Billows Psychology

05/03/2026

Let's be real, most people aren’t TRYING to hurt you.

But when intention becomes the only thing that matters, it can subtly erase our right to our feelings.

In this episode, I unpack why confusing intent with responsibility can become emotionally abusive — even when no one means for it to be.

15/06/2025

02/02/2025

I am the therapist that will get angrier than you about you being mistreated and I’m absolutely 10/10 ok with that ☺️☺️☺️☺️

It’s very common for people with trauma histories to have experienced a lot of INVALIDATION. Being told your feelings aren’t okay, aren’t normal, or being treated like THERES SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.

There’s nothing wrong with you.
I see you.
I understand.
And IM MAD TOO!

05/12/2024

This one’s for the over-apologisers. We see you 🥲🥲

The message these apologies give?

Sorry for existing.
Sorry for being human.
Sorry for taking up space in the world.

All of these things are your entitlements, just by virtue of being alive.

Apologies are for when we do something wrong - when we apologise for being authentic, we betray ourselves.

This pattern is often associated with people pleasing - which is always a trauma response.

03/12/2024

🤣🤣🤣 Emotional invalidation is an excellent way to change sad to angry real quick!

Follow us for more tips on how to lose friends and alienate people 👍😃👍

20/11/2024

Credit to

A beautiful depiction of the very unfortunate reality of trauma - and hardship/adversity in general.

Buddhist ideas of acceptance invite us to observe and accept reality just as it is. These same traditions identify that at times when we reject, fight or resist reality, we increase our suffering. When reality is already bad, fighting that fact does not improve that fact. It simply we means we add a fight onto our already painful experience.

A big part of trauma therapy can involve coming to terms with reality - the facts of what have occurred.

That I went through that.
That happened to me.
That is a fact I cannot change, no matter how much I reject, disagree or disapprove of it.

But what you CAN change, is how you carry and experience this in your present and your future.

23/10/2024

✨ Blog Post Alert ✨

Read on to learn about what the 'Healthy Adult Self' is, how it becomes impaired by childhood neglect and abuse, and how you can strengthen it to support your healing.

Learn what your Healthy Adult Self is, how it is impacted by childhood neglect and abuse, and how you can strengthen this part of yourself.

11/10/2024

Setting the record straight 😤🧐🧐

04/10/2024

Omg us too 🥲🥲🥲

(Is this a good time to mention therapy can help with that, or?)

27/09/2024

"it just feels like a bandaid..."

✨that's because it IS ✨

If all the psychological field has been able to offer you thus far has been skills and strategies to manage your symptoms and cope better, while this is a great start, we think there's more to be done!

Don't get us wrong - skills and strategies to support your coping are very important. However, without addressing the underlying causes of these problems, people often find they need to play the coping game... well, forever. This isn't our thing. Our goal is to get into the deep stuff, heal the wounds causing your mental health symptoms and have you genuinely feeling BETTER - no constant coping required.

24/09/2024

15/08/2024

And yes, that DOES mean that, with effective trauma therapy, these beliefs will not only resolve, but positive ones will likely replace them. These can include:

“I did the best I could (with what I knew then)”
“It wasn’t my fault”
“I make good choices”

EMDR can absolutely achieve these changes, and we see it happen every day! 😃✨