Darius Bwalya Chama Serenje - Mental Health Expert

Darius Bwalya Chama Serenje - Mental Health Expert Counselling Psychologist| MFT| Grief-Trauma Therapist| Alcohol & Drug Rehabilitation Therapist| Newspaper Columnist
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Counselling Psychologist. Certified Member of the Psychology Association of Zambia. Licensed Professional Counsellor with Zambia Counselling Council.

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14/10/2025

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Not enough people talk about the quiet burnout that comes from loving or living with someone who hasn’t healed.

It’s that emotional fatigue of always being the strong one — the listener, the peacekeeper, the fixer — while silently absorbing another person’s chaos.

When people don’t face their wounds, that pain seeps into everything — and before you know it, you’re carrying burdens that were never yours to hold.

Dear one, protect your peace. You can care deeply without losing yourself. Healing is personal — you can walk beside someone, but you cannot do their healing for them. 🌿

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11/10/2025

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Mental health matters for everyone. Be part of the conversation at a webinar hosted by Global Health Innovations Ltd: Cultivating Resilience – Mental Health for All Zambians.

Tuesday Oct 14, 2025 ⋅ 6pm – 7pm (Central Africa Time - Lusaka)

Join us via the following link: https://meet.google.com/cjr-oeqs-sem or Register in advance at: https://luma.com/6mee1doa

World Mental Health Day 2025: Prioritizing Mental Health in Emergencies.Mental health is a fundamental part of overall w...
10/10/2025

World Mental Health Day 2025: Prioritizing Mental Health in Emergencies.

Mental health is a fundamental part of overall well-being, influencing how we think, feel, and behave. However, it has historically been neglected in favor of physical health. World Mental Health Day aims to correct this by raising awareness and advocating for better access to services.

This year's theme highlights a critical but often ignored fact: emergencies and catastrophes cause profound invisible wounds, such as trauma, grief, and anxiety, that linger long after the physical damage is repaired. These events can shatter lives by causing loss, disrupting communities, and fracturing social bonds.

Evidence confirms that while most people exposed to an emergency will experience psychological distress, for 1 in 5 this develops into a severe mental health condition like depression, anxiety, or PTSD. Without proper support, these issues can persist, severely hindering long-term recovery and resilience.

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08/10/2025

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BOUNDARIES & CHRISTIANITY. The principle of establishing healthy boundaries is profoundly biblical, demonstrated through...
27/09/2025

BOUNDARIES & CHRISTIANITY.

The principle of establishing healthy boundaries is profoundly biblical, demonstrated throughout Scripture as an act of wisdom, stewardship, and even love. Contrary to being unkind, boundaries allow us to love others as ourselves by preventing resentment and preserving our capacity to give. This is perfectly modeled by Jesus Himself, who, despite His infinite love for humanity, consistently set limits. He demonstrated that walking away is sometimes necessary, as seen when He slipped away from hostile crowds intent on killing Him (Luke 4:28-30; John 8:59, 10:39-40). He prioritized His primary mission over the endless demands of people (Mark 1:35-38) and did not entrust Himself to those whose faith was superficial (John 2:24-25). Furthermore, He directly confronted harmful influence, even from His closest disciples, telling Peter, 'Get behind me, Satan!' (Matthew 16:23). These actions are supported by the wisdom literature, which commands us to 'guard your heart above all else' (Proverbs 4:23) and warns against the corruption of 'bad company' (1 Corinthians 15:33). Therefore, boundaries are not a modern psychological concept but a godly practice, essential for fulfilling our calling without succumbing to burnout, manipulation, or sin.

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27/09/2025

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15/09/2025

Don't inherit enemies!

ZAMBIA DAILY MAIL NEWSPAPER SATURDAY EDITION The Psychology Behind "Too Good to Be True" Deals  By now I am confident th...
14/09/2025

ZAMBIA DAILY MAIL NEWSPAPER SATURDAY EDITION

The Psychology Behind "Too Good to Be True" Deals

By now I am confident that we have all seen those eye-catching offers that make us stop scrolling or take a second look. “Buy one, get one free!” “Limited time offer!” “Only a few left!” They scream at us from billboards, social media, and market stalls, promising unbelievable value. But how many of these deals are truly as good as they seem? The truth is, many of these offers are carefully designed to play tricks on our minds, making us feel like we’re winning when we might actually be overpaying.

Let’s break it down with a simple example. Imagine a car dealer advertises a Toyota Vitz for K225,000 and throws in a “free” Honda Fit. At first glance, it sounds like a steal, two cars for the price of one! But if you did the math, you would realize that importing both cars yourself (or even buying locally) could cost you less than the advertised “special price.” The so-called “free” car isn’t really free, its cost is hidden in the inflated price of the first car. This tactic is called price anchoring, where sellers make us focus on the “discount” rather than the actual value.

This isn’t just about cars. The same tricks appear everywhere including supermarkets, phone deals, even household goods. A “buy one, get one free” offer on cooking oil might seem like a bargain, but if you check the unit price, you could find that buying two separately is cheaper. Retailers know that our brains love shortcuts. When we see the word “FREE,” we often stop thinking critically and jump at the offer without checking the real cost.

Another common trick is scarcity and urgency. “Only 3 left in stock!” “Offer ends today!” These messages create fear of missing out (FOMO), pushing us to buy quickly before we lose the chance. But how often is that scarcity real? Sometimes, the same “limited” deal reappears week after week. The goal is to make us act fast, bypassing our usual careful thinking.

Then there’s social proof in which they claim that the “87 people are viewing this” or “50 bought today” notifications. These messages make us think, “If so many others are buying, it must be a good deal!” But what if those numbers are exaggerated? What if the “rush” is just an illusion to pressure us into joining the crowd?

So why do we keep falling for these tricks? Because they tap into deep psychological habits. We’re wired to seek rewards, avoid losses, and follow the crowd. Marketers know this and use it to their advantage. But awareness is the first step to smarter spending.

Here’s how to protect yourself:
1. Do the math: Before jumping on a “free” offer, calculate the actual cost per item.
2. Question urgency: If a deal disappears today, will a better one appear tomorrow?
3. Check reviews: Are others really buying, or is it just hype?
4. Sleep on it: Avoid impulse buys. Give yourself time to think.

At the end of the day, the best deals aren’t always the loudest ones. Real value comes from knowing what you’re really paying, and what you’re really getting. The next time you see a “too good to be true” offer, pause, think, and ask yourself, "Is this really a win, or just clever marketing?"

The more we understand these tricks, the harder it becomes for sellers to fool us. And that’s a deal worth taking.

By Darius Chama - Psychologist, Grief-Trauma Therapist & Addiction Recovery Coach

Light a candle with us. This Sept 10th, we're hosting a vital webinar featuring powerful personal testimonies and a pane...
10/09/2025

Light a candle with us. This Sept 10th, we're hosting a vital webinar featuring powerful personal testimonies and a panel discussion with mental health experts and students. Together, we can break the silence and foster hope.

09/09/2025

You're not here to FIX anyone's idea of you. You're here to love yourself, break free & live life on your own terms.

Please understand that they wanted your reaction to their disrespect, because then they could use your reaction to paint...
09/09/2025

Please understand that they wanted your reaction to their disrespect, because then they could use your reaction to paint you as the problem and deflect from their own toxic and bad behaviors. This is a classic manipulation tactic, designed to shift the focus away from their own wrongdoing and onto your response. By reacting, you're giving them the ammunition they need to distort the narrative and avoid accountability.

When you're provoked into an emotional response, they'll seize on that to portray you as overly sensitive, reactive, or even unstable. This allows them to sidestep their own culpability and maintain a veneer of innocence. It's essential to recognize this tactic and deny them the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you.

By staying calm and composed, you're taking away their power to manipulate the situation. You're also preserving your own emotional energy and avoiding getting drawn into their toxic games. Remember, their behavior is not about you; it's about their own need for control and manipulation. Don't give them the satisfaction of reacting; instead, focus on maintaining your own dignity and integrity.

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08/09/2025

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