10/06/2025
š± The Energy You Bring Matters
When I was younger, there were some teachers I just didnāt like, not because they were ābad,ā but because from the moment we met, the energy felt harsh, critical, or cold. It shaped how I showed up around them. I closed up.
Now that I work with children, especially those with special needs, I understand something powerful:
Children donāt just respond to what we say. They respond to how we make them feel. I can understand the need for some of us to set the tone with some kids from the get go, however there's a plethora of research that proofs that humans will always gravitate to things that give them a good feeling.
One simple but transformative strategy I use is this:
I give attention, kindness, and connection even when the child isnāt doing anything āgood.ā
I show up with smiles, gentle tone, and warm presence, even when Iām not correcting or teaching.
This is called *non-contingent reinforcement,* but you donāt need the big word to understand it.
Just remember:
> āLet the child associate your presence with safety, not pressure. With connection, not correction.ā
When they feel safe with you, theyāll do more with you.
Thatās when learning can really begin.