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Frances Calitz NLP Practioner & Master Life Coach, Edenvale (2025)

24/03/2024

Based in Buurendal, Edenvale.

Thank you to all those that have taken advantage of this special - I know that you are reaping the benefits of our sessions.

This is the last chance to take advantage of this amazing offer as it finishes the end of March 2024.

Contact me before end March, book your sessions through April / May 2024 and still pay the special offer price.

R250 per hour session - min of 4 sessions payable in advance.

This special is available to those that would like the opportunity to explore their emotional and mental wellbeing at a much lower fee than usual.

The invisible wound - trauma / emotional distress is felt but cannot be seen.

Seeking out a life coach is not an acknowledgment of weakness or shame but instead taking responsibility for your emotional and mental health.

07/03/2024

Based in Buurendal, Edenvale.

I’m extending this unbelievable special offer until end March 2024.

R250 per hour session - min of 4 sessions payable in advance.

This special is available to those that would like the opportunity to explore their emotional and mental wellbeing at a much lower fee than usual.

The invisible wound - trauma / emotional distress is felt but cannot be seen.

Seeking out a life coach is not an acknowledgment of weakness or shame but instead taking responsibility for your emotional and mental health.

22/01/2024

Unbelievable special offer for first 10 people to sign up and pay.
Jan and Feb are the longest two months of the year.
With this in mind and knowing how financially difficult these months are, I am running a special to help those that are in need of counseling.
R250 per hour session - min of 4 sessions payable in advance.
Special runs until end February 2024.

21/12/2023

The 7 stages of grief originally developed as the 5 stages of grief by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross who was a Swiss-American psychiatrist and a pioneer in near death experiences and death and dying, as explained in her best selling book of the same name.

She worked with countless terminal illness patients and developed the 5 stages of grief - later extended to 7 - whilst working on her field of expertise.

Whilst this method was applied to those who were terminally ill who were trying to come to terms with dying, it can be used across the board with many other situations.

Someone who has lost a loved one who has passed on, someone grieving the loss of their marriage through divorce, the loss of a long term relationship or job, children leaving the nest or cutting ties with the family and someone who has suddenly retired.

All of these situations include the loss of the usual, the stable or the everyday state that was the normal for each day.

Losing this usual state creates disorientation / confusion, anger, sadness, feeling lost, useless, frustrated including anxiety with depression and denial.

Very real emotions that are not that easy to deal with when you are overwhelmed, because of having to deal with all of them at once.

The steps below are very real and are noticeable if you make yourself aware of them.

It is important to have support from a counselor/therapist, family member, colleague or friend who will help you through the various steps without judgement.

There is no set time to move through the grieving process as we are all individuals and manage our emotions differently.

If you or someone you know is going through this at the moment, be gentle with them / yourself and offer support when they need it 🤗

20/12/2023

Who do you think you are?

The title of a song by Bo Donaldson and the Heywoods in the mid 70’s.

The song is about a guy who is in a toxic and abusive relationship even though he treats his partner the right and caring way.

He starts to question why he’s in the relationship because of the way he’s been treated and because of his own personal values.

He knows his self worth and is not prepared to take the abuse any longer.

Do you know your worth?

We are all worthy - whether it personal or work related.

Do you let other people define your worth by their words and actions?

We all have our own set of talents and skills that bring something interesting to the table, value to our lives and others in our lives, be it personal or business.

This is what makes the world go around - imagine we were all the same with the same values, mindset and attitudes.

What a sorry world we would live in.

None of us are better than another - we might have more money, a better job description, more education, more children, bigger houses and so on.

None of these matter in real life - we need the CEO’s just as much as we need the janitors and garbage collectors.

We all contribute to society in one way or another.

So - not one person’s worth is more valuable or important than another’s.

Remember that next time someone is being mean to you because they see you as being less important or less worthy than them.

You are worthy too - you just need to believe it 🤗

19/12/2023

This is the truth right here.

It’s not about telling people how to do things -it’s about being a living example and showing how it’s done in real life.

For example how to work around various emotions like anger.

Not rising to the ego in the situation but rather approaching it in a calm and rational manner and talking the issue through.

Being kind when others are snappy and inconsiderate.

Looking for the lesson rather than the punishment in bad situations.

The list is endless but it shows that there are other ways of dealing with difficulties in life, that if you approach in the right way can be a positive lesson to others.

This in turn creates a more harmonious and positive environment and those people that have learnt a life lesson from you will apply it to situations in their lives.

And others will learn from them - thereby changing mindsets and preprogrammed responses to more positive one 🤗

18/12/2023

Negative self talk and a limited belief system.

We are all guilty of it - it’s human nature to look for the negative as opposed to the positive in situations.

Feeling not good enough or worthy enough is quite a common trait that I see in counseling sessions.

It’s been programmed into us from an early age that we need to do better or be better to get the reward - whatever that might be.

This in turn starts a process of negative self talk which is slippery slope.

For example: I will never be able to do it or they don’t like me - negative self talk - because I’m not good enough, I can’t be loved - limiting beliefs.

You are telling yourself these things and they are not true.

Start by reversing the process of the limiting beliefs - I am good enough
and the negative talk - so I can do it.

Look for the positive in each situation instead of the negative.

If you replace one negative thought into a positive thought,by the end of the week you should be able to recognize the negative thought process you are using and you should feel more positive as well.

Only you are in charge of your thoughts - wouldn’t you rather be processing positive thoughts rather than negative ones? 🤗

15/12/2023

Yin-yang symbol

I use the Yin-Yang symbol with my clients, to explain balance or equilibrium in our lives.

The symbol itself refers to a concept originating in ancient Chinese philosophy where opposite forces are seen as interconnected and counterbalancing.

In the two tear drop shapes the opposite colour is represented in both of them.

In other words in the black tear shape is a white dot and in the white a black dot.

Not everything in life is all good (white) and not everything is all bad (black).

Once we realize that life is made up of all these moments good and bad we understand the balance of life as it is.

When we are really going through bad times there will always be a glimmer of light, the white spot, to show better times ahead.

When everything seems too good to be true , it usually is and there will be a hiccup along the way, the black spot.

The two tear drop shapes white and black - equal and counterbalanced - show how we need to balance things in our lives in order not to live too much in a fantasy world (everything is too good) or a really negative and dark place (everything is really bad).

Life happens and a lot of the time we have no control on external circumstances around us.

It’s how we manage these situations that’s important and if you understand that life consists of good and bad events you will be able to deal with whatever comes your way.🤗

14/12/2023

Disagreements / difference of opinion or whatever you would like to call it, seems to be a bad thing these days.

There are a lot of people who just keep quiet in a meeting, a discussion between family or friends, a zoom call to talk between members of a group or any other situation where two or more people are involved.

This is because the silent people are avoiding conflict or being challenged for having another opinion.

Since when has it become an issue to disagree with someone or voice your own alternative opinion.

Can we not be adults and approach the matter in a calm respectful manner and take on board what the other person or persons have to offer.

Looking at the situation objectively and taking all opinions on board, could possibly produce a better, more creative and balanced solution to whatever issue had been raised.

Everyone seems to want to have their say and be heard but not to listen to what others have to say.

We really need to get to grips with this phenomenon that is taking place all over the world and make a safe space for all to contribute towards any discussion or conversation in a meaningful and positive way.

Make the effort and the time to include all into voicing their opinions without the attitude and negativity that usually accompanies these situations.

This small step could be a major change in different dynamics like schools, workplaces, online discussions / meetings, social occasions and families. 🤗

13/12/2023

Kindness is free.

Kindness comes from your own free will and could take literally a moment of your time.

With so much anger, judgements and nastiness in life, a moment of kindness could change someone else’s day.

They in turn could pass kindness onto another and they to another and it could create a chain of small kind moments in each others lives.

It could be small or big - a smile, a hug, a compliment, a cheery good morning, helping a neighbor with their parcels or feeding their animals while they are on vacation.

The list is endless and full of possibilities.

Remember - life is a circle and the kindness you put out into the world has a way of coming back to you.

Besides that - you can change someone’s day by a random act of kindness.

If enough of us show kindness to others it could also change the world into a better and happier place 🤗

12/12/2023

Gibson’s theory of perception:

To see what we believe to be true based on our senses, our experiences, our expectations and past knowledge.

But not all of our perceptions are true.

Some could be based on a traumatic or bad past experience.

Others could be passed down through the family as fact or through learning institutions.

The bottom line is that in order for you to have a clear understanding of whatever your perception is about, you need to do the homework.

Educate yourself or go within to understand the perception that might be worrying you.

A lot of our perceptions are not what we think they are - it is what we believe to be true.

For example: When I was a child, boys were taught not to show emotions and many were told “big boys don’t cry”

We now have a generation of men who are struggling mentally because their perception is that showing their emotions is a sign of weakness.

This is simply not true - everyone has emotions and it’s how you as an individual manage them.

It is up to each and every one of us to break through the illusions of our inherited perceptions and find the truth, in order for us to move forward armed with confidence and freedom.🤗

11/12/2023

Life is a blessing and yet so many of us take it for granted.

We seem to think that life will go on forever and spend our time trying to get the next big thing that will make us happy or fulfill our lives as we imagine it.

Nope - each minute of every hour of every day that passes is now history.

It’s passed, gone - you can’t get it back.

Blessings aka gratitude is about living in the moment and being aware of the many good things that you have in your life.

Once you come to terms with this concept you will realize how rich you are and that you actually do have enough.

This awareness also opens the door to allow other experiences and riches to enter your life without having to constantly chase after them.

This is the law of the universe and when you reach this level of understanding you will never experience the feeling of not having enough or being good enough.

You will be more fulfilled and content and living each day to the fullest 🤗

Frances Calitz NLP Practioner & Master Life Coach

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