When U Understand The Psychology Of Another You Can Love Them

11/10/2021

THAT EERIE NARC REPTILIAN STARE THAT LOOKS LIKE SHEER EVIL...

The narc looks at you with a total lack of empathy and sadistic hate...replete with a blank, cold-eyed, dead stare and an evil "half-grin" which aptly displays their hatred of those they "love" and the, thinly veiled, threat of UTTER DESTRUCTION.

It reminds me of the movies of Dracula....that very intense stare meant to unnerve you. It's a look of intense evil....and focused on you like a laser beam.

It can create fear, and in fact, it's meant to intimidate, and it does the job since it's coupled with a complete lack of empathy or remorse, and an obvious ugliness. It FEELS like what it is....you're being intensely focused on by a totally amoral person. This reptilian stare makes you very uncomfortable, and that's the intent, and it's often coupled with the silent treatment.

The reptilian stare is an odd, difficult to explain type of abuse, but needless to say, a loving relationship is not based on intimidation like this. You should not feel unsafe, but you do. The fear you feel is nebulous....you have no idea what's going on in the narcissist's mind, but you know he's as cold as ice.

This reptilian look is unsettling because it has a predatory aspect, and it often happens rather suddenly when you disagree or are not sufficiently worshipful of the N's awesomeness. It's an aspect of narcissistic rage, but instead of outrageous anger, it's like watching a fuse on a bomb. It's intense, hypnotic, and makes your blood run cold.

It's unnerving when you see that contorted look of pure evil. You're seeing when the mask completely drops. You're seeing the real narc underneath the mask.

09/09/2020

Don’t “Get over it!” Get inside of it. Get to the heart of it. Get through it. Your painful story is not some hurdle to jump over. It’s not a pole to vault. It’s a lived experience that longs for your attention. It’s a trauma that awaits your compassion. It’s an embodied truth that demands to be expressed. So next time someone tells you to “get over it”, just say NO. And then tell them to “get over” their need to trivialize other people’s challenges. Ask them to look deeply at how this repressive mantra has prevented them from healing their own wounds. They are unlikely to know, but the seed you plant may well yield fruits when the moment is ripe.

18/08/2020

To arrive at this place in my life, I had to overcome so very much. I had to overcome emotionally unwell parents, crippling abandonment issues, childhood poverty, internalized shame and self-doubt. I had to punch my way through endless challenges as I had to fight for my right to the light, time and time again, for more than 5 decades.

When people ask me how and why I did it, I only have one answer- Soul. Not masochism, not the need to be acknowledged but, instead, the deep need to fully excavate and actualize my soul’s voice- my reasons for being, my entelechy, what James Hillman called the ‘innate image’. It was like a desperate longing to be who I was called to become in this lifetime. And as difficult as it was to find and live that voice, it was easier than the uncomfortable alternative. It was easier than living a lie.

Wherever you are at on your journey through time, be assured that there is a soul path somewhere at the heart of it. And, as difficult as it may be to see it, as overwhelming as it may seem to embody it, it is well worth the effort. Once you catch a glimpse of it, it will beckon you home, like a fire of divine possibility with your name on it. And that fire… will not only show you the direction to walk, it will fuel you as you overcome the obstacles in the way. It will warm and inspire your every step.

When you walk through the gateway of your sacred purpose, you walk into yourself. Blessingly buffered from the madness of the world, your purpose filters out those relationships and energies that undermine your expansion. Infused with vitality and a clarified focus, new pathways of possibility appear where before there were obstacles. Life still has its challenges, but you interface with them differently, coated in an authenticity of purpose that sees through the veils to what really matters.

Don’t lose the faith, wherever you are on the path. Keep going. JEFF BROWN

04/08/2020

There is a big difference between projections and hard-earned wisdom. All too often, people are accused of projecting when they make bold statements about human behavior. And sometimes this is true- our perspective can emanate from our own unresolved issues. We still have a chip on our shoulder, and that chip influences our view. But sometimes, our perspective is a reflection of what we have gleaned from our experiences. Sometimes we have learned a little something from all we have endured. So let's not turn everyone’s wisdom into a mirror projection game. Because sometimes we are actually seeing through the veils to a truth that demands expression. Sometimes our insights are fully grounded in reality. JEFF BROWN

03/08/2020

It’s important to meet people where they are, not where we want them to be. There is a tendency, in many, to re-characterize people’s experiences without being asked. You tell them you are feeling badly, they tell you all the reasons you should feel good. You tell them you are challenged by your circumstances, they tell you what they think you can do to make things easier. You tell them that you have a plan to do something, they offer up another plan for you. There is a place for these offerings- particularly when requested- but often times they just make things worse. In fact, we are more likely to arrive at the next best place on our journeys when someone actually attunes to where we are at, without making any effort to improve upon or re-frame it. We don't need to be saved- we need to be seen. That's the healing, right there. I hear you, I see you, I honor your choices, goes a long, long way. Jeff Brown

13/08/2018

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24/06/2018