11/07/2025
I see it ALL the time:
Women will have this incredible home birth because they want to honor nature’s design… then immediately postpartum, they abandon nature’s design in the name of “convenience.”
I hear moms say,
“I wasn’t getting any sleep, so I hired a postpartum doula who also sleep trains.”
😩 It breaks my heart because you have no idea how much more sleep you would get if you simply pulled that baby out of the bassinet and learned to safely co-sleep.
Not only would you get more sleep, but your baby would develop healthy sleep regulation.
So much of our adult sleep issues are rooted in the fear-based SIDS propaganda from the 80s. (If you know, you know. 💉)
Here’s the truth:
You don’t need a night nurse.
You don’t need a night doula (unless your husband travels and you have zero community).
You need:
– your bo***es,
– a firm mattress,
– someone to show you side-lying breastfeeding,
– and how to safely co-sleep.
I’ve done this with both my girls. My 5-year-old sleeps 12 hours straight on a twin bed next to our king. If she has a growth spurt or nightmare, I can comfort her in 2 seconds—no screaming, no running down the hall, no “sleep regressions.”
We create safe, loving sleep for our children just like we do with birth and all of our other parenting choices. It is a selfless act of love that regulates their nervous system, grows healthy brains, and fosters secure connection for life.
👉🏼 This isn’t to shame you. It’s to EMPOWER you.
Being a mother and father is not about convenience. Your baby is not an accessory to your lifestyle. It is your full-time job to help them grow into secure, loving adults.
Your sleep obsession is actually dysregulating both your nervous system and your baby’s.
Stop hiring postpartum doulas to take your baby at night.
Hire them to support YOU—
to cook, clean, encourage,
help you with breastfeeding,
and remind you that you are capable.
Your baby needs YOU.
Your baby needs your body.
Your baby needs your presence, even at night.
🌿 Trust God’s design. Trust your baby. Trust yourself.
