https://www.facebook.com/206075432581417/

Seeing Your Being, Adelaide (2025)

02/04/2024

Most people believe that if they get their outer world *just right*, then this will filter through to their inner world.

The outer world includes things like having enough money, the right material possessions, looks, or a particular status. It includes how another person talks to us, views us, or reacts to us. We resist anything that doesn’t align with our own personal beliefs - even down to things such as driving ("road rage") and standing in long queues. Our inner world can be upturned in an instant for a moment or usually longer. We find it hard to process. It feels personal. This isn't how things "should" be - right?

But what if it's never been about the outer world?

What if it's been about turning towards our inner world?

What if instead of getting caught up with fixing the outer world, we instead sat with those reactions and feelings and truly got to know and understand them... Even heal them?

What if by doing this, the outer world then starts becoming less chaotic, less triggering, and just a really lovely place to be authentically you in.

Observe with curiousity your inner world. Notice your reactions, your feelings, your beliefs, your patterns. The rest will unfold itself. There is truly nothing more liberating 💜

02/01/2024

PARENTAL SHAME CYCLE 💜

To me, these sayings instantly fill me with shame, regret, and unworthiness. I would love to enjoy every moment but it's just not possible. Enjoying every moment means overriding my needs, and it's very difficult to override ADHD and PDA (which is a demand avoidance that I'm slowly realising I have, too).

I wish the message to parents was instead to live authentically in the moment. We don’t need to say yes to every invite through fear of not making the most of each of the "precious moments". We instead need yes to whatever comes up for us in each moment. If your body or brain is tired, then acknowledge and model the self care we need to recover. It's okay to say no, it's okay to take time out to recharge. Our babies need to see this so they too know it's okay to do the same, it's okay to have needs and prioritise them. That a fear of time shouldn't be something we put more importance on over living authentically.

Everything belongs 💜

----

THE PARENTAL SHAME 💜

"Enjoy each moment with your babies,
You don't get this time back again."
I know these words mean well,
But they just riddle me with shame.

To me, this doesn’t represent,
How we should show up authentically.
To model when we are tired,
To take the time we need.

----

01/01/2024

CAN YOU RELATE? 💜

This was how I felt before separating from my ex. No matter how much love I received, compliments or actions, it never made me feel good. It felt like I was a fraud, and if anything made me feel more unworthy. How could I be loved when I was an empty shell? Why would someone love an empty shell? Why wasn't I grateful for the love?

I didn't realise at the time, but before being in a relationship I needed to firstly love myself first. I needed to find out where these feelings began so that I could heal (which ended up being some inner child healing). Without loving who I was, it is impossible to not only receive love but feel safe in it, too. I needed space and I needed solitude.

So my learnings from this is that space is just so important whilst in a relationship too. The space to maintain a relationship with who you are, to date yourself at the same time. Without this, the resentment and lost feeling creeps in quickly after the honeymoon period.

If you feel like the space will break you as a couple, then delve into why that is. Are you worried who you are or what you'll do without that person there? Do you dislike your own company? If so, then it sounds like you need to find a way to connect back to yourself as love shouldn't feel like a prison. Whatever your reason, there is something there that needs to be lovingly explored 💜

Relationships are a mirror of our inner world, the best compass to where we need to heal 💜

----

LOVE FRAUD

How can you love me?
Is it that hard for you to see?
The version that you "love",
Is not actually me.

I'm lost, I'm depressed,
I don't know who I am.
I'm nothing, I'm no-one,
You don’t understand.

----

31/12/2023

2023 MY YEAR OF HEALING FINISHING OFF WITH A HUGE DOLLOP OF VUNERABILITY 💜

I'm finally ready to come out of my retreat, where I've been understanding who I am at my very core but also have pulled back from many people. I'm ready to be more a part of the world and community. I'm ready to share my authentic voice.

If you're following from my old page after my post, hello 👋 you might feel discomfort reading some of the stuff, and if that's the case then that's amazing. You're challenging yourself intentionally or not 💜

Here's to another year of growth and life's magic ✨️

31/12/2023

FEMININE OPPRESSION 💜

After my chapter of processing childhood trauma, I've moved on to another type of trauma! Recently I have learned just how much there has been an oppression on women. It has been so eye-opening that the patriachy is still very much alive. I do not blame men, firstly because it is a collective issue that we all have played a role in & secondly when you blame another you're kind of suggesting it's their role to fix a problem you think they created, that you/we are still powerless.

We need to start by looking at the pressure girls are under, to be pleasing, look a certain way, & eventually become the property of your family. We also need to look at where society believes women are being treated fairly now, "equally". But instead of recognising a womans magical ancient beauty, we are instead being given the tools & opportunities to be more like a man, whilst continuing to be the woman. We are burning out.

Our feminine energy is intuition, empathy, nurturing, creativity, & interconnectedness. Men need this balance back too as the energies are inside of all of us just at a different balance. Women still need the masculine energies of logic & reason - just not as dominant as it currently is.

The power isn't to be given back to us. It is already there for us to step into. There is no battle. We just need to be our incredible natural selves, unapologetically. Learn how to love all of life unconditionally, laugh freely, dance, recognise your incredible body and sensuality, & be the natural medicine to life. Part of the process surfaces our boundaries, so it isn't as vunerable as it might seen.

Let's walk alongside each other 💜

----

You're the virgin or the w***e,
There is no in-between.
And we all know which one,
"Prince Charming" likes to see.

We grow up with the stories,
Where only gods and kings exist.
Women only become something,
Once they receive Prince Charming's kiss.

Our body’s aren't our own,
Theyre the property of another.
But sisters let me tell you,
There's a world for us to discover.

So it's time for us to look up,
To awaken and finally see.
That our wombs carry ancient secrets,
And it's we who sets us free.

----

31/12/2023

HAVE YOU RECOGNISED YOUR EGO 💜

The ego is the version of you that mostly surfaces when triggered / feeling emotional. When you feel vunerable it steps in and it isn't a pleasant experience but it feels so automatic that we don't realise this isn't who we truly are. Not many of us know it exists and that it is a protective version formed when a child to keep us safe. But we don't need it anymore, it is doing more harm than good and we can feel safe without it. But without the inner child healing, it's still there attached to it's role of protecting.

Noticing of your inner dialogue, along with being with the sensations in your body as you feel emotions, are amazing steps to dissolving this version. 💜

----

THE EGO 💜

Ah, I see you’ve met your ego,
It's the you that takes offence.
It reacts to life unconsciously,
It's the reason your life feels dense

But the ego no longer serves you,
It just doesn’t know that yet.
It's a protective layer formed long ago,
One that sees life as a threat.

----

30/12/2023

"HOW IS YOUR INNER CHILD?" 💜

The first question I will now ask on a date haha! Without this work or willingness to self reflect, you WILL subconsciously try and get your spouse to heal those invisible inner wounds. This is impossible to achieve, because only you can do that - you know your inner child best 💜

----

FIRST DATE 💜

It’s time to switch up life,
Starting with what we ask on our first dates.
Our question will then be answered,
Way before it becomes too late.

With curiosity we say,
“how is your inner child?
Have you acknowledged it’s there?
Or is self-reflection not your style?”

It wouldn’t be a surprise,
To be unaware of its existence.
For with it carries old wounds,
And so many have kept their distance.

But held within your inner child,
Are your internalised core beliefs.
These beliefs were created so long ago,
Based on how others met your needs.

Caregivers rarely got it perfect,
Living in a world of disconnect.
So the challenge presented to each of us,
Is to re-parent the needs that weren’t met.

If we do not take on to this inner work,
We remain lost and blame all others.
We enter into relationships,
Trying to fix wounds left by our mothers.

And so in order for us to be with another,
A promise should be made to this inner growth.
This promise is so very sacred,
More sacred than a marriage oath.

----

30/12/2023

HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY WITH YOUR THOUGHTS?💜

It is the most liberating and incredible realisation that your thoughts are not who you are. Have you ever paid attention to your thoughts in each situation? Are they kind to you? Visually imagine your thoughts as a person next to you and saying the words to you. How would you feel then? I hadn't realised just how critical I was to myself until I did this! If I couldn't see the best in me, then how could I expect others to?

Finding your heart as your guidance adds more to this incredible realisation.
Decisions no longer feel like decisions, you just know what to do by the feeling your body gives you. No more incessant thinking and criticising yourself, life just unfolds around you in beautiful ways.

Just realising this and noticing the quality of your thoughts is how the process begins to unfold (oh... and a little meditating and journalling wouldn't hurt too 🥰!)

----

I HAVE THIS FRIEND 💜

I have this friend,
I've known them since forever.
In fact, I can't actually remember,
A moment not spent together.

This friend tells me I'm unworthy,
That I'm always getting it wrong.
No matter what I say or do.
They will tell me I don't belong.

I can't teach this friend boundaries,
Or distance myself physically.
You see, this friend is actually my mind,
It's the me inside of me.

I know it's role is to keep me safe,
But this just feels extreme.
It's disconnecting me from others,
It stopping me from being seen.

But as I learn I'm not my mind,
That I am inside my heart.
My thoughts and feelings begin to soften,
And the attachment begins to part.

Now this friend has thanked me,
Explaining that they had never meant to drive.
They hand the keys over to my heart,
And my god do I feel so alive.

----

30/12/2023

IMAGINE IF WE HAD NO WORDS... 💜

Being autistic, I notice that there such an importance is placed on words to communicate. Whilst I am absolutely verbal and been known to enjoy a conversation, what has really surfaced to me is the disconnect between what people are saying with their words and then what they really mean by their body language. Then another layer to this, is that I believe many of us feel the energy of others. If what you're saying, doesn't match what your body is saying, and then also the way the energy feels is giving a conflicting vibe too - it can get so confusing.

I feel like if we really looked at each other (and it was totally not feeling weird to do so haha) then we would notice such beauty, and know each other so intimately and soulfully.

----

IF WE HAD NO WORDS 💜

Imagine if we had no words and we connected through our senses,
Would we soon discover that we humans are the gentlest?

Imagine if we had no words and we were drawn to look within,
Would we soon discover that is where we had always been?

Imagine if we had no words and thinking came to rest,
Would we soon discover that our hearts had always known best?

Imagine if we had no words and our true nature began to surface,
Would we soon discover just how incredible this earth is?

Imagine if we had no words and we were guided by our eyes,
Would we soon discover that our identities had been a disguise?

Imagine if we had no words and we were known by only our actions,
Would we soon discover that our words were just an adaption?
----

30/12/2023

DO YOU BELIEVE IN LABELS? 💜

As a late diagnosed Autistic ADHD woman, I have to say that I don't believe in labels too - but for a completely different reason! I just can't believe we have defined a version of 'normal'! But with 'normal' defined, we need those labels! I've heard "I don't believe in labels" in what feels to be a very negative way, many see it as an "excuse" to not keep up with society. They believe that all children should be treated the same, and actually yes I agree with this too but from a completely different angle. Everyone single one of us, children and adults, should be treated in a neuro-affirming way. This approach is so critical to someone who is neurodivergent, it is also an incredibly respectful way to be with any neurotype.

I love this quote from LR Knost: “It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.”

----

I DON'T BELIEVE IN LABELS 💜

Because it blows my mind how “normal”,
has been pathologised and defined.

Society's criteria of human,
Is an incredibly narrow view.
That to display too much or too little of anything,
Means there’s something wrong with you.

So you see without this label,
That for some reason you detest.
Defaulted onto us is an expectation,
To behave just like the rest.

For now we need those labels,
Without them we'd be crushed.
We’ve already learned the hard way,
Our needs are simply just too much.

----

30/12/2023

REALISING WE FEEL THE SAME💜

Many of our journeys we can feel so isolated and disconnected from others. The saying of being in a room full of people but still feeling lonely absolutely applies to this too. The first person we always need to reconnect back with is ourselves, and in time we realise how we are all experiencing the same as each other it just might present differently. When in the thick of it, it is hard to truly see that society's expectations has created the feeling that we aren't whole, children are put through continuous tests and scales during the years they need to be nurtured and validated as they are. Noticing this is a leap forward to our evolution 💜

----

A SECRET 💜

Can I let you in with a secret?
Nearly all of us are scared.
Most of us feel so unworthy.
We rarely feel prepared.

Our hearts have become shut off,
We no longer feel its warm glow.
We distract ourselves from our inner world,
Afraid of what it might show.

Over time we've created tests and scales,
To prove how we can't possibly be whole.
It feels so very crazy,
That finding flaws is how we roll.

So many of us have an inner world,
That has been ever so neglected.
We've sacrificed our authenticity,
To fit in and feel accepted.

We journey through our lives,
Living in disconnect.
Hoping that our next milestone,
Is when our needs will finally feel met.

----

30/12/2023

DO YOU FEEL YOUR INNER VOID? 💜

Most of us haven't yet realised that within us is our inner child, how we felt as a child is nearly always is brought forward to being an adult. When we become parents we either repeat the parenting we were shown, or we might avoid parenting the same so much that you do the complete opposite but that isn't always as healthy too. But without recognising it and healing, it really does follow you everywhere.

Take a moment to reflect on how you felt as a child and the patterns you've noticed you feel are repeating as an adult now. Maybe new perspectives will surface for you 💜

----

INNER VOID 💜

Can you sense your inner void?
It’s been there throughout your life.
Locked in there is your inner child,
The child who was unable to thrive.

Parented with good intentions,
They did the best they could.
But meeting needs was seldom,
And so we were rarely understood.

We grew up and became adults too,
Repeating what we had been shown.
So unaware of our inner child,
Feeling sad and all alone.

But on the surface we are happy,
“Hooray! We are finally a grown up!”
We believe we’ve unlocked a secret door,
We can’t believe our luck.

“Move over, my turn!
Being an adult is what I’ve longed to be!”
But little do we realise,
We got stuck developmentally.

Our words and actions are regurgitated,
Blindly repeating another's beliefs.
We live so untrue to our authentic self,
Turning outward for any relief.

To heal these hidden wounds,
We need to begin by making space.
We do the work to re-parent ourselves,
We look into our inner child’s face.

We listen, we validate,
We wipe their falling tears.
We lean into the pain and suffering,
We support them with their fears.

In time our wounds will heal,
As the past begins to integrate.
We being seeing our connectiveness,
And how to all beings we relate.

We become anchored in our essence,
Living true to our authentic selves.
We repair our mind and body,
Our tissues and our cells.

----

Seeing Your Being

02/04/2024

02/01/2024

01/01/2024

31/12/2023

31/12/2023

31/12/2023

30/12/2023

30/12/2023

30/12/2023

30/12/2023

30/12/2023

30/12/2023

Address

Website

Alerts

Shortcuts

Share

Category