
21/07/2025
When Calm Feels Unsafe: Understanding a Highly Stressed Nervous System
For some people, especially those who’ve experienced trauma or ongoing high stress, calming down isn’t always calming.
A nervous system that’s used to being on high alert may interpret relaxation as unfamiliar or even unsafe. When you're used to scanning for danger or staying "switched on" to survive, sudden stillness can feel threatening.
This doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means your body has adapted in powerful ways to protect you.
The key is to take it slowly.
Rather than trying to dive into deep relaxation, try taking gentle steps, a couple slow breaths, soothing movement, calming music, a soothing scent, a walk in nature....
Regulation is a process, not a switch. Bit by bit, your system can learn that calm is safe.
Be kind to yourself in the process 💛