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📍 South Australian psychotherapist working with individuals, families & children
📚 Advanced certified schema therapist, healing the origins of your schemas
👁️ EMDR therapist helping you process trauma
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14/10/2025

Finding the right kind of support should be simple and flexible — that’s why I offer therapy in ways that suit your lifestyle.

I provide evidence-based psychotherapy for individuals, families, and children, available through two flexible modes of delivery:
1️⃣ Face-to-face sessions at my clinic within the Good Hub — a collaborative, holistic health space in Goodwood.
2️⃣ Telehealth sessions via secure video conferencing, phone, email, or online chat.

💡 Did you know? Research shows that online therapy can be just as effective as in-person sessions — it’s all about finding what helps you feel most supported and comfortable.

08/10/2025

Self-validation is at the heart of emotional freedom ✨

Self-validation is all about accepting and nurturing your own inner experience — learning to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings without judging them, analysing them, or wondering what others would think. Without self-validation, we can feel disconnected from ourselves; without that connection, responding to our emotions and needs becomes challenging. 💔

A maladaptive schema that blocks self-validation is 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗗𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, and the healing pathway is 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗩𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

Learning to validate your own feelings and needs is empowering. It allows you to stay connected to your heart, make choices aligned with your desires, and build healthier relationships with others.

When you practice self-validation, something shifts:
✨ You trust your own emotions more
✨ You respond to yourself with care and understanding
✨ Your relationships deepen as you bring your whole, authentic self

Claiming your ability to self-validate is essential if we want to maintain a healthy connection with ourselves, with others, and with life.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)

01/10/2025

What is the 'inner child'? 🌱

The inner child is the part of us that carries our earliest memories, feelings, and needs. It holds both our playful and creative side, as well as the wounds from times our needs for safety, love, or acceptance weren’t met.

When we connect with others, we begin to reconnect with ourselves — and give our inner child the care they’ve always needed. 💫

Healing begins in safe relationships, where we feel seen, understood, and valued. Through connection, we can:
✨ Re-learn safety in our nervous system
✨ Nurture the child within through 'reparenting'
✨ Rewrite old patterns of fear or shame

18/09/2025

🌪️ In dysfunctional families, survival often trumps truth.

When one person’s anger, volatility, or manipulation dominates the home, the whole family bends to keep the peace. Abuse gets minimised. Accountability is avoided. And the person who dares to speak up? They’re often labelled as 'the problem'. 🙅‍♀️

Appeasement becomes the family’s coping mechanism. The abuse is enabled because it feels safer than confronting it. And while it may calm the storm in the short term, this silencing leaves deep wounds that can echo across generations.

Those who speak the truth are never the problem; their courage challenges the denial that keeps the cycle going.

If this resonates with you, recognising these dynamics is the first step toward healing. Trauma therapy practices, including EMDR Therapy, help individuals recognise these patterns for what they are, break the cycle, and reclaim their voice. 💫

14/09/2025

As a therapist, I often see people pouring themselves out for everyone else—partners, children, colleagues, friends—until there’s nothing left for themselves. 🥴

But here’s the truth: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Your well-being is the foundation for everything else. Fill your cup first, and the overflow becomes your strength to give. 🤲

Take a few intentional minutes for yourself today. Whether it’s a quiet walk, journaling your thoughts, or simply breathing deeply for a moment, these little acts of self-care restore your balance.

What’s one small thing you enjoy doing for yourself? Share below 👇

10/09/2025

✨ My Credentials ✨

With over 25 years of experience in mental health, I bring a depth and breadth of expertise that is rare to find in a single practitioner.

👉 Advanced Certified Schema Therapist — accredited by the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST). I am one of a small group worldwide to hold this advanced certification.
👉 Certified EMDR Therapist — trained in Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing to support healing from trauma.
👉 Certified AutPlay Therapist — specialised in child-centred play therapy to support children and families.

If you’d like to learn more about my background and approach, click here: https://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/about/

04/09/2025

A busy work week can leave you feeling drained, stressed, or like you’re constantly behind. 🥴

But stress doesn’t mean you’re failing — it’s a signal that you care, that you’re showing up, and that you want to do your best. 💪

Sometimes we get caught up in deadlines, expectations, or self-imposed pressure, and forget that pausing doesn't mean you're giving up, but instead that you're allowing yourself space to reset.

Take a moment today to breathe, acknowledge your efforts, and treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. ✨

31/08/2025

Anyone with a punitiveness on self schema typically believes:
❌ I must be punished for my mistakes
❌ I don’t deserve kindness, compassion, or forgiveness
❌ Failure means I am bad, weak, or unworthy

People with this schema often carry an unconscious belief that they must constantly criticise or punish themselves in order to stay in control, avoid mistakes, or prove their worth. 😥 It’s a relentless inner judge that never allows rest or self-acceptance.

This usually stems from childhood environments where mistakes were met with criticism, harshness, or withdrawal of love. Over time, the message becomes: 'If I go easy on myself, I’ll fail or lose control—so I must always be hard on myself.' 🥴

Recognising this schema is the first step toward change! Through Schema Therapy—and with tools like EMDR Therapy—individuals can learn to replace harsh self-punishment with self-compassion, and begin to trust that growth comes from kindness, not cruelty.

“You don’t need to suffer to be worthy. You can be responsible and still be gentle with yourself.” 💫

~ Adapted from the principles of Schema Therapy developed by Dr Jeffrey Young.

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24/08/2025

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What people see on the surface is only a fraction of the story:
✅ promotions
✅ milestones
✅ breakthroughs

But underneath lies the unseen work:
💪 the risks you took
💪 the mistakes you made
💪 the setbacks you endured
💪 the emotional work that kept you going

What’s under the surface is just as important as what the world sees. 👀 In therapy, we dive below the surface, exploring the hidden layers — your patterns, fears, and experiences — so you can build real, lasting change. 🙌

15/08/2025

Worthiness is at the heart of connection ✨

Connection is all about building a close, loving relationship with your own heart — learning to tune in to your emotions, both painful and positive, and trust them. Without connection, we can feel distant from ourselves; without a close relationship with ourselves, true intimacy with others becomes hard to reach.

A maladaptive schema that blocks connection is 𝗗𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀/𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗲, and the healing pathway is 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.

Feeling worthy is essential for connecting with yourself and others. Worthiness means knowing you are good enough and deserving of love, respect, and genuine connection.

When we believe we have to earn our worth, we start comparing ourselves to others… and there will always be someone “more” in some way. That cycle erodes our connection to ourselves. 💔

But when you heal and embody your worthiness, something shifts:
✨ You value yourself more
✨ Others begin to reflect that value back
✨ Love and acceptance flow more freely

Claiming our inherent worthiness is essential if we want to maintain a healthy connection with ourselves, with others, and with life.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)

10/08/2025

As a psychotherapist, I often hear people speak about their mistakes with shame — believing their missteps define who they are.

If you've been shaped by deep-rooted patterns of shame, rejection, or fear, mistakes don’t just feel like isolated events; they feel like evidence.
❎ "I’m not good enough."
❎ "I always mess things up."
❎ "I’ll never get it right."

These are schemas — powerful, recurring emotional themes often formed in early life. And unless we work with them directly, they keep reinforcing the belief that we are our mistakes.

Every misstep has the potential to teach us something valuable — about our needs, our limits, our patterns, or our pain. When we carry them like a weight, they hold us back. But when we reflect, process, and grow, they form the ground we walk forward on. 🚶‍➡️

This is where Schema Therapy and EMDR Therapy come in.
🧠 Schema Therapy helps identify and heal these deep emotional patterns — the parts of you that carry old pain and learned self-blame.
⚡ EMDR Therapy targets the emotional intensity of painful memories, helping the nervous system process and release what still feels 'stuck'.

Does this resonate with you? Learn more about my services: https://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/services/

05/08/2025

𝗟𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲-𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴. 🤔

Saying yes, avoiding conflict, staying agreeable — people pleasing can feel like a way to protect yourself or earn love. But over time, it can leave you feeling exhausted, disconnected, and resentful.

Here are five common reasons it can develop:
🌿 Being naturally sensitive and attuned to others’ needs
🧠 Being taught (directly or indirectly) to put yourself last
😔 Having your emotions dismissed or shamed as a child
🤝 Feeling responsible for others' happiness
💔 Longing for acceptance after experiencing rejection

Are you tired of people-pleasing? Start by pausing before you say yes, checking in with your needs, and remembering that you don’t have to earn your worth by keeping everyone happy.

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Studio 7, 98-100 Goodwood Road, Goodwood
Adelaide, SA
5034

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 5pm
Tuesday	10am - 6pm
Wednesday	9am - 5pm
Thursday	10am - 6pm
Friday	7am - 3pm

Website

http://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/

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