Hayley Perkins Counselling, Psychotherapy & Hypnotherapy Services

28/07/2025

Three immersive days.
Three people at a crossroads in their lives.

I’ve got three immersive days coming up this August, and I honestly can’t wait to hold space for each person as they explore what’s next for them.

Each of them is standing at a different kind of crossroads, some personal, some professional, some deeply rooted in identity and purpose — but what unites them is the desire to pause, to breathe, and to really look at what they want from this next chapter.

This is a completely unique space I’m creating.

There’s no script, no cookie-cutter formula.

I’m bringing everything I’ve learned, both personally and professionally, to the table to help them navigate their way forward with clarity, honesty, and hope.

And while the work I do isn’t new, the way I’m doing it is.

This new approach feels so right. It’s deeply intuitive, intentionally spacious, and a little experimental in all the best ways.

There’s no fancy title.
No flashy sales page.
Just you and me. Time, openness, and the chance to explore possibility.

Each immersive day includes 30 days of integration support, because what comes up in the room is just the beginning, I want to walk with you as you begin putting insight into action.

Currently offering these days at £495 while I gather feedback.

If something about this is tugging at you
if you’re standing at your own kind of crossroads and want to wirk through it
WhatsApp me and let’s have a no-pressure chat (07961001616)

Hayley 🙏🏻

23/07/2025

Because healing means taking a look at your own part in your suffering.

Even when it’s hard.
Especially when it’s hard.

I was chatting with a client yesterday — she was naming all the things her partner was doing that were hurting her. And yep, some of it sounded unfair, unkind, painful.

But here’s the thing we explored together…

It’s easy to focus on the explosion — the arguments, the blame, the mess.
It’s easy to point at the dynamite.

But without the detonator, there’s no explosion.
And sometimes, we’re the ones pressing the button.

That doesn’t mean blame.
It doesn’t mean shame.
It means ownership.

Healing asks us to get honest about our part.
The stories we tell ourselves. The boundaries we don’t hold. The patterns we play out on loop.

It’s uncomfortable. But it’s where the real shifts begin.

Because when you stop waiting for someone else to change, and start owning your side of the street — that’s where your power lives.

And that? That’s where healing happens.

Ready to look inward?

Call or message me 07961001616

Hayley

30/06/2025

“I feel like I’m fading away.”

That’s what a woman said to me this week when we jumped on a call to explore working together.

And I felt it, the defeat in her voice.

She was doing everything, working harder than ever… and still felt like she was drowning.

As we spoke, something shifted.

Just having that space to be seen, heard, and not have to hold it all together, I could feel the relief wash over her.

She doesn’t need better time management.
She doesn’t need to toughen up or “think positive.”
She’s already strong.
Already capable.
Already doing her best.

What she needs, what so many of us need, is permission.

To stop.
To breathe.
To create just enough calm to hear ourselves again.

This is what I do.

I create the space for you to slow down, soften the edges, and come back to yourself… without pressure or judgement.

And from that place?
That’s where the real healing begins.

If something in this resonates, let’s talk.
I’d love to hold that space for you too. 💛

25/06/2025

Imagine if you stopped pouring energy into what no longer fits…

Imagine if you finally admitted to yourself that some parts of your life, your work, or your projects aren’t aligned anymore.

Imagine honouring that truth instead of pushing past it out of guilt or fear.

Imagine working through that resistance and allowing yourself to let go, even when it feels scary or uncertain.

For me, thats what happened with “If Diets Don’t Work”

It was a labour of love that once lit me up, but over time, it drained me. I held on, hoping the passion would return. But it didn’t and I had to face that honestly.

Now, imagine what happens when you stop forcing energy into something that weighs you down.

What if, instead, you redirected that energy into things that truly fuel you?

Imagine waking up excited again, feeling lighter, more connected, more like yourself.

Imagine creating space for new projects, fresh ideas, and deeper joy, without the heavy resistance pulling at you.

That kind of shift isn’t easy, it took me admitting the truth, honouring my needs, and working through a lot of fear and resistance.

But the outcome? Freedom. Renewal. Energy.

So, imagine what your life could look like if you stopped holding on to what no longer serves you.

What might you make room for?

What would you feel if you gave yourself permission to release the weight?

Tell me — what’s one thing you’re ready to stop forcing?

Hayley x

13/06/2025

It took me years to ask for help.
I mean real help.
From someone trained to sit with me in the mess and guide me through it.

Not just a chat with a friend.
Not just reading another self-help book or journaling into the void.
Actual therapeutic support.

Why did it take so long?

Part of it was fear.
Fear of judgment, maybe.
Fear of saying things out loud that I already knew deep down.
Because as long as it stayed inside, buried and quiet, I could pretend I had control over it.

And truthfully, I didn’t even know where to start.

I didn’t know how to explain the tangled thoughts, the stuck feelings, the overwhelming "too much-ness" of it all.

And this bit?

This is what most people don’t realise:

You don’t have to know where to start.
You don’t have to have the right words.
You don’t even have to understand what’s wrong.

That’s literally what a good therapist is trained for.

To sit beside you while you figure out the what, the why, and the how.

To help you unpack the things you’ve been carrying for years, at a pace that feels safe and manageable.

So if you’re where I was…

Frozen. Spinning. Silently screaming, “I don’t even know what I need, but I know I can’t do this alone anymore” — I am here!

And I want you to know:

You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not too late.

You’re just human. And facing your truth takes bravery.

If this resonates, and you feel ready to reach out — even just to dip your toe in — you don’t need to book a call or write the perfect message.

Just WhatsApp me: 07961001616

No pressure. No judgement. Just a gentle space to begin.

I'm here when you are 🩷

H 💜

07/05/2025

We were chatting about anxiety in my group last night, and the conversation took a really powerful turn.

We ended up talking about self-abandonment.
And honestly… it gave me goosebumps.

Did you know anxiety and self-abandonment are deeply connected?
Because I think we often don’t.

When we go through tough stuff as kids—when things feel too big, too scary, or just too much—our nervous system steps in to protect us.
It’s clever like that.

It kind of hits the pause button on emotions we couldn’t cope with at the time.
Tucks them away.
Stores them quietly in the body.
Even if our minds don’t remember, our bodies do.
This is what’s known as implicit memory.

But, that protective pause creates a disconnect.
We start living from the head up—overthinking, analysing, staying “in control.”
Meanwhile, our bodies are holding the stories we never finished telling.

To survive, we create a version of ourselves who feels acceptable and safe.
Maybe she’s the people-pleaser.
The one who avoids conflict.
The one who works hard to be liked, approved of, not too much, not too needy.

That version kept us safe once.
But over time, it becomes a cage.
A mask.
A way we keep abandoning the real us—especially the younger version inside who still longs to be seen, held, and heard.

And that disconnection?
That’s what fuels so much of our anxiety.

Because your nervous system can’t relax when it’s constantly on guard…
When parts of you are still waiting to be acknowledged.

Inner child healing is about gently peeling back those protective layers.

Finding the little one within you—and letting her know:
You’re safe now.
You’re not too much.
You’re allowed to feel, to take up space, to be loved exactly as you are.

Do you ever feel anxious but can’t quite put your finger on why?
Maybe it’s not about what’s happening now…
Maybe it’s about what you had to leave behind in order to survive.

And maybe… it’s time to go back for her.

With love,
Hayley

Shifting anxiety is never about shifting anxiety that’s just a symptom of disconnection 🙏🏻

06/05/2025

"Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh.

There was a pause.

"Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet.

"No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do."

"That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.

"What are you doing?" asked Pooh.

"Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.”

"But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh."

And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs, he thought that his best friend had never been more right."

- by A.A. Milne

28/04/2025

You’ve done the work.
You know the patterns.
You know exactly what’s been holding you back.

And yet… you still find yourself stuck.
Caught in the same cycles, the same habits, the same self-talk.

It’s frustrating, isn’t it?
When your mind gets it but your body, your actions, your choices… they’re still wired to the old story.

So what’s missing?

Becoming.
Embodiment.

You don’t just think your way into change — you live it.

You practice it.
You become it.

This is the part where you move from knowing... to being.

Where you start showing up as the version of you who already trusts herself.

The version who doesn’t keep rehearsing the old wounds.

The version who doesn’t need to be "fixed" — because she’s already whole.

It’s not about forcing or hustling your way there.

It’s about embodying the shifts you’ve worked so hard to understand.

Tiny steps.
New choices.

Gentle reminders every day that you’re no longer available for the old stories.

You’re choosing something different now — and that’s a powerful, beautiful thing.

You’re not stuck.
You’re becoming.

And you’re so much closer than you think.

Hayley

25/04/2025

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Life is too short to spend it tangled in the opinions of others. The truth is, no matter what you do, someone will always have something to say, and that’s okay. You weren’t born to meet everyone’s expectations. You were born to live, to learn, to explore your own truth, and to grow into the person you’re meant to be. Don’t let the noise of judgment drown out the sound of your own voice. You owe it to yourself to choose peace over approval, authenticity over perfection.

The time you waste stressing over what others think is time stolen from joy, creativity, and meaningful living. The people who truly matter will accept you exactly as you are, and the rest were never meant to walk with you anyway. So breathe, let go, and remind yourself daily that your worth isn’t up for debate. Your life is yours ; and it's far too precious to be lived for anyone else..

Balt Rodriguez 🌸 Choose Yourself

Artist Credit: Naoko Stoop

25/04/2025

Not every battle is yours to fight.

One of the biggest shifts I help my clients make is learning to not get pulled into other people’s chaos.

You can see it.
You can assess it.
And then you can choose not to absorb it.

That takes practice. Especially if you’ve spent years as the helper, the fixer, the one who holds it all together.

But……
You don’t have to attend every emotional fire you’re invited to.
You don’t have to carry what was never yours to hold.

This is what nervous system care really looks like.

It’s not cold.
It’s not selfish.
It’s self-protection. It’s peace. It’s freedom.

And honestly? It’s life-changing.

If you’re ready to stop carrying what isn’t yours, let’s talk. Comment “YES” or send me a message—I’d love to help you create more peace and space in your life.

Hayley 🩷

22/04/2025

You’re not stuck.
You’re scared to leave the version of you that everyone is comfortable with...

The version of you who held it all together.
Who smiled when she was breaking inside.
Who said yes when she meant no.
Who didn’t rock the boat.
Who stayed quiet. Safe. Predictable.

That version of you helped you survive.
She made people comfortable.
She kept things calm.
She did what was needed.

But she’s exhausted now, isn’t she?

Because deep down, there’s another version of you—
One who’s louder, freer, softer, bolder.
One who wants more.
More peace. More truth. More joy. More alignment.

And while stepping into her might feel scary…
While it might feel like you're letting people down, changing the rules, or walking away from what’s "expected"—
You're not broken. You're just evolving.

It’s not stuckness.
It’s fear of being seen as your full self.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

If you're ready to peel back the layers, reconnect with who you really are underneath the masks, and step into the next version of yourself—
I’d love to walk alongside you.

This is the heart of my 1:1 work:
Reconnection. Reclamation. Evolution.

Send me a message if you're feeling the nudge.

You don’t have to stay in the version of you that no longer fits.

Hayley 💚