Michelle Skurray - Healthy Mind, Body & Biz

31/07/2024

This lands between my personal eyeballs …I don’t think I’m alone in somehow expecting others to do, be, act, like I would and do in situations or within relationships… sometimes I think I must be a little challenged for not learning this lesson decades ago but rather being presented regularly with that moment of “ahhhhhhh that’s right they aren’t me?!” my expectations or unspoken beliefs of how people, life, should go down poked and challenged … we are all uniquely wired from our history, family of origin and genetics … so it makes sense … but also here’s another part to the story because I feel like we can go down rabbit holes of accepting and tolerating people and circumstances because we don’t want to hold them to any expectations and push down some things to at really matter … it’s ok to have them, to not would suggest a deep hole of unprocessed hurt is swimming the ocean bed… equally expectations that those in your world or even strangers should be like you is always always going to present a disconnect and disappointment because it is absolutely categorically not possible 🙃

07/05/2024

Addictions … fill a void, cover something up, numb out the pain … no one wakes up and thinks I have a great idea on how to blow up my life… I sat with someone who was a high functioning alcoholic in the corporate space … but it was catching up with their physical health …. I heard their story that gave me instant understanding of why alcohol had been their best friend of 20 + years and how they didn’t really want to give it up because they didn’t know life without it ….but they decided to swap it out for co***ne to lessen the impact on the liver …. Crazy right .. not really … makes sense to me … they didn’t know how to face their pain and weren’t ready to …we all have them … a lot are hidden and not easily recognized to the natural eye .. but anything that you end up not being able to do without or consumes your thoughts or is as consistent as brushing your teeth in your lifestyle and habits or feels good at the time but you pay the price after of regret, shame or physical impact or is what you are known for being by those around you which might sound fun and cute but ultimately holds the real information that doesn’t get told to the masses or that thing that just makes you happy and carefree for a time that becomes a more regular visitor … these things can begin to take on the atmosphere and ingredients of addiction …when you meet an addict who is walking out their addiction recovery we all need to sit down, listen, observe and honour because those people … are legit the people who are unsung heroes … it’s no joke to face pain, grief and our ugliest self and decide to do something with and about it …

20/11/2023

There are going to be days, moments, months even when you feel wobbly it’s just part of being human. Things, people, events, circumstances, life can often dictate an internal response that doesn’t feel fab and so what we often do is seek external validation, justification, soothing to make us feel better. Truth is that’s not ever going to create long term growth … nope … it’s an inside job to understand the why behind the what and to sort ourselves out … kindly, gently sometimes firmly 👊🏻

20/11/2023

It’s incredible how you don’t know someone but are consumed by their pain….even over dinner with friends last night I couldn’t help but randomly say “I cannot imagine what that family is living?” And the other family…both completely destroyed with different outcomes and paths but equally decimated. For the Stevens family there isn’t much worse than the road they are now traveling and I just pray that people are kind and educated by EQ in how to love and carry them… and for the other unknown family I pray the same to be honest… theirs will be unfortunately a road of human judgment and a judicial system that will make decisions but ultimately with all of that stripped away a family who have also lost their son in a different way…life can be unbearable for many … I don’t understand why but what I do understand is that we never ever ever know what is ahead so whatever we are doing in the now; love hard, be kind, say sorry, be generous, have faith, give hope, drop selfish and do unto others x x

22/07/2023