12/06/2025
Dear aunt Fiona please hide my identity.
I'm a 37 year old man who has been married for 12 years. Let me get straight to the point, I've been cheating on my wife before we even got married and I've NEVER been caught, I've had a few close calls but never actually caught. I've had a mistress the entire marriage, me and her met at work a few weeks before I got married and it was only suppose to be a one night stand but it developed into a relationship.
My wife and I had a child and bought a home, we did all things I thought would make me happy but ultimately they haven't. Me and my mistress have gone on baecations, Ive helped her buy a house, I've always made sure she was good financially, I even encouraged and helped her start her own business. She has a very good job but I've always been there to help her whenever she needed me. I've never treated her as a b***y call and she always said that's why she hated me sometimes because I would literally do anything for her that she needed or asked except leave my wife and be with her.
Well now my mistress has finally had enough so she has left me and now that she is gone, I've finally realised that she is the one who I want and I no longer want to be married. Me and my wife are what a lot of people would say are they couple goals, we've never put our issues out there to the public because we keep things inside our house. My son is 8 years old and he is my world, I have gone back and forth about how it would look to everyone when I leave my wife and in some ways I feel trapped. Because I don't want to leave him and flip his world upside down but how long can I continue to live this lie and not be happy???? I know 37 isn't an old age but I also don't want to spend the next decade unhappy and miserable, wondering what if i had really given things a try with my mistress.
I know I'm liable to get blasted on the comment section, but guys remember you can't control who you fall in love with, I've gone to counseling and my therapist thinks the best thing for me is to be alone for a while to figure out my life. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
