sonica_burger

25/01/2026

Opening the heart is not the same as becoming a leaky receptacle for someone else’s shadow.

Real compassion includes boundaries. It includes discernment. It includes the capacity to stay connected to yourself while another person is activated, projecting, or in pain.

Most of us were never taught this.

We learned instead that love meant accommodating, absorbing, smoothing things over - often because that was the safest way to stay connected in early relationships.

So we confuse openness with self-erasure. We confuse empathy with endurance. We confuse kindness with leaving ourselves behind.

That wasn’t weakness. It was adaptation. It was intelligent, creative, and often necessary at the time.

But the nervous system can learn something new.

The heart can open without leaking. You can stay present without disappearing. You can care without collapsing.

This begins with noticing where you habitually place others’ needs above your own - not from true compassion, but from an old reflex shaped by shame or fear of loss.

And then, slowly, gently… choosing something different.

Breathing. Feeling your feet. Letting your body know it no longer has to abandon itself to belong.

There is no urgency on the path of love.

17/01/2026

13 Clan Mothers Sister Circle💫

13/01/2026

How?

1. Allowing the feelings you were taught to override or explain away.
2. Telling the truth even when approval is no longer guaranteed.
3. Grieving the fantasy that someone else will finally become the perfect caregiver.
4. Choosing partners who respect your boundaries rather than exploit your tolerance.
5. Reclaiming the power you once projected onto others and returning it to yourself.

Shadow work is the moment you stop begging for love and become the source of it.

13/01/2026

11/01/2026

Weekend Things...

10/01/2026

Paw Patrol🐾...nothing beats seeing these faces when you arrive home

25/12/2025

Merry Jingle Bells, Gentle Holidays, and Blessed Yuletide to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your heart, gifts and magic with me over 2025. Thank you for walking this journey with me. I am blessed to have you in my life.🎄✨💜💫

Love,
Namaskar
Sonica
💜🙏

23/12/2025

The liver is not asking for more lemon, more tea, or another supplement. What it craves is your honesty.
We treat it like a machine, a chemical processor, yet it’s more than that. It is a guardian, a witness, a vessel holding every unspoken word, every compromise you made to keep others comfortable, every “yes” that should have been a “no.”

Every time you swallow anger to protect someone else, every time you mask discomfort to be acceptable, every time you deny your own truth for the sake of peace—the liver takes note. It stores it. It tightens. It reacts. This is not metaphor. It is memory in flesh, energy coded into biology, ancestral echoes held in tissue.

No cleanse, no potion, no ritual can undo this if you keep living in denial. Your body will not release until your soul can.

Healing begins not with what you put into your body—but with what you release from your spirit. Speak your truth. End the contracts you never signed consciously. Protect your anger, your softness, your boundaries, your blood from absorbing compromise. Stop being the caretaker of unspoken feelings, of others’ expectations.

Your liver is exhausted from holding what you refuse to claim. When you finally honor yourself, when you say your no without apology, when you stop negotiating your essence for approval, your liver breathes. Freedom is not a juice—it is the courage to stand fully in your own truth.

Ancestral Healing

22/12/2025

It's great to think about what we can do differently the next time we're struggling when we're in calm, regulated states.
When we can reason, think critically & abstractly, and get the reps in.

But the real work often comes when you're at the edge of your stretch zone —
when you've fallen back into an old pattern and you can feel the burn of shame.
You're here again.
And you've worked so hard not to be here.

But falling back into the old pattern is a big part of the process;
this is the opportunity to take a breath.
To pause,
insert space, and look around.
To even notice what's happening; to see the little things that bother you.
To notice how your body is responding to them.

And maybe you do fall back into the pattern.
But if you do anything different,
if you attune to your own body, thoughts, or feelings for even just a few moments this time,
if you didn't make the comment or waited a half hour longer before reaching for your old coping mechanism — that is progress.
That is disruption.
And it is something to be proud of.

Breaking old, deeply ingrained patterns takes time.
It takes reps to create those new pathways in the brain.
It takes practice to build that self-trust to know that you *can* do it differently.

And the more you do it, the more nuance you will see.
You'll get better at reading your own signals & pausing sooner.
At a certain point, it will become impossible not to take steps in the direction your body is guiding you toward — because you know, you *know* what happens when you don't listen to yourself.

And it often takes falling back into that old pattern quite a few times to really start to build the momentum to really change old patterns.
You're not failing because you fell into the pattern again.
Use it. Learn from it. Respond differently in the aftermath.
Meet yourself & the other people with compassion.
Keep going.

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