A Space to Reflect

12/09/2025

Happy Friday folks!

05/09/2025

I love this image because it really captures what it can be like to feel visually stimulated and overwhelmed.

It shows us how life and the various demands that it places on us can be silently (or loudly) asking something from us. Often all at once and unrelentingly.

And often how complex and conflicting each one of these expectations can be even on their own - which can often carry a sense of intensity in the conflict (eg. I want to eat the cupcake but feel like I can’t/shouldn’t).

So what can we do with that now? I have some thoughts:

1) Recognise how you feel. By acknowledging your internal reality, you can feel empowered by thinking about it from a more removed place. Removed because it isn’t just taking you over and ruling you, but that the awareness of it gives you more of a sense of control and agency. What is more, by holding space for your authentic subjetivity, you can practice sitting with the feelings from a lens of acceptance and welcome. This can come with its own sense of release and unburden.

2) Try reflecting on why these expectations matter so much to you. Where it comes from - the need for them to be addressed in a particular way, at a particular time (or even at all). Sometimes we may inherit ways of being/doing that come from somewhere/someone else but may not necessarily align with how we’d prefer to live our lives. Is there a way to renegotiate this with yourself and set new expectations?

3) Once you’ve figured out what you feel comfortable doing, start with the most important parts and do little bits at a time in a way that aligns with your capacity at that time. Chip away at it in a way that feels manageable for you.

4) Don’t be afraid to ask for help or input from others. Sometimes you may even pay for these services if you can manage it, give yourself permission to allow this as a gift for yourself - in service of you. If you could do it yourself, you would. Work on releasing all expectations about how the other will take in on and allow their independence and autonomy. They might just surprise you (or not! And that’s ok).

5) Give yourself grace and hold space for yourself. Life can be hard and being hard on yourself is only going to make you feel worse. It might feel foreign to be kind to yourself and that’s ok. It takes practice.

Whatever your ResponsibilityLand looks like this weekend, I hope you travel gently with yourself.

Happy Friday folks.

15/08/2025

Before the day ends…happy Friday all.

29/05/2025

To sitting with uncertainty and embracing the unknown. Trusting in yourself and those around you to navigate through whatever life throws at you. Happy Friday folks 🌱

22/05/2025

New blog is out: “Exploring Attachment Styles and Their Influence on Relationships”. Have a read if you please 🙂

Also, happy Friday! Hope you find some meaningful moments of connection with yourself and others 🤝

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18/04/2025

New blog on the topic of Psychodynamic and Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy here in your backyard, Adelaide.

Hope you’re all finding moments of connection, rest, reflection and clarity in the little break away oasis. Be safe and take care. See you on the other side and Happy Friday!

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07/03/2025

Happy Friday and hope you’ve all got a meaningful and restful long weekend planned ahead. Looking forward to seeing you at our next therapy hour :)

06/02/2025

Phew, it’s stressful trying to earn these awards that don’t exist! And even if they were recognised by someone in your life, chances are they don’t feel as satisfying as you thought they might and the satisfaction you get might not be lasting.

It might be more meaningful to instead:

🌿 Recognise your every effort
🌿 Clebrate showing up when you can
🌿 Living intentionally - where your precious resources are spent on someone/something meaningful
🌿 Trying as best as you can - with the resources you have at the current moment.

Go gently in yourself.

And happy Friday!

31/01/2025

Here we are on this online forum, I hope your social media feed is being kind to you today. In thinking about being in this online space, and the various controversies surrounding social media at present, I’ve decided to put together a blog post on this very topic. Whilst social media has its many benefits, it certainly can do people harm too. You can take responsibility for your relationship with online spaces and remember that there is a big and beautiful world waiting for you outside, filled with people just like you who are wanting connection and understanding. Have a read.

https://www.aspacetoreflect.com.au/the-impact-of-social-media-on-mental-health/

Happy Friday!

24/01/2025

Just a heads up that A Space to Reflect will remain open on Monday’s where we will continue to foster meaningful conversations about what matters most to you. As always, I invite you to bring yourself as you are and to reflect where you are at in this big system within time and space. Whatever this day may bring for you, let’s keep the conversation going.