13/07/2025
Have you ever noticed how tough times seem to stretch on forever while fun or good times fly by?
That's because unpleasant experiences make our minds work overtime, dwelling on problems and dissecting (breaking down) every detail. This negative focus, or cognitive bias, makes time feel incredibly slow. Fun or good experiences, on the other hand, reduce our awareness of time passing. As we just flow with it and not overthink the experiences.
This tendency to focus on the negative might stem from childhood experiences of criticism, punishment, or the frequent reminders of bad manners. This has led to negative self-talk among adults in our minds. This shapes our view of reality, making us more aware of our challenges than our strengths.
Sometimes, tough times genuinely keep coming back, creating chronic stress and mental overload. Global and local issues, such as the lingering effects of COVID-19, climate challenges (drought/power-cuts), and economic instability, are examples of these recurring stressors. This can make us feel stuck in a loop of adversity, leading to feelings of overwhelm and burnout.
Understanding these psychological patterns and stress responses can help us to be kinder to ourselves. Practising self-compassion and being aware of these cognitive and emotional tendencies are crucial, especially when dealing with overwhelming periods that challenge our emotional well-being.
PS: Thank you, Cha Rlie for reflecting and asking this question from a precious check-in. I am because we are.
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📷 Levy Mwanawasa Medical University.