02/07/2016
EFT is an amazing tool to use ‘in the moment’ when your ‘stuff’ is being ‘triggered’ and it’s all coming up. Our subconscious is fantastic at showing us what needs to be healed and often this gift will come to us through other people in our lives, especially those closest to us like our family, our partners and friends. But it can also happen through people we don’t know, for example, if we find ourselves judging someone, our subconscious is saying ‘hey, you need to heal this in yourself’.
When I first began healing, everything was coming up so powerfully, that I felt overwhelmed with it all. I was getting triggered left, right and centre, with my ego desperately trying to put the blame on someone or something else.
If this kind of thing is happening to you, the healing door is wide open, and EFT is the perfect tool for clearing. It is not necessary to spend hours and hours talking about the issues and it is not necessary to know where it comes from or why. It only matters that there is an opportunity for healing and that you can heal it yourself.
All you need to remember are 8 points on the body, the places where you will be tapping. The first one is the karate chop point, on the side of either hand (it doesn’t matter which side of the body you use, and you can swap over whenever you want). This is the point used for what is called ‘the set-up’.
In that moment of intensity, when the anger or fear has bubbled up, or when you are with the anxiety of trying to push it all down, give yourself some space, remove yourself from the situation and take a few minutes out.
Tap on the side of the hand and make a clear statement out loud of what you are feeling or thinking. It could be an emotion, it could be a thought or an image, and it could be a memory or a feeling in your body. Just tap and have a dialogue with yourself. Get it all out and allow yourself to be totally honest. Say it how it is. There is no-one else to hear what you are saying. When we allow ourselves this freedom, we feel a huge relief as self-acceptance sweeps through our body. It’s ok. Whatever we are feeling or thinking is ok. When you have said everything you need to, and it could be one short sentence or a five minute rant, say ‘even though I have these feelings/thoughts/images/memories (whatever is appropriate), I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
It may be that saying ‘I love and accept myself’ brings up more stuff. Brilliant! Just let it come up and go with the feeling, let it rise up and be with it. These things are like little children and they need our love, our acceptance and our attention.
Next tap on the eight points from the top of the head down to the under arm. Tap on each point a few times using two fingers, except for the top of the head, the collar bone and underarm where it is much easier to pat gently with an open hand. Say a few words as a reminder phrase if you need to, a few words that really sum up the whole issue. If you are feeling emotion, however, it is not necessary. Just feel it and tap, tap, tap. There may be a particular point or points that really do it for you, where you feel a much greater release. Give more attention to these points and also listen to your intuition and be guided. It doesn’t matter where you tap, how many times you tap or in what order you do it, just go with it until you either feel calmer or some new material comes up.
You may be tapping on feeling anxious or angry when you are suddenly hit by a wave of great sadness. Just keep on tapping, this time focusing on the sadness. This sadness may bring up a memory of something that happened in the past; keep tapping, only now focusing on the memory.
What you are doing is climbing down a healing ladder into your subconscious, guided by you. It is very gentle, and yet powerfully healing.
Take regular, gentle breaths; a good place to do this is at the collar bone point. I pat this place gently with an open hand and find it very soothing to take a full breath after tapping, with my hand gently resting there.
Keep going with this until you reach a place of calm, tapping from the top of the head down. It depends on how much stuff you have coming up. It could take a few minutes or it could take an hour. But you are so in the moment that even an hour feels like a few minutes!
There are two more elements that you may wish to add at the end. The first is forgiveness and the second is a positive intention; how you would like to feel or what you would like to create.
Tap on the side of the hand and state out loud ‘even though I felt this way/thought this way/this thing happened (whatever is appropriate), I do love and accept myself and I now forgive myself and anyone else who contributed to this problem’. Then tap down from the head to the under arm and repeat ‘I forgive myself and anyone else who contributed to this issue’.
To instil a positive state, choose what you would like to be feeling or what you would like to create. This could be peace, freedom, love, acceptance, joy, anything. Think big and really allow yourself to choose whatever you want. Tap on each of the points from the head down, stating out loud as you tap on each point ‘I now choose to feel love, I choose abundance, I am happy etc’. Now close your eyes, take one more full and gentle breath, and give thanks for the healing that you have received.
You will feel great!
