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Mandy Perkins Wellness Counsellor & Coach

Counsellor & Coach | Trauma, Anxiety, Relationships
Here for the moments you don’t post about - the hard, the healing, and the everyday.

Hi, I’m Mandy — a mom, wife, and Specialist Wellness Counsellor. I support women and couples through the unseen, unspoken moments of life — whether that’s anxiety, trauma, grief, burnout, or navigating big transitions. With over 20 years of experience in the wellness space, my approach is grounded, gentle, and practical. I create a safe space for you to feel, heal, and move forward — without pressure or performance. Whether you’re here for emotional support, a space to unpack life, or just a moment to catch your breath… you’re in the right place.

🤍 www.mandyperkins.co.za

24/12/2025

As this year comes to a close, I want to pause and say thank you.

Thank you for being here. For listening, reflecting, and showing up for yourself in quiet, meaningful ways. For carrying what has felt heavy with so much strength.

This year has been a lot for many of us. Full of change, emotion, growth, and moments where simply getting through the day was enough. If that has been your story, I see you.

As Christmas arrives, I hope you find moments of rest, connection, and gentleness, even if they are small. You do not need to be joyful all the time. You do not need to have everything together. You are allowed to slow down.

As we step into the new year, my wish for you is peace. Not a perfect life, not more pressure. Just steadier ground beneath your feet and space to breathe again.

Thank you for trusting me with your presence here. I look forward to walking alongside you in the year ahead.

Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and a gentle, hope-filled new year.

🩶Mandy

11/12/2025

How to survive Christmas while grieving

Christmas can feel incredibly heavy when you are grieving, especially when the world around you expects joy. If you are missing someone this season, you are not doing anything wrong. Grief often comes in waves, and this time of year brings so many reminders.

Here are some practical things that can help you this festive season:
1. Lower the pressure. You do not have to create the perfect Christmas.
2. Allow the waves when they rise. They soften when you let them move through you.
3. Honour your person in a small way. A candle, a memory, a moment that lets your heart breathe.
4. Let moments of joy in without guilt. Joy does not cancel grief. Your heart can hold both.

If this touched you, let me know in the comments and follow for more support. You do not have to carry your grief alone.

Why is Christmas so hard when you are grieving
How do I cope with grief during the holidays
Is it normal to feel waves of sadness at Christmas
How do I honour someone I lost during the festive season
Why does grief feel stronger at Christmas

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice

07/12/2025

How do you grieve when you still have to be a mum?

Grief doesn’t pause the school run, the mental load, or the noise. Most mums end up grieving in the tiny edges of their day, in the car, in the shower, in quiet moments between everything else. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Your body and subconscious are still processing the loss, even when you’re functioning and showing up for everyone else.

Something that helped me in this season was having someone to talk to - a dedicated hour each week where I could actually process my grief instead of squeezing it into the cracks of my life.

If this spoke to you, let me know in the comments and hit follow for more support. And please remember… your grief matters, even on the days you’re also being a mum.

How do mums grieve while parenting?
Why is grieving so hard when you’re a mum?
How do you cope with grief and the mental load?
Is it normal to grieve in small moments?
How do I process grief when life doesn’t pause?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

04/12/2025

Ever wondered why grief hits you out of nowhere?

It often isn’t out of nowhere at all. Even when you’re functioning, your subconscious mind is still processing the loss, and your body still holds the emotional memory of what happened. A dream, a smell, a familiar road, a quiet moment or even a week of heavy mental load can thin your emotional buffer and bring those feelings forward.
This is not regression. This is your brain and body doing their best to integrate something enormous.

If this spoke to you, let me know in the comments below and hit follow for more support. And please remember… grief can feel lonely, but you don’t have to carry it alone.

Why does grief hit me out of nowhere?
Is it normal for grief to come back suddenly?
Why do I cry randomly months after a loss?
What triggers grief unexpectedly?
How do I cope when grief hits me suddenly?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

01/12/2025

There’s one myth about grief that hurts more than it helps…

One of the hardest things about losing someone is that life carries on, yet only with time do you begin to feel the true magnitude of what you’ve lost.

This is why the idea that “time heals” so often falls flat. Time doesn’t heal. Time reveals.

If you’re grieving someone you love, you’re not alone. Share their name below if it feels right.

Why does grief still hurt after so long?
Does grief get easier with time?
How do you cope with the anniversary of a death?
Why does grief come in waves?
What helps with grief after a year?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

27/11/2025

The truth about why you end up doing “everything” at home.

The over-functioning loop happens when you’ve carried things for so long that everyone automatically assumes you’ve got it handled. Not because they don’t care, but because you’ve always stepped in first.

A gentle shift is choosing one area you’ve been doing alone and stepping back just 10 percent, but with a calm, open conversation. This isn’t punishment or resentment. It’s lightening your load and allowing the people in your life to step up and be involved.

If this made something click for you, tell me below.

What is the over-functioning loop in motherhood?
Why do mums end up doing everything at home?
How do I get my partner to share the mental load?
How can I stop over-functioning as a mum?
Why does my mental load feel so heavy?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

26/11/2025

The truth most mums don’t know about why the mental load so often feels unappreciated.

When you’ve done everything so well for so long, people genuinely stop seeing the load you’re carrying.

Not because they don’t care, but because you’ve always made it look under control.

A gentle shift is getting your mental load out of your head and onto paper, then bringing your family into a soft, honest conversation.

Most partners honestly say, “I didn’t realise… how can I help?”

If this spoke to you, tell me below.

Why does the mental load feel so heavy for mums?
What is invisible competence in motherhood?
How do I share the mental load with my partner?
Why do I feel unappreciated at home?
How can I reduce the mental load as a mum?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

25/11/2025

If you’re a mum who feels like the whole mental load keeps landing on you… this could be why…

Research shows many high-functioning mums slip into internalised responsibility without noticing.

It sounds like, “I’ll just do it,” or “It’s easier if I handle it.”

A gentle shift is choosing one small task you hand over with a kind, clear conversation, and letting it be done differently.

Support often grows when we allow space for it.

If this landed, tell me below.

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Why do mums carry the mental load?
What causes mental overload in mums?
How can I share the mental load at home?
How do I stop feeling responsible for everything?
What is internalised responsibility in motherhood?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

24/11/2025

Why mums carry so much more of the mental load than anyone realises

There is a reason your mind feels full before the day even begins.

Even when you love being a mum, and even when you have support, the mental load builds quietly — the remembering, the planning, the anticipating, the holding-it-all-together.

Research shows that many high-functioning women carry more because of internalised responsibility, invisible competence and the over-functioning loop.
These patterns make the mental load heavier than it should ever have to be.

Once you can see them, you can start shifting them.
You don’t need to carry all of this in the same way you always have.

Awareness creates space for change.

If this explained something you’ve been feeling, tell me below. I’d love to know which part landed most for you.

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Why do mums carry the mental load?
What increases the mental load for mothers?
Why do I feel responsible for everything as a mum?
How do I share the mental load at home?
What is the over-functioning loop in motherhood?

💛 This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

22/11/2025

If you want to feel less overstimulated as a mum, these small shifts really help.

Slow breathing. A little movement. Watch your caffeine. Eat regularly. Do one thing at a time.
Create small pockets of quiet. And add white time into your week so your nervous system has space to reset.

Ask yourself... are you in your diary?

Comment RESET if you want my free Nervous System Reset Guide.

Why do mums get overstimulated?
How can I feel less overwhelmed as a mum?
What daily habits help overstimulation?
Why do small things trigger me?
How do I regulate as a busy mum?

This content is for educational and emotional support only and should not replace medical or professional advice.

21/11/2025

South Africa, we need to talk about what’s happening to our women.

Today, thousands of women are making a stand.
Standing in remembrance.
Standing for safety.
Standing because what is happening in our country is not normal and cannot continue.

According to Women For Change, 5,578 women were murdered between April 2023 and March 2024.
That is around 15 women every single day.
Mothers, daughters, friends, sisters - women who should still be here.

Today, I honour every woman whose life was taken.
And I hold space for the women who are still living in fear, still fighting silent battles behind closed doors.

If that is you, please hear this:
You are not alone. Your life matters. Your safety matters. There is help and there is hope.

They tried to silence them. We won’t. We stand together.

If you’re standing with South African women today, comment a 💜 so we rise together.

How many women are killed in South Africa each year?
What are the latest GBV statistics in South Africa?
What does the purple profile picture movement mean?
How can I support women facing gender based violence?
What is Women For Change South Africa?

21/11/2025

Today, women across South Africa are turning their profiles purple.

It is a simple act with a powerful meaning.

According to Women For Change, 5,578 women were murdered in South Africa between April 2023 and March 2024.
That is around 15 women every single day.

Mothers. Daughters. Friends. Sisters.
Women whose lives mattered.

Today, I pause to remember them.
I honour the women whose voices were taken.
I hold space for the women who are still living in fear, still fighting silent battles behind closed doors.

If you are a woman reading this and you feel scared, stuck, ashamed, or unsure of your next step…
You are not alone. Your life matters. Your safety matters. Your story matters.

💜 Today we remember the women we lost.
💜 Today we stand with the women who are still fighting.
💜 Today we refuse to look away.
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