31/03/2025
It’s more often rejection, abandonment, failure, discomfort, embarrassment or a whole host of other historical things that we’re afraid of - not the actual thing in front of us.
Emotional resilience is learning how to sit with the discomfort that comes along with putting yourself out there (or being in relationship, or being vulnerable, or, you know, just being a human), and learning how to meet those sensations safely in the present moment.
It comes from updating the history stored in the body that tells us we won't be safe.
It's letting those sensations come up, being with them, and letting the energy move through you.
Recognizing that discomfort itself isn’t inherently bad; in fact, its presence often paves the way to deeper growth and greater joy.
Learning to be present with discomfort is an enormous part of developing self trust. When you begin to believe that you can handle it when things don’t go perfectly (and the more often this is actually true), the more you’re able to trust yourself to let things happen without trying to control them. And the narratives you have about yourself and others can begin to shift.
And the more self-trust you have, the more likely you are to try new things!
The key is to start noticing and meeting the sensations in your body safely - that’s the only way.
Be present to fear and allow it to exist.
Be present to anxiety and meet it with compassion.
Be present to anger and honor its message.
I’m not saying it’s not hard,
I’m saying it’s how we become resilient.
If you're working in this direction, I highly recommend joining the 6 week Self Awareness Workshop beginning April 22. It's 6 weeks of small group, connective learning for cycle breakers who are learning how to love themselves and enter into healthier relational dynamics.
This is the only time I'll be teaching this workshop in 2025!
Only a couple of spots left in the 10am pacific workshop!
https://theeqschool.co/self-awareness-sign-up
