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28/11/2025

Some of us learned early in life that to matter we needed to be admired
or pitied

That pattern continues until we see it with honesty and compassion

If you have ever asked
Why do I keep attracting narcissists

This one might touch you

Full letter is ready for you to explore

Hello friends, I woke up from a nap today with an interesting topic on my mind. It is one that might challenge us, stir emotional charge, or disru...

21/11/2025

There is a quiet truth many of us overlook.

Most communication breakdowns have very little to do with the words we speak to others and almost everything to do with the words we speak to ourselves.

If your inner world is full of pressure, shame, or hidden conflict, your outer world will always feel tense. You will hear criticism where none exists. You will feel misunderstood even when someone is trying to understand. You will react to others the same way you react to yourself.

This is why the first brick of communication is not technique.
It is not tone.
It is not strategy.

It is the language of self acceptance.

This simple shift opens the door to an entirely different relationship with your internal landscape. It softens the inner critic, brings forward the quieter emotions you have been ignoring, and makes space for honesty without shame.

When your internal language changes, everything outside of you begins to shift.
Your relationships.
Your reactions.
Your sense of safety.
Your ability to actually hear and be heard.

This new long form newsletter goes into the heart of this work. It is for those who are ready to explore communication as an inner practice before it becomes an outer one.

If you are willing to look within, a part of me feels you will find something meaningful here.

Full piece available now.

Evening, afternoon, morning, depending on where you are in the world. We are stepping into a conversation I have wanted to bring forward for a lon...

17/11/2025

lluminate 2026

There’s a difference between learning to coach and learning to become.

Illuminate isn’t only for coaches. It’s for anyone ready to move through life with more grace, ease, and resilience.

It’s a journey into the art and science of being human, where questions become medicine, awareness becomes movement, and presence becomes your greatest tool.

For 2026, I’m exploring bringing Illuminate back live for its 5th run.

If something in you is whispering yes, check out the full post below

or jump straight to waitlist here

https://www.explorewithjator.com/illuminate-wait

Illuminate: A Return to Inner Mastery Hello my friends, Each year, I revisit Illuminate with new eyes. What began as a holistic coach training pr...

14/11/2025

I have been thinking a lot about the thyroid and the liver, not as two separate organs, but as two reflections of how we meet our lives.

Many people want detox protocols, supplements, or perfect diets, but very few want to explore the emotional roots underneath why the body is struggling in the first place.

What if your thyroid is slowing you down because your mind refuses to?
What if your liver is overwhelmed because of what you keep swallowing emotionally?

What if fatigue is not a failure, but a request?

I spent time breaking down the physiology and the emotional symbolism, and how both weave together far more than most people ever realize.

If you want the full exploration, the full depth, and the questions that might change the way you see your symptoms, the long form newsletter is waiting for you.

A deeper look into what the body is trying to say Hello friends, Today I want to speak to the connection between the thyroid and the liver, not s...

07/11/2025

The Magical Mind of the Child & The Sovereignty of the Self

What if no one was ever responsible for how you feel?
Not your partner, not your parents, not your friends.

What if the happiness you give credit to others for,
and the pain you blame them for,
were both created by the same source: you?

We grow up believing others cause our emotions,
but emotional maturity asks something far deeper:
to take our power back,
to stop outsourcing our joy and our pain,
and to begin re-parenting the child within who still believes it’s someone else’s job to make us feel safe.

This piece explores the shift from the magical mind of a child
to the sovereignty of self,
where we stop chasing control
and start cultivating inner safety.

Read the full reflection here: https://www.explorewithjator.com/blog/113060-the-magical-mind-of-the-child-the

Hello friends, Over the years, through my own life, through teaching, and through walking beside many clients, I’ve noticed something both simple ...

04/11/2025

**The Dark Side of Meditation**

We often talk about meditation as light, calm, and peace. But like everything in life, it has a shadow.

In my own experience, meditation can quietly become a form of denial a way of numbing feelings rather than meeting them. It can turn into hiding instead of seeking, or even a kind of spiritual arrogance, where the ego puts on a robe of stillness and calls itself enlightened.

At times, I’ve used meditation to silence the parts of me that were hurting the same way adults once silenced me as a child. That’s when I realized the dark side of meditation isn’t the practice itself, but how we use it to avoid being fully human.

Real meditation, to me, is allowing both the observer and the participant to coexist. To watch and to feel. To be calm and messy. To be spirit and flesh.

Awareness isn’t about escaping humanity. It’s about embracing every part of it. Full Post

Hello my friends, welcome back. Today I want to explore something we rarely talk about, the dark side of meditation. We often hear meditation desc...

24/10/2025

Why We Celebrate Through Self-Criticism

Most of us don’t realize how often we celebrate ourselves through criticism.
We call it self-awareness or striving for growth, but underneath it’s usually fear. Fear of slowing down. Fear of pride. Fear of being seen.

We’ve learned to feel safe through self-attack. To mistake self-control for self-respect. To survive instead of thrive.

So when acknowledgment appears, when a part of us whispers you’re doing well, another part steps in and says, don’t get ahead of yourself.
But what if we learned to celebrate differently?

To celebrate through courage, through acknowledgment, through noticing how far we’ve come.

Would you be willing, even once today, to celebrate yourself without needing to earn it first?
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When we look at the literal idea of trigger points in the body, some of us do not actually feel pain. We are not aware of it. Many of us, myself in...

17/10/2025

Foam Rolling the Ego

Most of us use a foam roller to find tightness in the body.
But what about the tightness we carry in the mind or heart?

We all have hidden trigger points places where pain, fear, or old stories live quietly beneath awareness.

Life has its own way of “rolling” over them.
Through tension.
Through conflict.
Through moments that do not go our way.

When we meet resistance, we are being invited to explore what still hurts and what is ready to move.

This week’s newsletter explores what I call foam rolling the ego, how physical pain mirrors emotional knots, why starting anywhere (even with the body) matters, and how awakening can change how others experience us.

It’s an exploration of pressure, pain, and freedom.
Read the full newsletter →

When we look at the literal idea of trigger points in the body, some of us do not actually feel pain. We are not aware of it. Many of us, myself in...

10/10/2025

Becoming Your Own Guru

What if the teachers you look up to are really mirrors reflecting your own potential?

Becoming your own guru isn’t about rejecting guidance. It’s about learning to trust your own inner knowing while recognizing that what you admire in others already lives within you.

Every interaction, every projection, every moment of admiration or judgment is an invitation to see yourself more clearly.

Maybe the real journey isn’t about finding the next guru, but realizing the one that’s already inside you.

Read the full reflection here → https://www.explorewithjator.com/.../111240-becoming-your...

11/09/2025

Defensiveness, Security, and Separation

Notice the places where you believe so deeply that you know the right way. Do you defend those beliefs? Attack others who disagree?

Often, beneath that need to defend is insecurity. We cling to rigid certainty because it gives us a false sense of safety. But this separation, me versus them, only closes the door to connection.

What would it look like to unweld the mind, to open toward others with curiosity rather than defense?

Full Post
https://www.explorewithjator.com/blog/110240-loyalty-or-respect

RIP Charlie Kirk

29/08/2025

When we start looking closely at who we think we are, we often encounter something unexpected: the roles we play in life and the identities we carry with us.

Sometimes they overlap, sometimes they blur together, and sometimes they create confusion.

Am I the role I play?
Am I the story I tell?
Or is there something beneath all of that, something closer to pure experience without complex thought?

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And away we go.. When we start looking closely at who we think we are, we often encounter something unexpected: the roles we play in life and the ...

23/08/2025

https://www.explorewithjator.com/blog/109879-the-subtle-art-of-hiding

Deflecting, hiding, dissociating, and numbing out can be incredibly painful experiences. Not always the obvious kind of pain, but the subtle kind t...