13/09/2024
[9/13, 12:39] Patient : How does a Toxic relations work?
[9/13, 12:39]Unlicensed TherApist : Toxic relationships involve a dynamic of power imbalance, where one person manipulates and exploits the other, often using emotional abuse, gaslighting, and control. The toxic partner uses guilt, anger, or self-pity to keep the other person in a state of constant stress, anxiety, or fear, making them doubt their own perceptions, memories, or sanity. This can lead to a loss of identity, self-esteem, and autonomy, making it difficult for the affected person to leave the relationship or seek help. The toxic partner may also use charm, affection, or apologies to maintain control and keep the other person invested in the relationship, creating a cycle of abuse that can be challenging to break free from.
[9/13, 12:40] Unlicensed TherApist : Here's a victim's point of view:
"I feel trapped and suffocated in this relationship. Every day, I'm walking on eggshells, never knowing when the next explosion will happen. They make me feel like I'm crazy, like I'm the one who's always wrong. They use my love and trust against me, twisting my words and actions to fit their own narrative. I'm constantly trying to appease them, to avoid the anger and hurtful words, but it's never enough. I feel like I'm losing myself, like I'm disappearing into their darkness. I'm scared to leave, scared of what they might do, but I'm more scared of staying and losing what's left of me."
[9/13, 12:42] Patient : But what makes the victim stay irregardless?
[9/13, 12:42] Unlicensed TherApist: There are many complex reasons why a victim might stay in a toxic relationship, including:
1. Fear: Fear of the abuser's threats, fear of being alone, or fear of the unknown.
2. Love: A deep emotional attachment and hope that the relationship will improve.
3. Trauma bonding: A strong emotional connection formed through shared experiences of trauma.
4. Low self-esteem: Believing they don't deserve better or are unworthy of love.
5. Dependence: Financial, emotional, or practical dependence on the abuser.
6. Shame and guilt: Feeling responsible for the abuser's behavior or believing they can "fix" them.
7. Hope for change: Believing the abuser will change or that the relationship will improve.
8. Social isolation: Being cut off from friends, family, and support networks.
9. Cultural or societal pressures: Feeling obligated to maintain the relationship due to cultural or societal expectations.
10. Lack of resources: Not having access to financial, emotional, or practical support to leave the relationship.
These factors can make it incredibly difficult for a victim to leave a toxic relationship, even when they know it's harming them.
