
05/08/2025
Getting your teen to spend time with you is NOT EASY!
They live in a very different world than us (parents)
As a teen mentor and coach many have sat in my chair and here is the golden nugget I simply have to share -
When you spend time with them, make it about THEM!
Let them make choices (even if it is silly, they are practicing)
Let them feel welcome, not judged, not criticised or embarrassed
Let them take the lead, talk about what they find interesting, as long as they feel to do so
Don’t demand, suggest, if they resist, let it go.
Let them feel important
Today my teen to cut her hair the way she wanted….
Would I have chosen it different for her if I was given the choice…? yes - BUT, I kept quiet because her joy is mine. She is happy the way Desire (from ) cut her hair (she is SUPER TALENTED at hair by the way!!!). I did not interfere. I did not tell her what I “thought” will be better, because my best is not her best.
Do I think she looks pretty amazing… beautiful… YES, yes and YES!!!
So there is nothing more to be said other than I love her hair!