22/10/2024
Unfinished Love: When Moving On Feels Impossible
There was a lady who had been courting the elder brother of a friend of mine. They were deeply in love, and soon after their engagement, tragedy struck,her fiancé passed away suddenly, leaving her heartbroken and lost. For some time, she tried to move on and find love again. However, the men she encountered didn’t treat her with the same sincerity and commitment she had experienced before. They played with her emotions, leaving her feeling used and disillusioned.
In her frustration, she would call my friend and say, "Go and wake your brother. I want him to come and marry me!" It was her way of expressing how much she missed the love and respect her late fiancé had shown her—something no other man seemed able to give.
When I heard this real story, it touched me deeply. Despite the sadness of her situation, there were three powerful lessons I learned from her:
1. Resilience in the Face of Loss
Despite the tragedy of losing her fiancé, she continued to try and move forward. She could have easily shut herself off from love and given up hope, but instead, she kept trying to build new relationships. Her persistence in seeking happiness after such a deep loss shows a strength of character that refuses to be defeated by grief.
2. Knowing Your Worth
Even though she was heartbroken, she never settled for less than what she deserved. The men she met afterwards didn’t treat her with respect, and instead of accepting that, she stood firm in her belief that she deserved better. Her demand for genuine love and loyalty is a reminder that knowing your worth is key in any relationship.
3. Honoring True Love
Her longing for her late fiancé wasn’t just about missing him; it was about cherishing the genuine connection they had. She honored the love they shared by refusing to accept anything less. This teaches us to value true love when we find it and not to settle for relationships that don’t reflect the same depth and sincerity.
This lady's story, though filled with pain, shines with hope, strength, and a deep understanding of her own value. It reminds us that, even when life takes away what we hold most dear, we can honor that love by refusing to settle for anything less than what we deserve.