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Certified Intimacy Coach and Mom of three, supporting parents to find passion, play, without the awkward pressure - even in the chaos of kids

Sofia is a certified intimacy coach who has reinvented her intimate life three times after three kids. She specializes in working with parents who are struggling to find the time, energy, and desire for naked fun after kids. She's your totally TMI bedroom bestie here to share the science of s.e.x, a dose of real talk, and cheerleading support to find the pleasure and passion in your relationship again. If you are tired of laying in bed at night afraid to make a move, or wondering how you will creatively say no tonight - I invite you to reach out. Regular, easy, naked fun that feels great for you both - is closer than you think.

08/10/2025

You love your partner, but everything about them annoys you now and the thought of getting naked with them? Forget about it.

I know you want to want it.
I know you hate that you are fighting about secs or the lack of it.
I know you hate that it's a big elephant in your bedroom that you can't talk about.

So let's talk about it together.

As a Certified Intimacy Coach I have a trick of two up my sleeves to show you how to keep the spark alive while your hormones rage (and maybe you do too).

In this free session we'll cover:

- Why “not tonight” doesn’t mean “never again.”
- What’s really blocking desire in perimenopause, and why it’s not your fault.
- Three simple, pressure-free shifts you can use tonight.
- and my fave tool you and your partner can take home to make this easier.

DM me MIDLIFE to get your free ticket. See you there babes.

07/10/2025

Stop waiting for libido dust and do this instead 👇As a certified intimacy coach I can tell you that your libido can disappear for so many reasons.

Stress
Hormones
Sleep
Relationship resentment

But chasing the root symptom can be like playing a game of whack a mole - you get one and another pops up. Cause life keeps lifeing.

Continuing to chase “fixing yourself” is like waiting for the perfect conditions for secs in a house filled with of kids while you are going through second puberty.

My solution ? I help clients create the conditions for liftoff in the bedroom- not with pills and hormones hacks, but with good old fashioned basic bitch tools. Like actually knowing the science of how your libido works and making secs a fun safe and relaxing place for your partner to go.

Wanna know how ?

You can start by grabbing my free guide to initiating connection ( or a sexy time) without rejection or forcing yourself. It’s perfect for high and low libido partners. dM me TOUCH to grab it now free.

02/10/2025

If it’s time to make a change but you don’t know how - let me help you get there. As a certified intimacy coach and a mom of three I’ve built a step by step process for your busy life designed to get you back to easy, fun and consistent secs - even in the chaos of kids. Who doesn’t want that ? Dm me the word SPARK and let’s make your game plan. No pressure to work together just clarity on your next step so you don’t spend another awkward night trying to make a move.

01/10/2025

ROCK YOUR COUGAR PUBERTY 👇

I have been loving the perimenopause conversations we've been having here so it's the perfect time to share that I am speaking at the Midlife Reset Summit.

I'm not quite in peri yet but I know I am flirting with it and it's time to start learning about what to expect and how to support myself and my relationship through these years.

Of course I'll be talking about How to Want Secs When Your Body is on Fire and there will be 20 other speakers I can't wait to check out covering everything from stress and gut health to inner child work and holding on to joy.

DM me the word MIDLIFE to grab the link for this FREE event.

See you there.

27/09/2025

It is possible to have a fab secs life and a strong relationship connection through perimenopause if….

👉 you make a plan together
👉 you keep learning as a team
👉 you keep making the choice to show up to your relationship
👉you get the support you need instead of guessing

It’s been such a pleasure collaborating with Brooke@marriageinperimenopause this week.

Keep your questions coming in the comments below and stay tuned for her apparence on the Secs After Kids Podcast soon.

I’m rooting for you.

Are you ready to bring in reinforcements and stop the guesswork on your today - DM me SPARK and let’s plan your naked fun comeback together for free.

25/09/2025

As a certified intimacy coach I hear OVER and OVER again: you HATE SCHEDULING SEcs. 😩  I totally get it. It’s not sexy, it’s not spontaneous, and who wants to face that awkward first minute of looking at each other thinking, “ugh, how do we do this again?” 
Maybe you’ve made it mean something about you failing at secs because you need to put it on the calendar. As your friendly TMI bedroom bestie, I’m gonna say this:  Waiting for spontaneous, fireworks-worthy secs in the middle of life with kids, work and hormone hell? You’ll be waiting a loooong time. ⏰ 
Think about it: You book your dental appointment, your kid’s checkup, even your oil change. Because it matters. Your relationship matters just as much, maybe more.   So why do you prioritize scheduling life’s admin, but not quality time with the people we love the most? 🤔  
My four part framework for scheduling a secs date that doesn’t suck has saved me over and over again.
My client Jenny is still using it five years later when she needs to inject some energy into her secs life.
Comment DATE to book a free Spark session and make a plan for how to schedule your next sexy date, no matter how long it’s been.  
What’s your top tip for a fab secs date ? Comment below.

24/09/2025

When we white knuckle perimenopause without an awareness of how hormones and body changes are affecting our intimacy, we wake up and find ourselves in roommate mode.   That platonic place where we are:
👉 doing life together but we don’t touch, flirt, or play together anymore.
👉forego intentional connection time to give everyone room to do their own thing
👉 awkwardly look at each other before bed, unsure what to do
👉 sleeping in separate beds or not cuddling cause she’s a furnace at night

Too much of this and our relationship feels flat and unrecognizable.   If we fight about or ignore our intimacy we can end up in doubting our partner love us, or worse, end a perfectly good relationship - because we just couldn’t master the whole secs thing.   It’s not your fault it feels so hard. We didn’t learn about this in high school health class.   As a certified intimacy coach and a mom who rebuilt her intimate life through three kids in midlife, I’m here to say it’s not rocket science.   Follow the simple steps above and you’ll find yourself flirting, laughing and connecting again (inside the bedroom and out).

DM me the word TOUCH to get my Free TOUCH AGAIN TONIGHT framework. I made it to help both higher and lower libido partners to initiate connection or secs without shut down, pressure, or forcing anything.

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23/09/2025

We can’t change what we can’t talk about, and yes so many of us get stuck in shutdown when it comes to talking about intimacy. It’s vulnerable, scary, loaded with pressure, and triggers all those negative subconscious beliefs we have about intimacy.
 Why does it feel so hard?   Well for one we live in a society that shames and openly shuts down conversations about intimacy ( I can’t even say the real word here).   So have a little grace with yourselves and give the strategies here a try.   You can keep your bedroom life alive through perimenopause, without pressuring anyone or forcing yourself to get jiggy with it.
If you want to open the conversation with strategy #4 Comment TOUCH and I’ll send you my free Touch Again Tonight Framework - my no pressure, no shut down framework for initiating connection for high and low libido partners.
And a reminder to DM us your questions about intimacy through perimenopause. We’ll answer them in stories this week.
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