03/04/2025
April’s ‘Book of the month’ on display at Ironmind Gym – Croydon Park.
'The Gift of Fear' by Gavin de Becker
The Gift of Fear is a compelling exploration of how intuition can protect us from violence. Written by security expert Gavin de Becker, the book argues that fear is not something to be ignored or suppressed but a vital survival signal that can help us recognise danger before it happens. Through real-life case studies and psychological insights, De Becker teaches readers how to trust their instincts and identify warning signs of potential violence.
There are 5 main parts to this book;
1. Intuition as a Survival Tool - De Becker explains that our subconscious mind picks up on subtle cues that signal danger. Ignoring gut feelings can put us at risk. He encourages people to trust their instincts rather than dismiss them as paranoia.
2. Pre-Incident Indicators (PINS) - The book outlines behaviours that often precede violent acts, such as forced teaming (creating false connections), excessive charm, unsolicited promises, and refusal to accept "no." Recognising these warning signs can help individuals avoid dangerous situations.
3. Understanding Violence - Violence is often predictable. Perpetrators follow patterns, and by studying past cases, people can learn to anticipate and avoid threats. De Becker discusses how denial and wishful thinking can make people more vulnerable.
4. Fear vs. Anxiety - Fear is an immediate response to a real threat, while anxiety is often a product of the imagination. Learning to distinguish between the two allows individuals to react appropriately to actual dangers.
5. Personal Safety Strategies - The book offers practical advice on dealing with stalkers, domestic violence, workplace violence, and other threats. De Becker emphasises that setting boundaries and refusing to engage with manipulative people can be key to staying safe.\
Key Takeaways
• Fear is a gift that helps us survive; we should listen to it rather than suppress it.
• People who intend harm often exhibit warning signs before acting.
• Denying danger can be more dangerous than acknowledging it.
• Learning to say "no" confidently is a powerful tool for self-protection.
• True fear is different from unnecessary worry—learning to tell them apart can improve safety and peace of mind.
The Gift of Fear is a must-read for anyone interested in personal safety and self-defence. It empowers readers to trust their instincts, recognise warning signs, and take action to protect themselves. Through powerful storytelling and expert insights, De Becker transforms fear from something to be avoided into a valuable tool for survival.
If you would like to know more or where you can get a copy feel free to pm us 😊