Danél Liebenberg - Private Social Worker

10/01/2026

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Free HOW ADULTS REPAIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH CHILDREN – POSTER

Most children do not remember every argument or hard moment. What stays with them is what happened afterwards.

Did the adult come back.
Did the tone soften.
Did someone take responsibility.
Did the child feel safe again.

Repair is the part of parenting and caregiving that rarely gets talked about, yet it shapes how children understand relationships for life. It teaches them whether conflict means danger or whether connection can survive strong feelings.

Many adults worry they have already done damage when they lose patience or react too quickly. The truth is simple. The harm is not in being human. The harm is in silence, distance, and pretending nothing happened.

Repair is how children learn that relationships do not end when things feel messy. It is how they learn that their feelings are allowed. That adults can reflect, apologise, and stay emotionally present.

This is not about being a perfect parent, carer, or professional. It is about being a safe one. Over and over again.

Children do not need flawless adults. They need adults who come back.

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09/01/2026

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08/01/2026

Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do for a child is pause and really see them. Behaviour is often the language of stress, fear, and unmet needs. When a child feels unsafe, overwhelmed, or pushed beyond their current skills, their nervous system goes into survival mode. Learning, self-control, and calm thinking simply are not available then.

Children do well when they can. When they cannot, it is usually because something around them is making things feel too hard. Sensory overload, big emotions, inconsistent adult responses, or a lack of connection can all show up as behaviour that looks challenging on the surface. Underneath, it is a child asking for help.

Repeated behaviour is not defiance. It is information. It tells us what is not working yet. Changing the environment is not giving in. It is choosing understanding, safety, and growth. And connection before correction is often where real change begins.

Behaviour changes when children feel safe, supported, and understood.

Comment CHILD and we will send you a message with a link to a free printable PDF of this resource.

07/01/2026

Die nuwe skooljaar wag! 🥸🍎

Hier is sommer ‘n lekker praktiese plan om ‘n gevoel van emosionele veiligheid en stabiliteit te bring na ‘n dag by die skool…

Skep daardie veilige emosionele klimaat vir jou kind om met ‘n gereguleerde senuweestelsel die middag na skool met ‘n gevoel van kalm, ondersteuning en regulering aan te pak. 🌀⭐️🍎

Wat is roetines/gewoontes wat jou as volwassene ondersteun om jou ‘tor op sy stokkie te hou’ in hierdie ‘back to school’ seisoen? 💭

The first day back after the Christmas break can feel heavy for children and young people.

Their nervous systems have spent weeks in slower mornings, flexible routines, familiar people and reduced demands. School re-entry asks their brains to switch gears fast – early starts, noise, transitions, expectations, social rules.

What shows up at pickup isn’t rudeness, defiance or attitude. It’s often fatigue, overwhelm, and emotional depletion.

The moments right after school matter more than we realise. This is where regulation is either supported… or pushed further out of reach.

A calm, predictable pickup helps their nervous system begin to settle before the afternoon even starts. Less questions. Fewer demands. More safety. More softness.

You don’t need to fix the day. You don’t need a full debrief. You just need to be the steady place they land.

If school returns feel rocky this week, you’re not doing it wrong. Their brain is still catching up.

After-School Restraint Collapse, the Toolkit for Parents & Educators – link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

03/01/2026

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02/01/2026

When a child’s emotions spill over, our nervous system often goes with them.
Before we can steady a child or young person, we need to steady ourselves.

This Parent Regulation Tip Sheet is a gentle reminder that regulation isn’t about being perfectly calm – it’s about having a few small, body-based resets you can reach for when things feel loud, fast or overwhelming.

Because your calm nervous system is one of the most powerful tools your child has.

Save this for the hard moments.
Share it with a parent who needs permission to pause.

31/12/2025

As 2025 comes to an end, I find myself deeply aware of what this year has taught me - especially a growing appreciation for my own humanness in this rollercoaster called life.

I recently came across this resource and chose to place it in my diary for 2026. It feels like a tool that I can return to when clarity feels thin or my motivation dips so I can reflect on what my needs are within life’s demands.

May you have enough of what you need in 2026 - whether it is clarity, hope, a sense of wellbeing, and meaningful connection within yourself and with those around you.

Cheers to a life worth living! 💫

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