector.co.nz

Based in Palmerston North, Manawatū.

Alongside my professional work, I have co-founded and facilitate Death Cafe Manawatu and Dying Matters Week in Palmerston North (held annually for one week in early Spring).

The aim of this mahi is to create death-positive spaces that encourage open, thoughtful conversations about end-of-life, grief, death, and dying. These conversations also invite reflection on how we live now, fostering awareness, empowerment, and ongoing dialogue within our whānau and wider community.

I genuinely believe that funeral pre-planning and sharing our end-of-life wishes is a gift to those we love. It removes guesswork at an already difficult time and helps ease fears of the unknown. I offer no-obligation, no-cost pre-planning appointments, in person or remotely, where we can discuss your wishes, record them, and create a practical working document together.

I also welcome enquiries to facilitate private group discussions, whether with professional organisations, social or community groups, or through networking with other local health and community providers.

Ngā mihi aroha,
— Laura

31/12/2025

A new year doesn’t mean leaving your grief behind.
It means learning how to carry it differently.

As 2026 begins, we acknowledge those who are missing, the love that remains, and the many ways people grieve. Quietly, loudly, or somewhere in between.

Wishing everyone a safe New Year.

May this year meet you where you are, not where you think you should be 🤍

With love,
Laura x

I am a mobile independent funeral director providing personalised funerals, cremation, burials and end-of-life care. Compassionate, transparent support for families navigating death, grief and meaningful farewells. Servicing the Manawatu & beyond.

16/12/2025

❤️‍🩹For a lot of us, 2025 has been a tough year.

Quietly tough.
Emotionally tough.
Just-getting-through tough.

So if this season doesn't feel festive for you - That's ok!
If you're doing the bare minimum, that's ok too.
If survival looks like rest, boundaries and say "not this year" - that's more than enough.

You don't owe anyone cheer, energy or sparkle.
You're allowed to meet this time in whatever way feels safest and kindest to you!

Be gentle with yourself. Your not behind - You're human ️‍🫂

Hang on in there, you are loved ❤️

Donna x

❤️ # poetry

02/10/2025

Absolutely love seeing all these spaces popping up for us to come together, support each other and better ourselves. During Dying Matters Week we met Nicola, a Health Improvement Practitioner (HIP) from THINK Hauora - The best kept secret of the Manawatu 🤫 Through self-referral with your GP you can access this service, quick turn around on appointment times which is so refreshing when we know our systems are stretched. Full of resources and knowledge - There when you need.

This week coming there's public sessions out and about in the community across the Manawatu so take advantage! Nothing like a bit of community spirit, supporting & empowering each other 🫂

🧠✨ Top Up Together – Mental Health Awareness Week

📅 6–10 October 2025

Join us for a week of free community activities designed to boost your wellbeing and help us all top up together!

We’ll be running movement, mindfulness, and creative sessions in Palmerston North, Ashhurst, Pahiatua, and Woodville across the week, exploring fun ways to add activity and creativity into your day. It’s all about connection, wellbeing, and making time for what matters.

✅ Registration is helpful but not required – just come along!

📍 Register your interest here: https://forms.office.com/r/WiTA5hDAg6

Let’s come together to recharge, reconnect, and support each other. 💚