T.A.P South Africa

17/02/2026

Agreed!

We don’t necessarily agree with everything in this article by Kathleen Stock, but we like what she says at the end:

“But perhaps the biggest lesson to draw from the publication of the files concerns the reaction to them. The basic elements in the Epstein story that make his behaviour abhorrent are, in fact, depressingly mundane. I have seen online outrage at child-like p**nographic images in the files that would cause mere shrugging, had they been found on a different browser — not because they aren’t disgusting (they are), but because they are everywhere. And if you ignore the private jets and the Caribbean islands, every awful thing that ever happened to a girl or young woman on an Epstein property would be just another day to many of those stuck in prostitution. Grooming, pimping out, coercive control, s*xual exploitation, an insatiable appetite for extreme youth and novelty: all fall under the respectability cover of “s*x work”. There was nothing unusual about Epstein’s perversions. He just had the means to indulge them to the max.

Yet it seems that onlookers can only get really offended about these sorts of events when there is another element to keep it spicy: for instance, if the perpetrators are billionaires. And even then, the topic cannot stay interesting for very long, apparently requiring further injections of drama to maintain fascination: tantalising rumours about new names, or fantastical tales of murder and cannibalism. Before you know it, the discourse has run away with itself, and yet again the conspiracy theorists have failed to join up any actual dots.

The depressing fact is that s*xual behaviour like Epstein’s is absolutely standard in our society, in the twin forms of prostitution and the po*******hy industry. Not only that, but they are mostly tolerated. You can either take this as a defence of Epstein or as an indictment of society, and I do the latter. It’s great that we are all tough on Satanic cannibal billionaires now, but it would be good to channel all that outrage into something real.”

Read more: https://unherd.com/2026/02/the-hypocrisy-of-the-epstein-panic/

14/02/2026

You don't need to struggle on your own while your partner is s3xually acting out. **nisnotlove

14/02/2026

Do your children still have smart phones in their rooms and night?

How Many Kids Have Phones in Their Bedroom?

Do you allow your child to have their phone with them in their bedroom?

Speaking to the children they tell us that 68% of teens keep their mobile devices within reach at night, and about 29% even sleep with their phones in their beds. Some admitting that they pass out with their phones in their hands, still in some short or video.

In a study of early adolescents (around age 12), 63% had at least one electronic device (including phones) in their bedroom overnight.

Looking at the grade 2 to grade 8 group, younger children (8–14), over half of 8–11-year-olds and about 72% of 11–14-year-olds slept with a phone next to their bed and kept it on while sleeping.

Nighttime / After-Midnight Phone Use

Nighttime smartphone use is very common among teens:

Worrisome is that with the 11- to 17-year-olds, a majority used their phones between midnight and 5 a.m. on school nights at least once a week.

More than 60% of teenagers reported phone use at night when they were supposed to be sleeping.

These numbers are increasing at an alarming year on year rate.

Sleep and Health Associations

Nighttime phone use is linked to shorter or poorer sleep.

Kids with phones available at night are more likely to report not getting enough sleep.

Around 17% of teens reported being woken up overnight by calls, texts, or emails, and 20% reported using a phone when they woke up at night.

Nighttime phone checking has also been associated with higher psychological distress and less than 8 hours of sleep, especially when phone use happens frequently.

What This Means

Having a phone in the bedroom makes it much easier to check it late at night or after midnight, which tends to:

Delay sleep onset (kids go to sleep later because they’re scrolling or checking messages).

Interrupt sleep when notifications or alerts wake them up.

Contribute to feeling tired and less rested the next day.

Key Numbers at a Glance

~68% of teens have phones within reach at night.

~29% of teens sleep with their phones in bed.

~60% use phones between midnight and 5 a.m. on school nights (at least weekly).

~60%+ of children/teens report using phones at night when they should be asleep.

~17–20% of early adolescents get woken up or use phones overnight.

14/02/2026

This is not about 'all gaming is bad' because it is not. It is about raising awareness of what young people may be exposed to very easily if they are playing Roblox and a parent/carer does not really understand the platform. As well as what is included in the article there are games that are first person shooter games (shoot up a school), perform a s*x act for a better grade and holocaust gas chamber games. As is my motto - The more you know the better you can do.

13/02/2026

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/189Q6CFbjJ/

11/02/2026

Good one!

09/02/2026

07/02/2026

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07/02/2026

Drip disclosures can heighten trauma response

Many betrayed partners are asked—or quietly pressure themselves—to move forward without ever being given the full truth. They’re offered pieces. Partial disclosures. Reassurances without clarity. And often the message is: “Do you really need to know everything to heal?”

Yes. You do.

When the truth is incomplete, reconciliation becomes a patch, not a restoration. It may calm things on the surface, but underneath, the foundation remains cracked. The nervous system knows it. The body knows it. And the heart stays on guard—not because it’s unforgiving, but because it’s still unsafe.

Healing requires more than apologies and promises. It requires coherence—a clear, honest understanding of what happened, what was hidden, and why. Without that, betrayed partners are asked to rebuild trust while still standing in uncertainty. That’s not healing. That’s survival.

Fragmented truth keeps the relationship fragile. It forces the betrayed partner to live with unanswered questions, lingering doubt, and the constant fear of discovering another piece later. Each new revelation doesn’t just hurt—it retraumatizes.

Reconciliation built on partial truth may look functional, but it is never fully secure.

Real reconciliation begins when the truth is fully brought into the light—not to punish, but to restore integrity. The whole truth doesn’t destroy healing; it makes it possible. Only when nothing is hidden can trust begin to grow again—slowly, carefully, and on solid ground.

You cannot heal what you’re still being protected from knowing.

07/02/2026

should listen to this:

02/02/2026

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUFEZXZjNZa/?igsh=MXhxMjlxcDNyMzB5bg==

14/01/2026

Adultery is a wound that spreads far beyond the moment it was committed.

For the betrayed spouse, it shatters identity, safety, and the sense of being chosen.

For children, it destabilizes the very ground beneath their feet, often leaving them confused, anxious, and unsure whom to trust.

For extended family and friends, it fractures the circles of connection and belonging they thought were secure.

And above all, it grieves the heart of God — not because He delights in punishment or shame, but because He designed love to be sacred, faithfulness to be safe, and covenant to be a shelter, not a source of harm.

If you are living in the aftermath of adultery, hear this clearly:

You are not overreacting.
You are not “too sensitive.”

You are responding to a real, relational trauma that God Himself takes seriously.

He sees the wound.
He honors the depth of your pain.
And He does not rush your healing.

Adultery is one of the deepest forms of betrayal — but it is not the end of your story.

God is near to the brokenhearted, He gathers what has been shattered, and He walks with you… one breath, one step, one moment at a time toward healing that is real and restoration that is safe.