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Counselling & Eye movement therapy
Work through trauma, anxiety + relationship patterns
💜 1:1 + Couples Therapy
💫 For women →
The Connected Couple Workshop

13/01/2026

It’s easy to assume that being different means being incompatible.

But in long-term relationships, difference is often what creates balance. One person brings logic where the other brings emotion. One brings structure where the other brings flexibility.

According to the research of Dr John Gottman, around 69% of couple conflict is rooted in core differences like personality, values, or lifestyle needs.

That means the work isn’t about eliminating those differences (if they aren't dealbreakers). It’s about learning how to live with them well.

The couples who stay connected aren’t the ones who agree on everything. They’re the ones who can talk about these differences with care, curiosity, and respect - sometimes even with humour - without letting them turn into distance or conflict.

The tension usually isn’t the difference itself. It’s what happens when those differences aren’t understood or worked with.

When partners stop trying to change each other and start working with what each person brings, something shifts. The relationship becomes less about who’s right, and more about how to move forward together.

Difference doesn’t have to divide you. Handled with care, it can strengthen the connection between you and become your relationship superpower.

S.W.

08/01/2026

One of the biggest mistakes people make with goals is relying on motivation to carry them through. Another is trying to change too much, all at once.

Here’s what actually happens - motivation fluctuates, and big “life overhauls” don’t work with the way our brain and nervous system actually operate.

What does build momentum are small, repeatable steps you can sustain.

This reduces overwhelm, builds trust with yourself, fits into real life (not an ideal version of it), and creates consistency over time.

Waiting to feel motivated often keeps people stuck in cycles of starting and stopping. Choosing actions that are doable - even on hard days - is what creates forward movement. Tracking your progress, adjusting when needed, and acknowledging small wins through mini goals or milestones helps support you along the way.

Small steps, practiced consistently, change everything. ✌

S.W.

05/01/2026

There’s a lot of noise about using the new year energy in January to reinvent yourself with new habits and goals. And for some this a great motivator and helps get them going.

But for many people, this time of year is less about doing something new and more about finding your way back after a demanding stretch.

Reconnection is often the missing step. Reconnection to your capacity, to what supports you and to the way you actually want to live, not just what you think you should be aiming for.

When you start from that place, change tends to be steadier and more sustainable, because it’s built on values rather than urgency.

January doesn’t need to be loud or ambitious to be meaningful (unless you have the energy for it). Sometimes you just need some breathing space, and that's okay too.

S.W.

30/12/2025

Before you set goals for the new year, it can be helpful to pause and reflect on what actually guides your decisions - not just how you want to feel, but what you want to live by.

You don’t need to have all the answers right now - you don't even need to set a bunch of goals because it's a new year. Just creating space for these questions is a meaningful place to start.

Feelings come and go, but values tend to stay. And values tend to lead to decisions that feel steadier, more intentional, and more sustainable over time. From there, goals become more than something to tick off, they become an extension of what matters to you.

S.W.

#2026

29/12/2025

2025 was a year of solidifying the foundations. A year of setting things up with intention, coming back to my values and choosing what’s meaningful to me.

I’m proud of what was built this year both for Blue Jay Counselling and for me personally. Some achievements felt big and expansive, others small and steady, some just for fun. All of them mattered and serve a purpose for now and into the future.

When you look back over your year, I hope you take a moment to see how far you’ve come. If something is calling you - just start, you won’t regret it. It is absolutely possible to reshape your life, your beliefs about yourself, about others - no matter where you've been and what you're going through right now.

Thank you to the clients who trusted me this year to support them through a small part of their life journey, it’s a privilege I don’t ever take lightly. And to those who just follow along here and comment, share and drop into my DM's for a chat, I'm grateful that you're here too. 💜

2026 will be a continuation of the foundations I care most about: health and wellbeing, marriage, motherhood, friendship - and continuing to build my business - with an exciting new modality for clients coming later in the year which will tie in beautifully with the work I'm already doing.

Watch this space. See you next year. ✌

S.W.

19/12/2025

Most of us were not taught how to communicate in a way that builds real safety and connection. We usually learn through trial, error, and whatever was modelled for us growing up.

So we enter relationships with big intentions… and very few tools.

That’s why these questions matter. They aren’t “cute conversation starters", they’re connection builders, nervous system calmers, repair tools.

Ways of saying: “I care about your inner world. I want to understand you. I want us to feel close, not stuck.”

In healthy relationships, communication isn’t about winning, convincing, or being “right." It’s about staying curious, especially when things feel tense or emotional.

None of these questions require perfection. Just presence, willingness and two humans trying to understand each other a little more deeply.

Relationships thrive when there’s this ongoing curiosity, not just in the easy moments, but especially in the hard ones.

Because when you feel understood, you soften. When you feel heard, you open. When you feel safe, you connect.

Communication isn’t about talking more, it’s about helping each other feel valued, seen, and emotionally held.

Save this for the days you need a reset. And share it with someone you love.

If you want to strengthen communication with support, therapy can help you practise these skills together in a safe, guided space.

S.W.

11/12/2025

Everyone wants to skip to the end result, but you have to get comfortable with the messy parts of the process too.

Discomfort doesn’t mean you’re failing. Slow progress doesn’t mean nothing’s happening. And shifting your goals doesn’t automatically mean you’re inconsistent, it means you’re responsive to your life.

If you can stay grounded through the parts that feel boring, frustrating, repetitive, imperfect or uncertain… that’s where the real growth happens.

This is the work. And you’re doing better than you think. Keep going. ✌

S.W.

08/12/2025

So many people tell me, “I’m working on becoming securely attached on my own.”
And yes - there are so many powerful things you can do individually:

You can learn your patterns.
You can build self-worth.
You can regulate your nervous system.
You can understand why you react the way you do.

But here’s the piece most people never hear... Attachment isn’t fully healed in isolation - it’s healed through safe, responsive connection.

You can feel secure when you’re single because nothing is activating your attachment system. You’re not confronting uncertainty, vulnerability, conflict, intimacy, or fear of loss.

But the moment you care about someone… the real work begins. That’s when old patterns show up - not because you've failed at the individual work, but because your nervous system is responding to real relational cues that will put that work to the test.

And if you’re in a relationship right now trying to “fix it yourself,” remember this: Two people create the pattern. Two people must participate in changing it for security to be earned.

Self-work builds awareness. Relationships build integration.

You’re not meant to do this alone. None of us were.

Secure attachment is built through:
✨ consistent connection
✨ open communication
✨ emotional responsiveness
✨ co-regulation
✨ shared repair
✨ safe patterns over time

Your solo healing is the foundation. Your relationships are the place where that healing becomes real.

If you’re ready to build secure attachment - you don’t need perfection. You need safe connection.

S.W.

04/12/2025

These are the values that anchor me, guide my decisions, and help me show up as the person I want to be in all areas of my life.

Sharing them in case it helps you reflect on yours, too.

Because when you know your values, you stop drifting… and you start choosing.

S.W.

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Aberglasslyn, NSW

Opening Hours

Monday	10am - 2pm
	4:30pm - 7pm
Tuesday	4:30pm - 7pm
Wednesday	10am - 2pm
	4:30pm - 7pm
Thursday	4:30pm - 7pm
Friday	10am - 2pm
	4:30pm - 7pm
Saturday	10am - 2pm
Sunday	10am - 2pm

Telephone

+61447104720

Website

http://www.bluejaycounselling.au/

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