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Getting Them Sober Million-selling ''Getting Them Sober'' books, by Toby Rice Drews, psychology professor; phone consultations call 443-756-9352

24/03/2023

Happy Birthday in heaven Toby! You made a difference in the world and will always be remembered. We love you and miss you,

01/10/2022

Toby texted me many things to post on the FB page. This is a text from 12/20/20. She may be gone but her wisdom and spirit lives on! ..........,............... James was walking with others on an unfamiliar path....... He encountered a high wall and tried to figure out how to climb over it. He finally noticed that his friends were just walking around it and moving on.
Don't we all do this at times? We try to figure out how to climb over------ surmount------- obstacles....... Instead of just looking to the side of them and seeing the easier options.

14/10/2021

It is with great sadness that we announce the death of the President and Founder of the Getting Them Sober Foundation, and tireless, passionate, champion and protector of families of alcoholics, Toby Rice Drews, who passed away September 22, 2021, at the age of 78 in a hospital in Baltimore Maryland.

Toby was born in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. She survived many challenges growing up.

She received her Masters Degree from Johns Hopkins University and afterwards she worked as a fashion copywriter; taught emotionally-disturbed children and ran a crisis room for Baltimore City Schools; and finally found what she was meant to do wrote articles on alcoholism for national magazines. In the 1970's, she developed and taught courses in colleges in Maryland, on alcoholism and the family. She was a pioneer in the field as no one was talking about alcoholism at that time. Her first groundbreaking book "Getting Them Sober" sold millions of copies and has been translated into many languages. Her book has been endorsed by 'dear Abby', Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, and Melody Beattie. She went on to write many other books to help families of alcoholics and on the subject of alcoholism. She produced a video for Families of Alcoholics which Larry Gatlin wrote the theme song for it called, “There’s a Light at the End of the Darkness.” Gatlin’s song rings true as Toby was the “light at the end of the darkness” for so many who read her books. She saved many lives and helped countless people through her generous sharing of information and knowledge on her website, newsletters, social media, and individual counseling services. She will be missed for her tireless and ceaseless efforts in the Family Disease of Alcoholism

She is preceded in death by her husband Ron and two sisters. She is survived by her adopted family: Tony, Heidi, Carla, Eve, Larry, John, Mary and all the Families of Alcoholics whom she helped and loved.

A beautiful Memorial Service was held at Sol Levinson and Bros. Funeral Home 8900 Reisterstown Rd, Garrison Maryland on September 24, 2021.

The Board of Directors of the Getting Them Sober Foundation is looking into ways to keep Toby's memory and the Foundation alive.

If Toby, has touched your life and you would like to express your appreciation, please consider a donation to the above named funeral home for assistance with expenses related to the burial.

24/07/2021

We don't have to be wonderful to be loved

Don't look for your image in a cracked mirror
18/07/2021

Don't look for your image in a cracked mirror

07/07/2021

Are you poor or rich feeling mainly because of how you were raised to think about yourself

25/05/2021

We're all here.
We all go..
No use comparing ourselves....we are all
Brother and sister

17/03/2021

Be careful tomorrow driving... St. Patrick's day... Lots of drinking

22/02/2021

Most people go through Stuff that makes them unhappy..... As AA says.... Acceptance is the answer to all my problems.. Not that they're good but accepting that we can still have good parts of days around them ....lots of good parts when i call others and think about what troubles them and try to help them even if my efforts are in vain... Just getting my head out of me my problems will help me... And the ripple effect will help others

07/02/2021

This helps when trying to lessen anxiety and live more in the moment------

Hear something in the room and think about it. It can be the sound of a car driving by or someone walking in the house etc etc.
Think about something you smell in your home like lemon in your tea etc etc

Think about something you see that you like. It can be a photo of a rose in the magazine you're reading.

17/01/2021

If a colleague at work is chronically trying to control and criticize you and others..... It does help inside ourselves to pray for them.... It will relax our insides and plant good seeds in them.

06/01/2021

Probably the hardest thing to do spiritually is to forgive oneself for what we know we mustn't do when we keep doing it....
One thing that works sometimes is to remember that we can start our day again even if it's already nighttime.

31/12/2020

The Getting Them Sober Foundation wishes a peaceful 2021 to the families of alcoholics.

31/12/2020

A delivery man told me today that he used to go to New Years parties but now he stays safe and is alone because of Covid. He said he's doing well because he "only stays alone and parties"---- he gets drunk but stays alone. A lot of alcoholics use the word party as a verb. Not as a noun.

If am always waiting for the other shoe to drop.... Then I'm not taking care of myself.... Loving self is soooo much joi...
30/12/2020

If am always waiting for the other shoe to drop.... Then I'm not taking care of myself.... Loving self is soooo much joining God to treat myself as a Child of God.

25/12/2020

"Dao said ........ When he sent his wise men to meet Jesus........ That the breath of Divinity is walking on the earth.

18/12/2020

When James was walking with others on an unfamiliar path....... He encountered a high wall and tried to figure out how to climb over it. He finally noticed that his friends were just walking around it and moving on.
Don't we all do this at times? We try to figure out how to climb over------ surmount------- obstacles....... Instead of just looking to the side of them and seeing the easier options.

16/12/2020

On Youtube... You can search for and watch the 10-minute version of the Getting Them Sober video------ with Larry Gatlin singing "The Light at the End of the Darkness"

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Toby Rice Drews was born in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania; grew up in an alcoholic home, where there was major violence, drinking, gambling addiction, and poverty. Her father was the Congressional Aide and ghost-writer for John Phillip Hill, a Republican Congressman, in Baltimore, Maryland, for 14 years. Toby lost her father when she was 12 years old, to his late-stage alcoholism. Her sister, also a published author, wrote books on aging and grief issues. Toby, the youngest child in her family (15 years younger than her oldest sister), was never told by her mother that her father had been a writer and Congressional Aide. She learned about her father's work from others. Her mother always just referred to him as "that bum, that drunk''. Toby does not remember her father ever being sober. But she still misses him. She understands her mother's anger that stayed with her until she died... but Toby wanted to help others who were married to alcoholics, to be able to find answers to this terrible family-destroying affliction. The seed was in her to do this----- at the age of 12, right after her father died, Toby won a national award for her short story about a little girl whose father was an alcoholic, from the Women's Christian Temperance Union. After graduate school at Johns Hopkins University, she worked as a fashions copywriter; taught emotionally-disturbed children and ran a crisis room for Baltimore City Schools; and finally found what she was meant to do----- wrote articles on alcoholism for national magazines, and in the 1970's -- developed and taught courses in colleges in Maryland, on alcoholism and the family. No one was talking about alcoholism then----- and her first book--- "Getting Them Sober, volume one" (endorsed by 'dear Abby', Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, and Melody Beattie)-- exploded in word-of-mouth million-plus sales around the world. Chock full of hundreds of practical and effective suggestions for sobriety and recovery, it is still the most recommended book for the family of the alcoholic by therapists and clergy, in the U.S. More books followed----- "Getting Them Sober, volume 2'' is all about family healing.... "Getting Them Sober, volume three'' has more urgent help, plus half the book details the 350 secondary diseases/disorders that result from alcoholism... "Getting Them Sober, volume 4'' has tremendous help for those who are divorcing or separating from an alcoholic---- with all the hidden issues that one cannot anticipate, but happen. "Getting Your Children Sober'' is the most gentle and helpful book for parents of children of all ages who have addiction..... "S*x and the Sober Alcoholic'' is for anyone involved with an alcoholic, sober or not..... "Get Rid of Anxiety and Stress'' with dozens of practical, do-able, and immediate ideas for comfort ..... "Answering the Crazymaking'' will bring peace to all the beneath-the-surface issues that we face, having lived with alcoholism and the damage its done to us. Currently, Toby trains counselors throughout the U.S. and Canada ---- and is available for consultations with families and alcoholics by telephone. She can be reached at 410-243-8352 or 443-756-9352 in Baltimore, Maryland.