17/02/2024
Here’s a bitter truth
You cannot be a generational curse breaker if you care about being liked. Be prepared to do things alone to protect your children and their children’s children.
If you come from a family of abusers and when you call them out on their behaviour they aren’t prepared to change, guess what will happen when you allow them into your space ? They will abuse your children and wait until you die, kuzoba kubi bi. If it means raising your children away from toxic family members to protect your children so be it.
I’ve worked so hard in my life to create a home totally different from the one I grew up in , my home is not a place of chaos , I love how I’ve put in indoor plants to give it that energy. Anyone who aims to bring chaos in my home isn’t welcome, I’m very unapologetic about this. My home is clean for a reason , it is my sanctuary that’s where I escape to hence you won’t find me unnecessarily everywhere because my home is very comfortable, I’m intentional about that.
When my daughter couldn’t cope with res life and wanted to come back home , it said her home is her safe space, I want mh children to run home and not away from home. I ran away from home and I’m not blaming anyone here because our mothers didn’t have the resources to consciously parent us, they were on survival mode, my mom didn’t afford a helper and worked 6 days a week and being the eldest I would always be the first to receive her outbursts because I was expected to care for my younger siblings and make sure all was in order.
My children are raised differently and everyone know you will not say anything hurtful to my kids and get away with it , I’m the mother I never had. My mom would just keep quiet even though she knew I wasn’t at fault when I received unfair punishment.
I’m here today , there are things I don’t have and I won’t concern myself no more with what I don’t have but I’ll build on what I have even if I have to do it alone 🙏🏾
Lesedi 🙏🏾