BellaNero HeartSpace - EPA Mentor

25/07/2025

Such a beautiful lense, as part of my animal communication I offer passed pets readings and this gave me goosebumps know what can present when reading the energy of our soulmates who’ve crossed 🌈🌈🌈

Much love Bella’s 🌹🌹🌹

25/07/2025

🌿 From Saviour to Sovereign: The Empowered Path of the Healing Empath 🌿

In the early stages of our healing journey, many empaths feel called to help others, to soothe pain, offer guidance, and be the emotional anchor for those around them. This calling often comes from a genuine place of compassion, but hidden beneath can be unconscious patterns of:

✨ People-pleasing
✨ Self-betrayal masked as service
✨ Seeking worth through being needed
✨ Trying to fix or rescue others to validate our own healing

This is the saviour archetype in action, a loving but wounded form of leadership. One where we overextend, absorb what isn’t ours, and mistake control for care.

But true leadership, authentic, sovereign, and light-filled, doesn’t require saving anyone.

It asks us to heal ourselves first.

As we evolve, we begin to embody a new way.

🦋 We no longer lead by convincing, we lead by authenticity
🦋 We no longer carry others’ pain, we model self-responsibility and compassion
🦋 We no longer give from depletion, we give from overflow
🦋 We no longer seek to be seen, we are rooted in self-worth, whether witnessed or not

This is the shift from empath as saviour to empath as sovereign.
A powerful transformation where:

🌟 Our energy speaks louder than our words
🌟 Our boundaries become sacred, not selfish
🌟 Our healing becomes a living transmission, not a performance

You don’t need to prove your light.
You don’t need to fix what isn’t yours.
You don’t need to be everything for everyone.

You are not here to carry the weight of the world.
You are here to light the path back home for those ready to walk.

Lead by being
Guide by embodiment
Create change by presence

This is the empowered empath’s way.

Much love Bella’s 🌹🌹🌹
Marnie Marnie Louise Ryan

23/07/2025

What Actually Supports a CPTSD Nervous System (When the Usual Advice Makes Things Worse)

If you’ve ever tried “healing tools” and ended up feeling worse, this is for you.

Because the truth is… when your nervous system is carrying the weight of complex trauma, some of the well-meaning advice out there can actually push you further into dysregulation.

Meditation might trigger more panic than peace.
Journaling might spiral into shame and over-analysis.
Breathwork might spike anxiety instead of calming it down.

You’re not doing it wrong. You’re not resisting healing.
Your body is protecting you, exactly as it was designed to.

This is where we need a softer approach.
Real regulation doesn’t start in the mind. It begins in the body, in micro-moments of safety that are repeated with tenderness.

Safety isn’t something you think your way into. It’s something you feel.
Sometimes it’s as simple as pausing to ask
Am I safe right now?
Placing your hand on your chest or cheek.
Letting your exhale fall like a soft sigh.
Looking around for something familiar, something warm.
These are safety signals. And they matter.

Let’s talk nourishment.
Food is more than fuel. It’s medicine for your nervous system.
Stable blood sugar brings a steadier mind.
Warm, soft foods offer comfort cues.
Magnesium from food or supplements can gently support repair.
You don’t need to eat perfectly.
Feeding yourself with presence is a powerful trauma intervention.

Movement doesn’t need to be intense to be effective.
High-intensity workouts can spike cortisol and leave you feeling worse.
Gentle walks, stretching, resistance bands, these support healing.
Your body isn’t lazy. It’s recovering.
Treat it like you would a wound that still needs care.

And your inner voice? It matters more than you think.
Speak to yourself like you’re scared, not failing.
You don’t need to be fixed, you need to be met.
Replace shame with curiosity.
Become a steady, kind presence for yourself again and again.
This is how your system begins to rewire.

CPTSD healing isn’t just about mindset. It’s full-body repair.
It’s not in your head. It’s in your system.
And it’s asking to be met from the body first.

If this speaks to something inside you, I invite you to slow down with me.

You’re welcome to book a 1:1 Zoom coaching session where we explore gentle, body-first ways to support your healing. I’ll meet you wherever you are, no pressure, just presence.

Drop a 🌹 below if this resonates, or message me directly to book your space. You are so worthy of feeling safe in your body again.

Much love Bella’s 🌹🌹🌹
Marnie Louise Ryan

22/07/2025

✨ Offerings from BellaNero Heart Space
Where soul meets body, and healing flows through the seen and unseen 🌿

Here’s a glimpse into how we can journey together:

🌹 Equine Partnered™ Mirror Sessions
Held with your horse or mine, these sessions invite you into deep energetic attunement and emotional reflection. Your horse becomes the mirror, revealing unconscious patterns, emotional blocks, and soul messages. A powerful experience for those seeking transformation through honest connection.

🌿 Equine Energy Healing & Connection Sessions
For those seeking to deepen their bond with their horse — physically, emotionally, or spiritually. These sessions support both horse and human, honouring the sacred mirror between you.

🌙 Reiki & Seichim Energy Healing
1:1 sessions (in-person or remote) for grounding, emotional release, nervous system recalibration and spiritual alignment. For humans ready to return to their body and their truth.

🪶 Intuitive Readings & Guidance
Channeled insight through cards, energy, and soul whispers. Ideal when you’re at a crossroads, or seeking clarity and connection with your own intuition.

🌀 Spiritual Support & Mentoring
For those navigating the void, transformation, or awakening, this is soft space-holding with real talk and real tools that build strength, self responsibility and acceptance. Gentle, guided, and always attuned to your energy.

🪽 Animal Communication
Hear what your animals are truly feeling. Connect with their emotional and energetic world, whether living or in spirit.

🌸 Personalised Healing Bundles
Combining energy work, intuitive insight, and gentle coaching — crafted to meet you exactly where you are. Each one is unique.

🌿 Group Retreats, Meditation Circles & Workshops
Whether it’s a soul-nourishing retreat of my design or a tailored gathering curated just for your group, these offerings bring together intention, stillness, and embodiment. Think sacred space meets pamper party for the soul ♥️
guided meditation, movement, breathwork, and energy flow in a group container. A beautiful option for birthdays, milestones, or soul sister gatherings.

Sessions are available in-person (Adelaide) or online, depending on the offering.
Pricing varies based on session type and depth to explore what’s right for you, simply reach out via DM or email.

Let’s find the thread that brings you home to yourself.

Much love Bellas 🌹🌹🌹
Marnie | BellaNero Heart Space 🦋

22/07/2025

22/07/2025

You are not separate from the cosmos. You are made of it ✨🌿💦🔥💨

Your body is not a machine to be pushed and punished. It is an instrument of energy, a sacred conductor of frequency, designed to feel, to sense, to radiate. You tend to your phone’s battery like it’s essential, yet your own charge, your own aliveness, so often gets left behind.

But you are electric
You are magnetic
You are woven from light, breath, memory and the pulse of the Earth

Your heart beats in rhythm with the tides. Your brain sparks with currents of light. Your cells hum with the same frequency found in the stars. This isn’t poetic fluff. It’s biology. It’s energy. It’s truth.

You want to heal
To feel clear, connected, whole
Then return to the source that made you

Let the sun kiss your skin before the world distracts you
Let your bare feet sink into soil that remembers who you are
Drink water that hasn’t forgotten the rivers it came from
Breathe deep and slow until your nervous system softens into trust

This is not self-care
This is sacred maintenance

Ascension was never about floating away from the body. It’s about descending fully into it
Heaven is not a destination. It’s a frequency
And when your body is charged, when your energy flows freely, when your nervous system feels safe, you don’t chase heaven
You become it ✨🦋✨

Much love Bella’s 🌹🌹🌹

21/07/2025

🐴 The Soul of the Horse 🐴
“To touch the soul of a horse is like holding the heartbeat of the Earth.”

There is something ancient and unspoken in the presence of a horse.
Their gaze reaches beyond the surface, into the soul of the one standing before them.
Horses don’t just respond to our words they respond to our energy, our intentions, and the shadows we try to hide.

The bond between horse and human is not just physical.
It’s vibrational.

They feel us.
They carry our grief, our joy, our fear, and our longing not to fix or absorb it, but to mirror it back to us with silent honesty and gentle power.
If we’re scattered, they show us what it means to be grounded.
If we’re holding tension, they’ll resist until we soften.
If our heart is open, they step in with trust.

This is why working with horses is some of the deepest soul work a person can do.
It’s not about dominance or training it’s about presence.
About being congruent.

When we commit to our own healing when we do the shadow work, clear stuck energy, and come home to our authentic selves our horses shift too.
They show up differently when we show up differently.
They relax when we stop pretending.
They connect when we get real.

Because they’re not fooled by masks.
They seek truth.

And that’s the beauty of this sacred bond.
It’s a mutual healing, a partnership of presence.
A reminder that the soul of the horse is not here to serve us, but to walk beside us, inviting us back to wholeness.

🩵 Here’s to the horses who guide us without words,
Who meet us in stillness,
And who show us the way home through the heart.

✨ If you feel the call to deepen your connection with your horse, explore energy work, or are navigating grief, emotion, or transition I offer gentle, intuitive sessions designed to support both you and your equine companion.

Let the soul of your horse speak.
Let’s listen together.

Much love Bella’s 🌹🌹🌹
Marnie

11/06/2025

This is a very interesting article, our beautiful horses show us so many signs and communication that is non verbal. The more we r can empower ourselves through education the deeper we can support their whole health and wellbeing ♥️♥️♥️

Standardbreds are often internalisers

This means their signs of anxiety will be more subtle than a thoroughbred for instance. We see a few key things around the yard that let us know the horse is mentally struggling. The two most common signs we see are chewing on their tongue’s/cheeks or the poo turns to water in a short period of time. There are no other outward signs like calling out, pawing, swinging side to side or kicking out at the rail. We do see all those signs as well but they aren’t as common due to the nature of being internalised.

What does being internalised mean for the horse? It means the horse has learned to mentally protect itself rather than outwardly show signs they may have been disciplined for or restricted to not show the unwanted behaviour. The problem is that once they learn to internalise their worries it can be really hard for people to spot.

Internalisers will shut down rather than respond to simple training questions and bringing them back into the space of learning can be difficult, not something you can fix with love and cuddles. We often see our Standardbreds with subtle outward signs of anxiety, perhaps a wide worried eye and within 10 mins sloppy poo. If your horses gut is falling apart when you bring him in for work, there is anxiety to work through. Horses get associated feelings with work and human interactions based on history you may not be aware of. Taking it slowly with your horse is so imperative to producing a calm healthy horse but also keeping them mentally present and that’s the tricky part. The quality of poo in horses is such an indicator of gut health and mental stability

The horse who produced the picture below only showed a wide worried eye. We went on a road ride and he continued to show subtle signs of not being ok but because of the nature of Standardbreds he got the job done with no major behavioural issues. As trainers we are trying to get the horses the experience they need all the while knowing to do the right thing by the horse it would be a two year process. Part of the curse for a standardbred is that they don’t say no when they should, we as their guardians need to read the subtle signs that they aren’t ok.

At the charity we have to get a job done and we love when people take the horses home and start the relationship from scratch. Become your horses safe space, break down their worries into smaller pieces, enjoy their company and don’t use them as a means to pump up your ego.

When I go to work I have a job to do
But with my personal horses at home, we go on the journey.

*I wrote this article 3 years ago when rehoming standardbred race horses was my full time job.

26/05/2025

Such an incredible post by The Holistic Horse SA well worth a read and is applicable to all situations with our horses and humans alike. Empathy is a gift ♥️♥️♥️

𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗪𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 ⛈️
𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘴..

Regardless of rain, wind or shine, our horses still need caring for. Both this morning and evening when letting my horses out into the paddock, I realised that all of them were handling the situation differently. Bentley and Gilly were quite calm and content, just trying to get their heads out the rain. Jeorge had one spook at a tree branch cracking, and then settled down to be led out. But my poor mare Fi was having a really really hard time.
I could tell she was trying her absolute hardest to hold herself together. Snorting, jig jogging next to me, moving around backwards and forwards.. yet the poor thing was still trying her best to self regulate by looking to me, licking and chewing, and staying out of my space. We got to the paddock and back in one piece, however this started quite a big train of thought for me.

Previously, this behaviour probably would have frustrated me, maybe even annoyed or angered me. Lack of understanding and education creates frustration. But all I felt this time was empathy, for the clear panic attack that she was trying to not let unfold in front of me.
& I realised, my priority was to try my best to be cool, calm and collected to help support her through some really big feelings.

Being flight animals, horses greatly rely on their senses to keep them safe. During stormy or windy weather, these senses must be extremely affected, causing many horses to likely feel quite unsafe.

One of the few things horses care about, is safety. If horses don’t feel safe, these can cause “unwanted” behaviours such as lack of focus, spooking, running over the top of their handler, sometimes even rearing and completely losing their marbles. This of course can scare us as handlers because then we fear our safety. In turn, we try to control more, add more pressure, more restraint. What is the last thing horses need in this moment..? More pressure and restraint.

And just a gentle reminder, that even when the severe weather has passed, it doesn’t not mean that your horse’s threshold has returned to normal. Their stress thresholds are likely still high, and they probably haven’t had a lot of sleep during this timeframe. I certainly know how irritable and unfocused I can be on zero sleep!

Training sessions in the days following should be handled with patience and care, focusing on lowering your horse’s threshold, and instilling a sense of safety back into their lives.

Some suggestions for training sessions may be:
- Focus on gentle yet clear boundaries, to instill relaxation, with lots of rest and reward time between questions.
- Start with groundwork before riding.
- Only ask questions you are confident your horse knows the answer to.
- Don’t try to teach anything new until your horse seems like their normal self.
- Focus on bonding, grooming or fun games/patterns.
- Don’t be reactive, be understanding that your horse may still be having a rough time.
- Fake it til you make it … sometimes pretending you have confidence and asking clear questions instills confidence in your horse, which then in fact actually makes you feel like you have control!

If you have any other tips and tricks that has helped you and your horse recover after a bout of severe weather, please comment below. Stay safe, warm and dry everyone and go give your ponies a big hug tomorrow! 🫶🏼