Still Standing Never Give Up

21/04/2025

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How do you wean up your relatives for them to see you as a grown up who makes own decisions

21/04/2025

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I'm not vocal but I can see that I'm taken advantage of by the person helping me , be at home or at work.

What should I do without losing my job or being cast out of the home I stay.

14/04/2025

19/03/2025

19/03/2022 7:00 am

Thought of the day.

Long-ago yesterday when I was young ...I thought those who need healing and to forgive are the victims of abuse , those that were broken and those who suffered loss,those divorced,those rejected, those abandoned, those fired /sacked.........
Then I grew up and realised..

Those that need healing and to let go are the abusers , the perpetrators , the narcissistic thinkers ,those that inflicted the pain and in short the evil doers.....
How did I come to this conclusion..
If someone assumes and observes every move or life progress of someone they despise, divorced ,fired, inflicted pain and want to know every tiny detail whilst that other person doesn't even care what that person is upto ... It means they are stalking with evil intent.....Those evil people given a chance will character assassinate. They know their zone of influence is limited hence they try to recruit new haters , they try to ruin reputation of that victim.

Today I have good news.

God is in control.Amen.

Someone asked kuinbox what I really meant so I will repeat in Shona.

Ukaona usingafariri munhu , kushoora munhu kuzvidza munhu ,kusvibisa zita remunhu ...asi uchitsvagisisa nezvehupenyu hwake ..kuti nhasi aiitei ..uchiteera maposts ake ,or mastatus , uchida kuziva zvaari kuita muhupenyu ...Asi iye asina basa newe ..asingatombokutsvagi ...

Zvorewa unemweya vakaipa ,pfungwa dzako hadzina kururama pamusoro pemunhu iyeye.

Hino nhasi ndine mashoko akanaka.
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Zvinhu zvose zviri muhurongwa hwaMwari.

15/03/2025

15/03/25 2107hrs
"Our Deepest Fear" by Marianne Williamson:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

15/03/2025

I never thought I’d be in this situation. I’m a guy in my late 20s, working hard to build something for myself. Money is tight sometimes, but I’ve always managed. Recently, though, I decided to try something—something I thought I’d never have the guts to do. I pretended I was broke.

It wasn’t a lie at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized I had been giving off the wrong impression. Every time we went out, I’d pay for dinner, for drinks, for whatever we did. I was always the one treating her, trying to make her happy. But something didn’t sit right. I noticed that when I’d mention anything about my finances or the struggles I was facing, she’d act sympathetic, but nothing deeper. She didn’t really care.

So, I decided to pull the plug—just for a little while, I told myself. I told her that I was having a hard time financially, that things were tight, that I wasn’t making as much as I used to. I figured she’d understand, right? I thought we were building something real, something solid. After all, we were supposed to be a team.

What happened next was… shocking.

At first, she seemed understanding. But as the days went on, she started to pull away. My calls went unanswered, my messages read but never replied to. Every time I tried to make plans, she had an excuse. “I’m busy,” “I’m tired,” “I’m with friends,” or just complete silence. She stopped making an effort, completely.

I felt something shift. The woman who used to text me back in an instant, who would be excited to see me, now treated me like a ghost. All because I wasn’t “financially up to par,” or at least, that’s what it felt like. I saw her true character unfold before my eyes. I wasn’t some valuable prize when I wasn’t flashing cash around or planning extravagant dates. I was just another guy—disposable.

It stung. It really did. I used to think she liked me for who I was. But now I see it: she was only interested in what I could give her. The moment I wasn’t a walking bank account,

14/03/2025

On top of all qualities that make a woman marriage material ...

Someone who brings you peace of mind and happiness is the best.

Discuss ,...

Am I correct

12/03/2025

Mugore ra 1990 ndaive kuHigh school, i remember one day ndakasvika kumba ndikawana mai vachichema. I asked her vakati hapana vachibva vapinda mubedroom at that moment mudhara vakabva vauyawo vachibva kubasa vakanopinda mubedroom muya. I could hear kuti maitaurisanwa but couldnt get what was actually being said and my father stormed out zvehasha. That night he didnt come home

Two days later i came home from school only to find mama had gone, vaenda kumusha kwavo. Ini being the eldest, baba vakanditora vakagara neni pasi vakati namai venyu hatisi kunyatsa kunzwanana pamwe mamuchizviona pamwe mamusingazvioni asi parizvino vati vakumboenda kumusha kwavo. Ini ndichiri pabasa asi after a month ndichanovatora kana ndapiwa off
For sure after a month baba vakanouya naamai and life went on well as usual
After ndapedza chikoro ndakanoita temporary ticha ,2 months later i received a letter from my young bro achiti mai vakaenda kumusha kwavo. Pandakatambira ndakabva ndaenda kumusha kwaamai ndichinovaona, vakanditaurira kuti for years baba was abusing her and she couldnt take it anymore now that ndakura ndakuseenza i can now take care of my siblings. She also told me kuti she was the one who had been paying fees for us and buying clothes and food whilst baba vaiita zvemahure nemari yavo. Vakabva vatondiudza vaskana 3 vaidanana nababa vangu amai vangu vachi suffer
Ndakabva ipapo ndakatsamwa zvisingaite and i confronted my father who said nothing on all the allegations. I went on kunoudza ma siblings angu kuti ndizvo zvakaitika and takabva tati the last born aive msikana aende kunogara naamai kumusha kwavo, isu 3 boys taiona yekutamba
Ainditevera akabva atoguma form 4 and he joined me kutemporary teaching and our lives were better
Takatanga kunogara kwasekuru kwaive naamai, pataihora taienda tose ikoko, mai vedu vaifara chaizvo kutiona nesu taifara kuve navo. Vakatiudza hw baba abused her secretly tisipo but since taive vaduku, vakangoshinga kuti tikure , mashoko aya aindirwadza z

11/03/2025

Very true