James Jonk Counselling, Northern Paarl, Paarl (2025)

29/08/2025

Join our 13-week DivorceCare course and find support, hope, and healing with others who truly understand.

What you’ll gain by completing the course:

🤝🏻 Support from people who care
💡 Practical tools to move forward with confidence
💚 Friendships with others on the same journey
🙏🏻 A safe, confidential space to heal and grow

🗓 Next course starts: 8 September 2025

📲 WhatsApp Lindi Jonk for details: https://wa.me/27713320216
🎥 Watch this short video: https://youtu.be/0KjT-BxGI7A

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07/07/2025

🏡 Let’s Rethink How We Divide Housework 🏡

So often, housework and parenting get divided based on things like:
✔️ Who works longer hours
✔️ Who earns more
✔️ Who has the “more difficult” job

But what if that’s the wrong question?
❤️ It’s not about who works harder.
❤️ It’s not about who earns more.
❤️ It’s about how much rest each person is getting.

Stay-at-home parents work all day too.
Parents who work outside the home also deserve rest.
❤️ Both partners need support. Both deserve time to breathe.

It’s not okay when one person is rushing around doing dishes, folding laundry, bathing the kids, and packing bags — while the other is sitting on the couch scrolling or watching TV.

🏡 What if we did it together?
❤️ What if we both showed up — side by side — so that both of us can sit down and rest at the end of the day?
🏡 What if parenting and housework became shared, gentle, and full of grace — not just measured and divided?

Couples often say they hardly have any time together.
What if sharing chores became a way to actually spend time together?
💡 Bonus tip: Involve the kids! It teaches them responsibility and helps build family connection.

When we share the load at home, we’re not just getting things done —
We’re building ❤️ connection, kindness, and balance.

💬 What’s your best tip for making the load lighter for your spouse or for working better together at home?
I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👇

www.jamesjonk.co.za

16/05/2025

❤️ Feeling distant or disconnected in your relationship? ❤️

You’re not alone—and sometimes, all it takes is one simple question to start reconnecting:

"What can I do this week to help you feel more loved?"

It’s a gentle, powerful way to show your partner you care—intentionally and practically.

❤️ It shows you're making an effort.
❤️ It opens space for honest conversation.
❤️ It helps your partner express what they truly need—whether that’s more time, more tenderness, or more teamwork.

You don’t have to read each other’s minds to grow together.
You just need to ask, listen, and follow through—one small step at a time.

This is a good place to start if things feel distant or difficult.

Need support?
Couples counselling offers a safe space to reconnect, grow, and learn new tools to strengthen your relationship.
📞 084 580 5351
💻 Online or in-person | English & Afrikaans

17/03/2025

Marriage is a lifelong covenant, not a business deal. When you handle money as one, it brings peace, trust, and unity to your marriage. 💕

One of the biggest sources of conflict in marriage is money—but it doesn’t have to be! When you get married, you don’t just promise to share your life—you become one in every way, and that includes your finances. You’re One, Not Two!

Dave Ramsey puts it this way: Marriage is not a partnership—it’s complete unity. That means:

👉 A “We” Mindset with Money: You’re not two people splitting bills—you’re one family, working toward the same future. No “his” and “hers”—it’s all “ours.”

👉 A Budget You Decide On Together: Money isn’t about power or control—it’s about unity. Sit down each month, pray together, and decide together how to steward what God has entrusted to you.

👉 No Secrets, No “My Money, Your Money”: Hiding money or spending in secret damages trust. Honesty and openness strengthen your marriage and build financial peace.

👉 It Doesn’t Matter Who Earns More: Marriage is about “we,” not “me.” Just because one earns more doesn’t mean they get more. Everything belongs to both of you. Whether one stays home, works part-time, or earns less, you’re both contributing to the same life and future.

👉 Live on Less Than You Make: Debt is a weight that can drag your marriage down. Get on the same page, pay off debt, and build financial freedom as one.

👉 Give, Save & Plan for the Future Together: Money isn’t just for paying bills—it’s a tool to bless your family and others. When you work together, money becomes a blessing, not a burden.

💬 How do you and your spouse handle finances in your marriage? What has worked well for you? Share your experience in the comments—we’d love to learn from each other! ⬇️

Need help navigating finances in your marriage? Let’s work through it together!

📍 Counselling available in-person & online
📞 WhatsApp: 084 580 5351

11/03/2025

🏝️ You and Your Partner Are Stuck on a Deserted Island… What’s the First Thing They’d Complain About? 😂

Be honest—would it be, no WiFi, no bed, too many bugs, or something totally unexpected? 🤔🤣

Drop your answer in the comments and tag your partner to see if they agree! I’ll add mine there too! ⬇️

24/02/2025

🧐 Don’t turn your marriage into a mystery—your spouse shouldn’t have to be a detective!

A strong relationship is built on trust, integrity, and openness. Keep it simple:

❤️ No secrets. Be open and truthful.

❤️ Full access. Your phone should NEVER be off-limits—keep it open and accessible at ALL times. Yes, your spouse should know all your passwords! If you wouldn’t want them to see it, don’t have it, and don’t engage in that conversation.

❤️ Think before you act. If something might upset your spouse, don’t do it.

❤️ No hidden friendships. If you’re keeping a friendship a secret, you’ve already crossed the line.

❤️ Set boundaries. Don’t accept calls or messages you wouldn’t want your significant other to see.

❤️ Protect your marriage. It’s better to disappoint another woman or man than to hurt the one you promised to love forever.

❤️ Be where you said you would be and be true to your word. Your actions should mirror your words.

💍 Consistency and openness build trust, and trust builds lasting love.

24/12/2024

🎄 May the Simplest Things Bring You the Greatest Joy 🎄

This Christmas, try to focus on the moments that matter most—the laughter, the love, and the time spent together. True joy isn’t found in the presents under the tree but in the presence of those we hold dear. ❤️

Remember the true meaning of Christmas: the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ, who is the greatest gift of all.

"For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given; and the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace." – Isaiah 9:6

From our family to yours. May this season fill your heart with peace, love, and the joy of Christ. Wishing you and your loved ones a Merry Christmas filled with His blessings. ❤️

22/12/2024

Therapy isn’t for the weak—it’s for the wise.

I think this guy is spot on. There’s a common misconception that seeking counseling or therapy is a sign of weakness. But the truth is, it takes incredible strength to acknowledge when you need help and courage to take action toward change.

Wise people recognize that life comes with challenges—broken relationships, personal struggles, or emotional pain—and they refuse to stay stuck. Instead, they choose to confront their struggles head-on, knowing they don’t have to walk the journey alone.

Counseling isn’t about giving up; it’s about showing up—for yourself, your family, and your future. It’s a brave step toward growth, healing, and becoming the best version of yourself.

Choosing therapy is a decision to invest in your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. It’s wisdom in action.

Strong people ask for help. Wise people choose to grow.

12/12/2024

✨🎄The Holidays Are Here! 🎄✨

The festive season is a time for joy, family, and connection—but it can also bring its share of challenges. Whether it’s the busyness of life, the pressure of expectations, or navigating family dynamics, this season has a way of highlighting both the beauty and the struggles we face.

Take a moment to pause, breathe, and focus on what truly matters. It’s not about perfect gatherings, flawless Christmas dinners, or gifts—it’s about being present, showing love, and cherishing the moments, big and small. Appreciate the people around you, the memories you’re making, and the opportunity to grow together.

Let’s embrace the beauty of this season, imperfections and all, and make it a time of meaningful connection and growth.

Wishing you and your loved ones a joyful, peaceful holiday season! ❤️

27/11/2024

❤️ End of Year Reminder ❤️

Don't end up with a beautiful house - but no home.

As the year-end rush hits its peak, take a moment—just 5 minutes—to pause and ask yourself: What is really important?

Is that looming deadline more important than the love of your life? Is your client more important than the little boy waiting at home to show you his newest invention, or the girl eager to share her latest masterpiece or ballet moves?

Sure, deadlines pay the bills, and money helps secure a future for your children. But here’s the reality: if we let work consume us, we might end up with a beautiful house—but no home.

Unhappiness creeps in. It transforms into something deeper, like depression, and eventually, you may find yourself burned out and feeling replaceable. You could lose everything—not because of failure at work, but because you forgot to cherish what truly matters.

💖 Let’s take a moment to love our families. Be the dad who shows up, the mom who’s remembered for her love, the partner who gave their all for the people who matter most.

No amount of money can buy back time with your son or daughter. No paycheck can replace love. And love is something you already have to give.

This holiday season, give it freely. ❤️

13/11/2024

While we're still on the topic of love.... Sometimes, we confuse love with things like gifts. While gifts can express love, they only show a small part of what love truly is.

Often, we give gifts hoping for something in return, almost as if we're trying to "buy" love. Similarly, many of us desire to receive things as a way to feel loved, but that too captures only a fraction of love’s meaning.

1 Corinthians 13:1 NKJV
“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.”

When we perform grand gestures or give nice things, thinking it's love, we may actually end up sounding like a "clanging cymbal." Acts of kindness can unintentionally create a sense of obligation or expectation, which is not love.

True love brings no pressure, no demands, no feelings of unworthiness. It offers a place where you can be yourself—even the parts of you that are less than perfect—and still feel safe. It's a space where you can share your highs and lows without fear of judgment or ego-driven praise.

A loving spouse will lift you when you fall and humble you when pride sets in. They will cry with you in hard times and celebrate with you in your achievements.

Let’s not become clanging cymbals. Love one another as Jesus has loved us.

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04/11/2024

❤️ Love ❤️ Something we all need, something we all want. Yet, our understanding of love has become a bit blurry in this fast-paced world.

If you listen closely to music from the past 80 years, tune in to YouTubers, TikTok creators, and influencers, or watch popular movies, you’ll notice something remarkable: the world is filled with a deep, almost universal longing for love—the kind of love described in the Bible.

We feel it, search for it, sing about it, and even watch it unfold on screen. But have we stopped to think about what real love actually is?

Take a moment to reflect on the powerful words from 1 Corinthians 13: “Love is patient and kind; it does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful... Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”

Imagine if we loved like this: with patience, kindness, humility, and a desire to uplift each other. It’s not about what we can get, but what we can give. Real love is enduring. It doesn’t give up or hold grudges—it forgives, hopes, and seeks truth.

If the world’s love songs, stories, and advice all seem to search for this kind of love, it shows a universal longing that reflects what the Bible describes. This is the glue that holds relationships together and the path that leads to true peace.

So, let’s take some time this week to really think about love. What if we sought to love others this way—not just in words but in action.

What does real love mean to you? Have you ever experienced or seen love like this in action?

Share your thoughts in the comments below, and let’s start a conversation!

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