07/11/2025
Sometimes life surprises us in ways we don’t expect, and today was one of those days. It didn’t go as planned, but these hard moments often teach us the most and remind us what gratitude really means.
Originally, Buffy was on the schedule for a dental cleaning and some extractions, but Dr. Mac trusted her instincts and decided to double-check some bloodwork before moving forward with anesthesia. That choice turned out to be right — Buffy’s results revealed advanced kidney disease, making anesthesia too risky. As a family, we knew the most loving choice we could make was to say goodbye gently, before she suffered or lost her will to eat and drink.
There was never a moment when I considered making that decision without Robbie or keeping him away from any part of it. I drove straight to school to bring him home. In the car, he looked at me and said he wanted to be the one to hold Buffy when she went to heaven — and of course, I let him. Later, on our way back, I told him just how proud I was that he understands what it means to care for old animals and protect them from pain.
His response broke my heart in the best possible way. For anyone who may not know, Robbie came into our lives through foster care after surviving years of neglect and abuse.
“I understand how it feels to not have love or care, and I never want my animals to feel that way,” he told me. “When they go to heaven, it’s only sad for us — it’s a happy day for them. Thanks for being proud of me. Are you okay, Mom?”
It’s amazing what children can teach us.
More people have been hearing our story, so I feel like I should share a bit more to show who Robbie really is. We make it our mission to adopt senior dogs. Robbie loves bringing older dogs into our family. He’s painfully aware that the longer a child stays in foster care, the less likely they are to be adopted. Once he told me, “If all you wanted was a baby, you would’ve never picked me.” He connects with our “old people” — as we call our senior dogs — in the same way.
He’s also reminded me time and again that how long you have someone doesn’t measure how deeply you can love them. When I asked what he meant by that, he said, “Well, you’ve only known me for two years, but you love me like it’s been forever.”
Honestly, my son is one of a kind.
Credit: Maria Henry Gay