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Intervene - Helping Others Help You Helping Others Help You When the "desire" to want to stop using and abusing drugs over-rides the need.

Intervention is a profound act of love and the ultimate goal is to get the person in need to seek Drug Rehabilitation Treatment TODAY.

What You Learn From Loving An AddictI am not an addict.But try and love one, and then see if you can look me square in t...
29/09/2022

What You Learn From Loving An Addict

I am not an addict.

But try and love one, and then see if you can look me square in the eyes and tell me that you didn't get addicted to trying to fix them.
If you're lucky, they recover. If you're really lucky, you recover, too.
Loving a drug addict can and will consume your every thought. Watching their physical deterioration and emotional detachment to everything will make you the most tired insomniac alive.
You will stand in the doorway of their bedroom and plead with them that you "just want them back." If you watch the person you love disappear right in front of your eyes long enough, you will start to dissolve too.
Those not directly affected won't be able to understand why you are so focused on your loved one's well-being, especially since, during the times of your family member's active addiction, they won't seem so concerned with their own.
Don't become angry with these people. They do not understand. They are lucky to not understand. You'll catch yourself wishing that you didn't understand, either.
"What if you had to wake up every day and wonder if today was the day your family member was going to die?" will become a popular, not-so-rhetorical question.
Drug addiction has the largest ripple effect that I have ever witnessed firsthand.
It causes parents to outlive their children. It causes jail time and homelessness. It causes sisters to mourn their siblings. It causes nieces to never meet their aunts. It causes an absence before the exit.
You will see your loved one walking and talking, but the truth is, you will lose them far before they actually succumb to their demons; which, if they don't find recovery, is inevitable.
Drug addiction causes families to come to fear a ringing phone or a knock on the door. It causes vague obituaries. I read the papers and I follow the news; and it is scary. "Died suddenly" has officially become obituary-speak for "another young person found dead from a drug overdose."
Drug addiction causes bedrooms and social media sites to become memorials. It causes the "yesterdays" to outnumber the "tomorrows." It causes things to break; like the law, trust and homes.
Drug addiction causes statistics to rise and knees to fall, as praying seems like the only thing left to do sometimes.
People have a way of pigeonholing those who suffer from addiction. They call them "trash," "junkies" or "criminals," which is hardly ever the truth. Addiction is an illness. Addicts have families and aspirations.
You will learn that drug addiction doesn't discriminate. It doesn't care if the addict came from a loving home or a broken family.
Drug addiction doesn't care if you are religious. Drug addiction doesn't care if you are a straight-A student or a drop-out. Drug addiction doesn't care what ethnicity you are. Drug addiction will show you that one decision and one lapse in judgment can alter the course of an entire life.
Drug addiction doesn't care. Period. But you care.
You will learn to hate the drug but love the addict. You will begin to accept that you need to separate who the person once was with who they are now.
It is not the person who uses, but the addict. It is not the person who steals to support their habit, but the addict. It is not the person who spews obscenities at their family, but the addict. It is not the person who lies, but the addict.
And yet, sadly... it is not the addict who dies, but the person.

- Alicia Cook

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To The Family Living With Addiction, I See You.

Addiction is a disease that, if left untreated, can have fatal results. Yet many families still buy into the shame and stigma, fighting their life and death battles alone, in secrecy, behind closed doors.

One worried mother recently broke her silence and reached out to me. This mother had never talked to anyone before and had many questions. Mom asked if I would post her questions anonymously as she didn't want her friends or extended family to know her daughter was addicted.

This mother is not alone. Addiction is a family illness, and each relationship brings unique struggles.

To the mother battling her child's addiction, I see you.

I see your sleepless nights and tear-drenched pillow. I see your heartache and fear. I see you calling treatment facilities and detox programs. I see you checking your child's room to ensure they're in bed and breathing. I see your confusion–your child has become a stranger. You don't see the adult in front of you. You see the baby you nursed and remember the toddler with a skinned knee. Once upon a time, you could fix your child with a kiss and a band-aide. But there is no band-aide for addiction. Guilt eats at you, and you wonder where you went wrong.

To the spouse with an addicted partner, I see you.

The person you fell in love with is gone. Those romantic nights and shared connections you once had are a thing of the past. Your partner's drug of choice is more intoxicating than mere flesh and blood. Addiction has become their mistress and master, leaving you alone, betrayed, and angry. You've threatened to leave. You've nagged, cried, and raged, but nothing works. You're at your wit's end. But that's not all. You realize your partner isn't the only one who has changed. You've become their parent, nurse, therapist, and prison guard. You don't trust what they say and feel sick and miserable. Deep down, you know you're not the same person you once were.

To the child growing up with an addicted parent, I see you.

You know far more than you say. You are the watcher. You believe your parents' problems are your fault. You feel responsible for everyone you meet. You smile and pretend, but your stomach hurts, and there's a lump in your throat. You feel safest when you're alone. You fantasize, imagining a Daddy who is happy and spends time with you. Or a Mommy who cuddles you and brushes your hair. You tell your parents you're okay because you don't want to upset them. But deep down, you're not okay. You're sad and lonely. Only you learn to hide your emotions and build a wall around them. This wall keeps you safe in your growing-up home. But as an adult, it will negatively impact all your relationships.

To the grandparents raising grandchildren, I see you.

You worked hard, raised your kids, and did your best. You were looking forward to slowing down and having some well-earned me-time. Only it never played out that way. Instead, you're on round two—diapers, playdates, sleepovers, sports, and homework. You don't tell anyone, but you're exhausted and wonder if you'll have the energy to cope with what's in front of you. While your friends are off on sun-filled vacations, you're at home raising grandbabies. You love them fiercely but struggle to keep your head above water.

To the addicted person, I see you.

I see you snorting lines in the bathroom and chugging from the bottle. I see you lying in bed tossing and turning, drenched in sweat. I know your mind is racing. I know you're scared. Your two worst fears are going without dope and getting caught. It's become a full-time job just keeping yourself supplied. You've told so many lies you can't remember them all. You keep thinking you'll stop – but you don't. You keep thinking things can't get worse–but they do. You keep trying to control your addiction–but it controls you. I know you want to stop, at least you want the consequences to stop, but each time you pick up, there's less of you left to fight this battle. You are hurting everyone who loves you. Worse yet, you're destroying yourself.

Addiction is a progressive illness for everyone involved. Living under such extreme conditions can cause family members to become physically, mentally, and emotionally ill. Some will suffer from PTSD and/or nervous breakdowns.

Even though addiction has long been identified as a disease, not a moral failing, some families still keep it secret and attempt to deal with the pain and confusion on their own. These families feel unseen, unheard, and all alone.

Although our stories may be different, our pain is not. Asking for help is never easy, but staying stuck in the chaos of addiction or dying from it, is the real tragedy of this disease. Step outside your comfort zone, and reach out because statistics show addicted persons are most successful when their families are educated and in recovery. We are stronger together, and there's no shame in sharing our experiences.

Lorelie Rozzano
www.jaggedlittleedges.com

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