Rational Therapy

21/08/2025

Having trouble with feeling hurt? REBT has some ideas on how to deal with that - see my latest article on the subject below!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/understanding-emotional-hurt/

14/07/2025

A persistent and problematic idea is that we can control other people (and that they can control us). REBT has other ideas, and in this article, I take a look at the myth of controlling others.
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/cannot-control-others/

05/06/2025

Self-Esteem seems like a good idea initially but has severe limitations. Have a look at a REBT alternative below!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/there-are-no-bad-or-good-people-giving-up-self-esteem-and-embracing-self-acceptance/

06/05/2025

REBT helps us distinguish between helpful and harmful emotions: And how to tip the balance toward better mental health. Read on for more on this below!

https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/helpful-vs-harmful-emotions-an-rebt-approach/

25/03/2025

If you're new to therapy, you may wonder what it's all about. Is it a mysterious, semi-magical process? Nope. Just practical steps to better mental well-being. In fact, REBT is a lot like going to see a personal trainer at the gym. Only, it's your mind going to the gym, not your muscles! Read on to find out more.
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/why-therapy-is-gym-for-the-mind/

07/03/2025

Sometimes, life can feel like one darn thing after another. It’s relatively easy to get overly upset about this state of affairs, leading to further complications. In this article, I show you how to avoid letting everyday hassles get the better of you!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/dealing-with-everyday-hassles-adversities-the-rebt-way/

14/02/2025

Angry much? In REBT, we generally don't think that anger is a beneficial emotion. To find out more about how to control your anger before it controls you, read on below!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/common-myths-about-anger-and-better-alternatives/

02/02/2025

When we convince ourselves that we can't stand adversities that come our way, we shoot ourselves squarely in the (mental) foot. Read on for some alternatives to "I-can't-stand-it-itis"!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/getting-over-things-you-think-you-cannot-stand-building-better-frustration-tolerance/

23/01/2025

Relationship anxiety is when one (or all) partners in a relationship convince themselves that they need constant validation and reassurance. It can cause major problems but can be avoided and fixed. In this article, I show you how!
https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/dealing-with-relationship-anxieties-towards-saner-more-satisfying-relationships/

21/01/2025

Self-downing much? Here are some ideas on how to stop the destructive cycle.

Many people get caught in a self-downing cycle, where they convince themselves that they are no-good failures who deserve to be left on the garbage heap. This sort of attitude leads to depression, self-doubt, reluctance to try new or difficult things, and ultimately, does not help us achieve importa...

10/12/2024

Self-downing and being hyper-critical are common problems. Does that sound like you? Read on to find some practical tips on healthier alternatives.

https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/stop-self-downing/

25/11/2024

Demanding perfection in an imperfect world is a recipe for misery and emotional upset. Rather embrace the imperfections you encounter in yourself (and those around you) for a happier, more sane life. Here's how: https://www.rationaltherapy.co.za/embracing-imperfection-for-greater-happiness/