20/07/2025
SAVF Huis Dien Bothma 010 - 247 NPO
" If I get dementia, Iโd like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
1. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. โHi Mum- itโs Margaret.โ
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
2. Embrace my reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think weโre visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. Iโll be much happier for it.
3. If I get dementia, donโt argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
7. If I get dementia, I donโt want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that Iโve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
10. If I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
11. Treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I donโt eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
13. Donโt talk about me as if Iโm not in the room.
14. If I get dementia, donโt feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Itโs not your fault, and youโve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
15. If I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
16. If I get dementia, donโt act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. Itโs not my fault.
17. Make sure I often have my favorite music playing within earshot.
18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
19. If I get dementia, donโt exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
20. Know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.โ
In honour of all those who care for, who have loved and who have lost someone with Dementia/Alzheimerโs.
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-Credit given to unknown author-
