Christian Counseling Psychologist

08/01/2025

13/11/2024

You need to be resourceful sometimes check these signs

13/11/2024

Most of the people they don't know or understand signs of adhd

25/06/2024

MARRIAGE KILLERS
1. Complacency: Laziness can harm a marriage.
2. Distrust: Suspicion undermines marital bonds.
3. Trust: Lack of trust is detrimental to marriage.
4. Respect: Mutual respect is essential for a healthy marriage.
5. Negative Emotions: Unforgiveness, bitterness, hatred, and anger can destroy marital harmony.
6. Conflict: Unnecessary arguments strain marital relationships.
7. Transparency: Keeping secrets from your spouse can be harmful.
8. Infidelity: Any form of infidelity (financial, emotional, etc.) damages marriage.
9. Communication: Poor communication negatively impacts marital satisfaction.
10. Honesty: Sincerity and honesty are crucial for a successful marriage.
11. Certainly! Here’s a concise summary of those points:
12. Prioritizing Family Over Spouse: Focusing more on family members than your spouse can harm a marriage.
13. Intimacy Issues: Lack of enjoyable or inadequate s*x can negatively impact marital satisfaction.
14. Nagging: Frequent nagging strains marital relationships.
15. Communication: Excessive or careless talk can harm marriage.
16. Time Together: Spending too little time with your spouse can be detrimental.
17. Independence: Being overly independent-minded can strain marital bonds.
18. Financial Habits: Love for partying, impulse buying, and financial indiscipline can damage marriage.
19. Confidentiality: Exposing your spouse’s inadequacies to family members harms marital trust.
20. Spiritual Neglect: Not praying together or lacking spiritual fervency affects both marriage and personal well-being.
21. Receptivity to Correction: Rejecting correction and reprimand can harm marital harmony.
22. Emotional Disposition: Always being moody or wearing a sad face negatively impacts marriage.
23. Feminism Advocacy: Extreme advocacy for feminism can strain marital relationships.
24. Male Chauvinism: Excessive male chauvinism is detrimental to marriage.
25. Anger Management: Uncontrolled temper and anger can harm marital bonds.
26. Roles and Responsibility: Understanding and fulfilling your role in marriage is essential.
27. Sensitivity: Being attuned to your spouse’s needs (spiritual, emotional, financial, and physical) is crucial.
28. Threats to Security: When a wife’s position or security is threatened, her reactions can harm the marriage.
29. Spiritual Foundation: Lack of knowledge and obedience to God’s word affects marital health.
Remember that every marriage is unique, and open communication, empathy, and mutual respect are vital for a successful partnership. 🌟

25/06/2024

1. Complacency: Laziness can harm a marriage.
2. Distrust: Suspicion undermines marital bonds.
3. Trust: Lack of trust is detrimental to marriage.
4. Respect: Mutual respect is essential for a healthy marriage.
5. Negative Emotions: Unforgiveness, bitterness, hatred, and anger can destroy marital harmony.
6. Conflict: Unnecessary arguments strain marital relationships.
7. Transparency: Keeping secrets from your spouse can be harmful.
8. Infidelity: Any form of infidelity (financial, emotional, etc.) damages marriage.
9. Communication: Poor communication negatively impacts marital satisfaction.
10. Honesty: Sincerity and honesty are crucial for a successful marriage.
11. Certainly! Here’s a concise summary of those points:
12. Prioritizing Family Over Spouse: Focusing more on family members than your spouse can harm a marriage.
13. Intimacy Issues: Lack of enjoyable or inadequate s*x can negatively impact marital satisfaction.
14. Nagging: Frequent nagging strains marital relationships.
15. Communication: Excessive or careless talk can harm marriage.
16. Time Together: Spending too little time with your spouse can be detrimental.
17. Independence: Being overly independent-minded can strain marital bonds.
18. Financial Habits: Love for partying, impulse buying, and financial indiscipline can damage marriage.
19. Confidentiality: Exposing your spouse’s inadequacies to family members harms marital trust.
20. Spiritual Neglect: Not praying together or lacking spiritual fervency affects both marriage and personal well-being.
21. Receptivity to Correction: Rejecting correction and reprimand can harm marital harmony.
22. Emotional Disposition: Always being moody or wearing a sad face negatively impacts marriage.
23. Feminism Advocacy: Extreme advocacy for feminism can strain marital relationships.
24. Male Chauvinism: Excessive male chauvinism is detrimental to marriage.
25. Anger Management: Uncontrolled temper and anger can harm marital bonds.
26. Roles and Responsibility: Understanding and fulfilling your role in marriage is essential.
27. Sensitivity: Being attuned to your spouse’s needs (spiritual, emotional, financial, and physical) is crucial.
28. Threats to Security: When a wife’s position or security is threatened, her reactions can harm the marriage.
29. Spiritual Foundation: Lack of knowledge and obedience to God’s word affects marital health.
Remember that every marriage is unique, and open communication, empathy, and mutual respect are vital for a successful partnership. 🌟

09/11/2022

Depression is real

25/10/2022

NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 2

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have difficulty handling anything they comprehend as criticism, and they can:

 Become irritated and impatient or outraged when they are not accorded special treatment
 Have considerable interpersonal problems and easily feel insulted
 React with wrath / temper or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
 Have difficulty controlling emotions and behavior
 Experience sizeable problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
 Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
 Have secret feelings of insecurity, disgrace, vulnerability and humiliation

WHEN TO SEE A DOCTOR

People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment. If they do seek treatment, it's more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or another mental health problem. But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.

If you recognize aspects of your personality that are common to narcissistic personality disorder or you're feeling overwhelmed by sadness, consider reaching out to a trusted doctor or mental health provider. Getting the right treatment can help make your life more rewarding and enjoyable.

EFFECTS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN A FAMILY

 Depression on all family members
 Physical fights
 Physical abuse of children
 Poverty of family members when the narcissistic parent can afford better conditions for them.
 The narcissistic parent will have better economic life at the family’s expense
 Over controlling of family members.
 Character of the offspring may be permanently compromised.
 Lack of family cohesion
 The narcissist person may spend more money on other things like binge drinking, extra marital affairs, and on personal items.
 Lack of confidence and inferiority complex on family members.
 Injury or death of family members.
 Symptoms of intrusive, invasive, or unwanted thoughts, flashbacks, avoidance, feelings of loneliness, isolation, and feeling extremely alert.
 Emotional problems like fear, guilt, or irritability
 Behavioral issues including withdrawal, increase in alcohol or substance consumption, or a change in communication
 Anxiety

25/10/2022

NARCISSISTIC PERSON

Is a person with narcissistic personality disorder or mental disorder in which a person have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking, operating and behaving. It’s a mental disorder on the narcissist and abuse on the victims. Narcissists breed toxic relationships.

CHARACTERISTICS OF A NARCISSISTIC PERSON

 They are perceived as normal people.
 Crave for conflict and chaos. A high appetite for violence. Believes violence is the only solution to human conflicts.
 Victimize and blame the victim.
 Lacks empathy and is extremely selfish
 They are manipulative.
 Have an inflated sense of self-importance and ego
 Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive respect and admiration. Its an insatiable need for approval
 Defensive and hypersensitive
 Expect to be recognized as outstanding even without achievements that warrant it
 Exaggerate accomplishments and talents
 Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
 Believe they are a cut above others/ first class and can only associate with equally special people
 Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they identify as inferior
 Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
 Take manipulate others to get what they want
 Have an incapability or reluctance to recognize the needs and feelings of others
 Be jealous of others and believe others jealousy them
 Behave in an arrogant or puffed up manner, coming across as bigheaded, boastful and pompous
 Insist on having the greatest and the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office
 they will twist the issues around to blame their victims for their actions.
 Lying
 Sabotaging the other person
 Emotional blackmail
 Making everything a competition
 Love bombing involves demonstrating attention and affection in an attempt to influence someone
 Privacy invasion
 Character Assassination or Slander
 Withholding. This may include withholding such things as money, s*x, communication, or affection from you.
 Financial abuse